Friend having cosmetic surgery - why oh why ?

She's making a judgement. If she wasn't interfering, she wouldn't have started the thread. It's got nothing to do with her.

Agreed! Just an excuse for a bitchy thread unfortunately

I agree but it's a chance for women to take a dig at plastic surgery, by calling women deformed looking.

Talking of interfering...

😂

Personally I don’t care what anyone else does to their face. All I know is that I’m too vain to have mine touched. I really like my face and would never risk spoiling it.

In the case of the example I gave, she’s blinded by distaste. Along the lines of saying the woman was ‘glowing’ but then when she was told she had a nose job, suddenly she looks malformed. 🤣

But you’re right, in general it can be any number of things and opinions that make people think it’s ‘awful’. I don’t think OP’s friend will take well to any concern or ‘truths’, OP didn’t even know she was getting this done so I wouldn’t think it’s her place to get involved as they don’t seem close. Personally I’d just not get involved.

You can parrot until someone throws you a cracker but the OP still hasn't interfered by not commenting.

YANBU. I think a lot of the 'you just think it looks awful because you disapprove of it' brigade have it assbackwards. I don't think it looks awful because I disapprove of it. I disapprove of it because I think it looks awful! Then you get the 'you only notice the botched ones, the good ones just make you look like you, but better'. Um, no. If that were the case, Nicole Kidman, Kylie Jenner, and a whole host of other celebrities who have access to the very best would look absolutely amazing. Frankly, they don't. Kidman looks like Uncanny Valley and Jenner looks about 47. These are two examples of celebrities who haven't been 'botched' (so not like Katie Price or Leslie Ash when her lip filler went haywire) but they still don't look good imo.

OP is concerned for her friend. And quite rightly so. Nobody likes to see their friend make bad life choices.
Being concerned is totally different from being bitchy.

I’m very live and let live about these things however there was a STUNNING influencer that I followed who has gone over the top with Botox and it’s such a shame. It looks terrible and she has destroyed looks that most women would kill for. She’s early 30s.

You've gotta love sisterhood 🙄let's drag women down for their life choices and bitch about them while we are at it. All under the guise of friendship.

I sometimes feel that people who don’t like cosmetic surgery in general just never think it looks good. One of my friends has had a lot of Botox and filler done and she looks amazing, there’s another woman we know who’s vocal about how ‘awful’ it looks. But in reality it’s excellent work and she’s just blinded by her distaste.

It possibly does look amazing to you if you are a fan of cosmetic surgery.

I don't think someone who doesn't think it looks amazing is " blinded by her distaste". She probably thinks it's awful because for her, and many women, the way cosmetic surgery makes women look like clones of each other and look artificial and lacking in character and individuality is awful.

Yes terribly judgmental and starting a thread about it. I repeat, Interfering.

I know a 30 yr old girl, who has a tiny frame, tiny hips. Her false boobs make her totally out of proportion, she has recently had a trout pout, done, really I could cry. She was so beautiful, slim, now she is deformed.

I am not in the slighest bit against treatments or surgery. I have had a breast reduction and while I've done nothing to my face, I would consider something to help smooth lines under the right conditions. I have no need for a nose job, but I can absolutely understand why some women would want them.

I say all this to make it clear that I really don't thin the surgery or treatments are the problem.

However, the current trend for very obvious, very unnatural looking interventions are something I find extremely odd and I personally find them very unattractive. when I see women with lips that look like fish or breasts that look like basketballs, I just cannot understand WHY they do this to themselves.

Yanbu i hate it the majority of the time it's looks terrible and I just can't justify the risks of surgery. I think obviously if you have an actual deformity which you would get it on the nhs that's different or where your breasts are huge so your getting them reduced due to back problems but if your flying to Turkey for a boob job or a tummy tuck it's to risky and just not necessary. Someone I know died from a gastric band and it's such a pointless death she left behind her children it was awful

Yabu not to tell us what she had done tbh

How can we make an informed decision as to whether you were unreasonable, without such info

For example - huge lip fillers - nope. Botox - maybe

I really don’t get why people care, I don’t like blond hair or facial piercings but get others think they look nice.
so what if you think she looks worse and was stunning before, were you only her friend because you thought she was stunning?

One of my friends has had a lot of Botox and filler done and she looks amazing, there’s another woman we know who’s vocal about how ‘awful’ it looks. But in reality it’s excellent work and she’s just blinded by her distaste.

I think there's probably some truth in that.

But it also happens in reverse where someone looks visibly awful to a lot of people, but they themselves are blinded by their enthusiasm for it.

What has she had done and why does she look worse?
Is it like overfilled lips, extreme facelift giving a wind tunnel affect?
It is a shame if she seems to be getting addicted to cosmetic procedures. All you can do I say you don't feel she needs it and you worry it could be a sign of low self esteem to try and change a healthy body so much.
I hope she calms down with it!

I often think people can go too far, hello Katie Price but it's their life and their life only.

We can think things but unless invited to comment, definitely keep to yourself.

We just live our lives the best we can. If it makes her feel good, so be it.

So she had (very visible) surgery and didn’t tell you or it never came up in conversation beforehand or on the day? It sounds like maybe you’re not that close so I’d certainly keep my nose out.

I sometimes feel that people who don’t like cosmetic surgery in general just never think it looks good. One of my friends has had a lot of Botox and filler done and she looks amazing, there’s another woman we know who’s vocal about how ‘awful’ it looks. But in reality it’s excellent work and she’s just blinded by her distaste.

I think she was upset because I didn’t comment on it

Yes terribly interfering.

Another interfering friend.

The amount of work and fillers etc some women have i notice the men are aging better than the women now days.
I have a neighbour that was on ozempic and has fillers in her lips face forehead tanning bed 3 times a week huge brows damaged hair teeth so white they look blue.
And talk of getting her boobs done and a second nose job i say good for you so you should go spoil yourself.

What i want to say is for fuck sake you look awful all the things she is doing and has had done as aged her badly.
Shes 44 and looks 56.

As the penguins say smile and wave.