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Raising a formal complaint at school

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Ricecakesaremyjam · 02/06/2025 14:35

My sons school are acting unlawfully towards him and have been for some time. All attempts to ask the headteacher SENCO to do their legal duty by my son are brushed off. I am literally gaslit every time I speak to her.
I am about to raise a formal complaint to the governing body but I’m scared 😂 will the school hate me and my kids forever? I
know I need to do it and I’m being stupid but I have a horrible habit of second guessing myself! Thanks x

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VibeCurator · 17/06/2025 10:08

x2boys · 16/06/2025 06:49

So basically the school are stealing your child's 1:1?
If your child wasent enrolled at the school the 1:1 wouldn't have a job as its funded via the EHCP?
I would be furious.

This is awful!

Madthings · 16/06/2025 18:48

1SillySossij · 16/06/2025 01:10

The 'alternative provision' still presumably requires staff, who will equally be at risk of being bitten.The provider doesn't know your DS is not carrying hepatitis or Aids. Unlike most injuries, biting involves the exchange of bodily fluids potentially putting staff at risk of serious disease, and their employing organisation at risk of litigation.

As someone who works in complex needs and has been bitten, ww are trained ti deal with this. Yet it broke the skin, I have had to had hep b vaccination snd blood tests etc. But I knew the risks that come with the job and I was in wrong place at wrong time. It was unfortunate. Generally these incidents dont happen because we support children appropriately, and when things go wrong we look to see what WE should/coukd have done differently to support the child so they dont get distressed.

There are all kinds of different provisions, if the mainstream cant support then local authority shpuld provide somewhere that can. As is often the case parents get batted from school to LA, each blaming the other, no one taking responsibility for providing education. Literally say in emergency ehcp review of my own child with county and school arguing over who shoukd fund AP. They are a nightmare even knowing right law and legislation to quote. Parents regularly have to go via LGO, tribunal etc. The system is a mess but children are entitled to an education.

Am glad you are now being offered AP and hope it works out.

Todaywasbetter · 16/06/2025 17:43

1SillySossij · 16/06/2025 01:10

The 'alternative provision' still presumably requires staff, who will equally be at risk of being bitten.The provider doesn't know your DS is not carrying hepatitis or Aids. Unlike most injuries, biting involves the exchange of bodily fluids potentially putting staff at risk of serious disease, and their employing organisation at risk of litigation.

honestly loads of children bite and draw blood through gloves. Litigation? thats jokes.

Ricecakesaremyjam · 16/06/2025 07:02

x2boys · 16/06/2025 06:49

So basically the school are stealing your child's 1:1?
If your child wasent enrolled at the school the 1:1 wouldn't have a job as its funded via the EHCP?
I would be furious.

I really, really am! As if it’s not bad enough they don’t allow him to attend school (while happily using his funding for anyone but him) education has also been witheld from him by not putting any AP in place. All that fighting for an EHCP etc, only to receive literally scraps of his own funding, really leaves a bitter taste in the mouth 😕

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x2boys · 16/06/2025 06:49

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 21:36

Yes he has a full time 1:1 but he is only allowed in school for 2hrs a day. The 1:1 therefore is used to support other children who are there full time without ehcps and 1:1s allocated to them….. I don’t doubt the school are stretched, but my son still needs and deserves an education 😕

So basically the school are stealing your child's 1:1?
If your child wasent enrolled at the school the 1:1 wouldn't have a job as its funded via the EHCP?
I would be furious.

x2boys · 16/06/2025 06:44

1SillySossij · 16/06/2025 01:10

The 'alternative provision' still presumably requires staff, who will equally be at risk of being bitten.The provider doesn't know your DS is not carrying hepatitis or Aids. Unlike most injuries, biting involves the exchange of bodily fluids potentially putting staff at risk of serious disease, and their employing organisation at risk of litigation.

I'm not sure whst the point of your post is really 🤔
But special schools generally are well geared up to deal with children with challenging behaviour
If you have nothing helpful to add other than your spiteful posts than maybe dont post anything ?

PennywisePoundFoolish · 16/06/2025 03:27

1SillySossij · 16/06/2025 01:10

The 'alternative provision' still presumably requires staff, who will equally be at risk of being bitten.The provider doesn't know your DS is not carrying hepatitis or Aids. Unlike most injuries, biting involves the exchange of bodily fluids potentially putting staff at risk of serious disease, and their employing organisation at risk of litigation.

I'm aware you're just being goady, but rest assured that there are many different kinds of alternative provision available, and some special in challenge behaviour. Quite likely in a more suitable environment with experienced staff there will be less behaviour that challenges.

And anyway, Stephen Morgan wants every child through the school gate so 🤷‍♀️

1SillySossij · 16/06/2025 01:10

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 20:15

If you read the thread before posting about a disabled 5yr old, you would see this thread is about arranging alternative provision for the time he isn’t in school and moving him to a specialist placement. Thanks for the insightful comment though

The 'alternative provision' still presumably requires staff, who will equally be at risk of being bitten.The provider doesn't know your DS is not carrying hepatitis or Aids. Unlike most injuries, biting involves the exchange of bodily fluids potentially putting staff at risk of serious disease, and their employing organisation at risk of litigation.

