Good friend totally blanking me wwyd?

I dont have advice but empathise completely. I am in a similar situation where a lifelong friend has just withdrawn from me. No warning. I suspect there is jealousy/resentment but not divorce related. I dont know what I can do. I am not a braggy person, I dont flaunt things. If anything I play things down.

People are so shit at times. I've reached out, is everything OK? Yes just busy is all I get back. Its so hurtful. Yes we are all busy. If you want to find time though you will. If someone means something to you, you will make it happen.

I would maybe speak to friend C. Friend A hasn't the monopoly on these friends and explain what's happened. Her going through a divorce and house not selling is nothing to do with you. You sound like a lovely person.

I think this might have more to do with you looking like the OW than you think, OP.

A friendship of mine from university mysteriously went downhill a few months after my DH and I bought our first home. I made the mistake of showing her the estate agent’s details, back in the days of paper details, just because I naively wanted to show her the picture.

We had done the same course at university, but she had deferred a year then enrolled immediately afterwards in a very expensive second degree, not completed that and dropped out. Throughout everything I had been supportive, but also worked 9-5 and then trained for a profession.

I think she suddenly became resentful that my life was moving forward. It was sad, because I enjoyed her company.

If as you said, you have zero capacity for drama then just be OK with dropping the friendship

Most of your responses seem to be trying g to justify what may be the cause is not your fault or fair on you.

You absolutely have the right to feel like this but cannot control how others react. This person has shown you who they are so you know what to do for a drama free life

She lived in a grander house and felt like Queen Bee, then her and H separated and they put their house on the market, the same time as you. Yours sold whilst she’s having to lower the price on her house and you’ve become the focus of her bitterness. Not only are you moving to a bigger house, you look similar to her stbxh’s gf. She’s comparing the direction her life is going compared to yours. You’ve done nothing wrong, you’ve messaged her offering your support but she can’t bare you, as she sees you living the life she should still have.
I would just say to friend B and C, that you’re being patient and wish the best for her and move on with your life. Don’t give it much thought because it doesn’t make sense to target you because her life is shit. Make new friends when you move and forget friend A.

Just enjoy your new house and let her get on with it. It's her problem to deal with.

Just leave it for a bit. She isn't jealous as such, she's sad and resentful that she's going through it and everyone else's life seems to be going swimmingly. Unfortunately that focus is on you because of the timings of your house sale. You couldn't or shouldn't have changed anything so don't make it about you. Just step back and let her come round eventually.

If I'm honest you seem a bit forensic about who is being nice to you and how her house sale is doing. Give her space. Your situations are directly contrasting. It's natural it's not making her feel great.

Give her space. My friend had awful time personally. Her texts got really nasty. I think in your case its jealousy. So I wouldnt reach out.. I lost that friend no regrets as felt she always put me down over the years

There are some people who always see comparisons. You have the slim woman who's unhappy when her friend loses weight, the woman who hates it when her colleague gets promoted, the single or unhappily-partnered woman who hates it when her friend is happily married. Is your friend the sort who was like this before?

Unfortunately this is probably the end of the friendship. You can leave your doors open just in case but don’t hold your breathe.

It must be incredibly stressful for her but she shouldn't take it out on you.

But if her house was so superior to yours, why wouldn't she think it would be snapped up well before yours? I don't like the sound of her at all! Were you selling for a lower price than she wanted?

Your life is currently going smoothly in ways that lend themselves to direct comparison with ways hers is not. That’s not your fault and it’s not something you should apologise for, but I don’t think it’s that difficult to understand why she might find it difficult being around you at the moment.

If it’s a friend you really care about I’d send a brief message saying you’re getting the impression she needs some space at the moment and you respect that, but you love her and you miss her and you’d be glad to hear from her when she’s ready. And then leave the ball in her court.

She can't possibly expect you to take your house off the market because she wants to sell hers. She could ask you for help and advice if she wants to present hers ready for selling but it's ludicrous if she thinks you shouldn't sell.

I went through similar with a friend. We actually both went through relationship break downs at the same time. Both long term, kids involved etc... initially we supported each other through it but as time went on my friend started to get really bitter about her situation. She seemed to resent me because in her mind I had it easier. Don't know why she thought that because it really wasn't true. I think because she was so unhappy in her own life she couldn't be happy for anyone else. And for some reason focused her unhappiness on me. I became her emotional punching bag.

We haven't talked in years. You can't be friends with someone who resents you. Especially when you've done nothing wrong.

I really can’t see what selling your house has to do with her situation? I think the friend saying about being more understanding is to just accept shes being a bit off now.

I can empathise with someone in that position but to be honest she needs all the friends she can get at this present time!

Shes not thinking straight but you don’t have to bear the brunt of it, and your other friends should be saying this to her too. Crack on with your moving. If she’s a real friend she will come round but for now..

Keep a low profile.

People are bloody weird sometimes!