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Raising a formal complaint at school

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Ricecakesaremyjam · 02/06/2025 14:35

My sons school are acting unlawfully towards him and have been for some time. All attempts to ask the headteacher SENCO to do their legal duty by my son are brushed off. I am literally gaslit every time I speak to her.
I am about to raise a formal complaint to the governing body but I’m scared 😂 will the school hate me and my kids forever? I
know I need to do it and I’m being stupid but I have a horrible habit of second guessing myself! Thanks x

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TheodoraCrumpet · 02/06/2025 14:54

Make sure you read the school's policy for dealing with complaints first. It sounds as if you've gone through a lot of steps already, but the chair of governors might want to see evidence of this before looking at it on a formal basis. You don't want to give them any excuse for further delays and stonewalling.

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Ricecakesaremyjam · 02/06/2025 14:54

I have also spoken with IPSEA etc and all have confirmed the law is being broken

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Ricecakesaremyjam · 02/06/2025 14:53

Sorry that was lazy of me to not explain.
ok so summary is this, my 5yr old is autistic has an EHCP, been kept on a part time table of 2hrs since starting school in September, this is despite school receiving funding for a 1:1 for him in addition to EHCP funding, I accept they can’t meet his needs but my issue is they have never implemented alternative provision for him despite the local authority providing funding for it and it being requested many, many times.
it’s been months of my son missing education and the support he needs, I have asked and asked and just get fobbed off and gaslit. At what point do I escalate this? They are breaking the bloody law. I am trying to move him to a specialist school by the way but as with all SEN stuff, it is a lengthy process.

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PeanutCat1 · 02/06/2025 14:50

Would it be worth contacting Sendiass for advice?

Gotabadfeelingaboutthis · 02/06/2025 14:48

Noone can possibly give any sort of constructive advice based off that little detail, but honestly, complaints rarely end well because it damages the relationship with the school. If you really think they are behaving that awfully, I'd move him rather than go through the complaints process.

PennywisePoundFoolish · 02/06/2025 14:46

IME, school complaints rarely end well (4 DC with SEN) and do affect the home/school relationship. So that's not what you want to hear, but with hindsight I should have moved schools rather go through what we did.

I do hope your situation has a better outcome though.

Createausernameplease · 02/06/2025 14:37

Yabu for thinking we’re psychic and can help with that little detail

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 02/06/2025 14:36

Unlawfully how?

Doorvarnish · 02/06/2025 14:36

Devil in the detail op

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