Bushmillsbabe · 15/06/2025 22:25

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 21:36

Yes he has a full time 1:1 but he is only allowed in school for 2hrs a day. The 1:1 therefore is used to support other children who are there full time without ehcps and 1:1s allocated to them….. I don’t doubt the school are stretched, but my son still needs and deserves an education 😕

Absolutely, every child does. I was just trying to give some context, as sometimes knowing the possible reasons behind a decision can make it easier to know how to challenge it.

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 21:36

Yes he has a full time 1:1 but he is only allowed in school for 2hrs a day. The 1:1 therefore is used to support other children who are there full time without ehcps and 1:1s allocated to them….. I don’t doubt the school are stretched, but my son still needs and deserves an education 😕

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Bushmillsbabe · 15/06/2025 21:16

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 18:06

@Bushmillsbabe yes he has an EHCP. He also arrived at school with top level of funding and the LA advised they would provide top up funding for AP if needed, hence why I can’t think of a legitimate barrier to ever having put it in place.

If he has top level of funding I presume this is around 25k and he has a full time 1:1? Who will be under contract to the school for at least this school year, possibly longer. And even if he goes to AP, the school still has to pay this person, plus the cost of the AP.

It's just really rubbish right now, children aren't getting what they need, schools are stretched to breaking point - as EHCP funding almost never funds the full cost of a child's provision, so they have to take money from elsewhere, and council budgets are massively overspent. I have no idea what the solution is, but I hope you figure this out for your son.

Hopefully it's helps your case that current school have said can't meet need, but it's not a 'done deal'. The school I am governor for currently has around 8 children on roll where it has stated cannot meet need, most of whom the school said couldnt meet need before even started, but council forced the school to take anyway, based on parental preference.

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 20:15

1SillySossij · 15/06/2025 19:30

Because he bites. Noone wants to come to work to be bitten!

If you read the thread before posting about a disabled 5yr old, you would see this thread is about arranging alternative provision for the time he isn’t in school and moving him to a specialist placement. Thanks for the insightful comment though

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perpetualplatespinning · 15/06/2025 19:46

Reversetail · 15/06/2025 19:37

you need to bring calling an emergency ehc review and putting a compliant into the la not just the school.

At least read OP’s posts. She has just had an AR. She doesn’t need to request an early review.

Reversetail · 15/06/2025 19:37

you need to bring calling an emergency ehc review and putting a compliant into the la not just the school.

PennywisePoundFoolish · 15/06/2025 19:35

1SillySossij · 15/06/2025 19:30

Because he bites. Noone wants to come to work to be bitten!

The OP is talking about arranging alternative provision, not at the school

x2boys · 15/06/2025 19:34

1SillySossij · 15/06/2025 19:30

Because he bites. Noone wants to come to work to be bitten!

Well that's good evidence he should be in a specialist school then isn't it like the Op wants?

1SillySossij · 15/06/2025 19:30

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 18:06

@Bushmillsbabe yes he has an EHCP. He also arrived at school with top level of funding and the LA advised they would provide top up funding for AP if needed, hence why I can’t think of a legitimate barrier to ever having put it in place.

Because he bites. Noone wants to come to work to be bitten!

PennywisePoundFoolish · 15/06/2025 19:29

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 19:26

What if a maintained CSCN school miles away says they could meet needs but I feel it’s wrong for him/that he wouldn’t have a similar peer group? Would I still have a chance at the school i want for him then?

Peer group is important. It really comes down to what is in Sections B and F of the EHCP, though.

perpetualplatespinning · 15/06/2025 19:28

Assuming the wholly independent school agrees to being named, if the LA doesn’t name your placement, you can appeal. Just because a school says it can meet needs, doesn’t mean SENDIST will agree.

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 19:26

What if a maintained CSCN school miles away says they could meet needs but I feel it’s wrong for him/that he wouldn’t have a similar peer group? Would I still have a chance at the school i want for him then?

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PennywisePoundFoolish · 15/06/2025 19:20

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 19:12

I honestly feel like it’s going to be impossible to get him into the school I want him to go to ☹️ that’s all I hear about getting a place at a specialist independent

I did have a tribunal to get DS3 into his first independent, but his mainstream primary was claiming they could meet needs. You don't have that barrier, so it's about the professional evidence and what placements are suitable for your DS. If none of the resource provisions and maintained specials are suitable, then it may not be as challenging as it seems.

But just push the LA and get advice from the likes of SOSSEN/IPSEA for your particular situation.

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 19:12

PennywisePoundFoolish · 15/06/2025 18:59

Thanks, it's frustrating but I've self-funded some AP and it's going well, so I'm working towards getting these providers agreed for his EOTIS package.

You're getting there, keep going and just focus on the LA, as the duty rests with them. Keep an eye on the timescales, again IPSEA is good for that

I honestly feel like it’s going to be impossible to get him into the school I want him to go to ☹️ that’s all I hear about getting a place at a specialist independent

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PennywisePoundFoolish · 15/06/2025 18:59

Ricecakesaremyjam · 15/06/2025 18:49

Oh wow, that’s crazy. I hope you get things sorted soon. It’s stressful isn’t it ☹️ sending solidarity x

Thanks, it's frustrating but I've self-funded some AP and it's going well, so I'm working towards getting these providers agreed for his EOTIS package.

You're getting there, keep going and just focus on the LA, as the duty rests with them. Keep an eye on the timescales, again IPSEA is good for that