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Friend having cosmetic surgery - why oh why ?

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bagpuss90 · 02/06/2025 15:23

My friend was so naturally pretty - I’d say actually stunning. I hadn’t seen her for a few months. We met up this weekend. I was shocked - she’s had cosmetic surgery and it frankly looks awful . She tells me she’s having more . She said her sister is dead against it but she thinks her sister is jealous as she can’t afford it herself. I’m with her sister It’s quite upset me - she just no way needed it. I hope her self esteem wasn’t so low that she felt this would help. I think she was upset because I didn’t comment on it - but I just couldn’t think of anything positive to say. It’s none of my business - I’m just concerned that’s all .

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Dodeedoo · 02/06/2025 15:58

Nothing to do with you

5128gap · 02/06/2025 15:47

What's she had done?

ShortyShorts · 02/06/2025 15:44

'Jealousy' is the first thing most people leap to as a defence mechanism.

It's understandable that you're worried but there's nothing you can (or should) do or say about it.

Well actually you can say what you like about it but then you'll be 'jealous' too.

VoltaireMittyDream · 02/06/2025 15:40

I guess it’s her face to do with what she likes, whatever you or her sister have to say about the matter.

People have all sorts of bodily interventions I don’t think look nice or suit them (in particular, septum piercings) but I keep my trap shut.

I agree that I also feel I dodged a bullet by being average-looking so that ageing hasn’t come as such a blow.

But when I get to 65 or so I’ll be having my droopy eyelids hoiked out of the way so that I can see out of my own face holes again. I’m grateful that’s an option for me!

CharlotteRumpling · 02/06/2025 15:35

Ignore. Though I would tell my sister or daughter.
Friends, no.

jljlj · 02/06/2025 15:32

She's a victim of our society's obsession with all women looking like they are a 21yo playboy bunny.

It must be very difficult for stunning people to age. People do treat you differently. Personally I'm on the wrong side of plain and therefore aging hasn't done my looks any harm at all.

You could either message her and tell her the truth (she probably won't speak to you again) or just ignore what's going on.

flossydog · 02/06/2025 15:30

Hopefully she goes somewhere safe and reputable, and doesn't fly off to Turkey...

CharlotteRumpling · 02/06/2025 15:28

Not much you can do.
The jealous thing is often trotted out.
I struggle to say anything positive either.