Leaving abusive mentally ill husband

I don't know why this myth that most men suffer with their mental health in silence has become mainstream because it isn't true - they make the women and children in their lives suffer with them

leave this man, op. go on benefits and get yourself into temporary accommodation if need be.

it really isn't as scary as staying with a bully who is making your lives hell.

best of luck, you deserve better xx

I’m so sorry to hear what you have endured.

Well done for getting out and leaving your abusive husband. You shouldn’t feel guilty - you haven’t done anything wrong.

You are entitled to live your life with respect and dignity and days out as you please.

I hope you know that the way he was treating you is NOT what Islam/Muslims are about. He is just one abusive man who happens to be Muslim.

I pray you and your children find the happiness you deserve.

It sounds harrowing. That man was your jailer not your partner, and you were right to leave him for your sake and that of your children. You are feeling guilt because you have empathy, which makes you a decent human being. At some point you surely had feelings for that man, and those feelings were valid. He abused them though - because abusers take advantage of other people's better nature. You have painted a terribly pathetic picture of him but he is not your problem anymore. He has a family. They should care for him. You owe him nothing.

You feel guilty because you have been conditioned by him. I’m sorry you weren’t able to get away sooner. I am also a revert if you would like to message me, Im happy to listen.

Every time you feel guilty about that, instead focus on the shitty childhood your children had as a result of him - and instead feel anger at him. You may also feel anger at yourself for not getting them away sooner, however I imagine easier said than done