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Ds echoes my voice when I answer him

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cheekyp · 02/06/2025 14:15

I have noticed this a lot lately ds will call and say something like how are you and I’ll say fine thank you or something and he’ll echo back to me fine thank you in a voice meant to sound like me.
I find this quite intimidating, is it meant to be?
It’s quite difficult to explain and the rest of the call may be ok but I do notice he echoes answers to questions back in a quiet inferior voice which I find really strange.
I don’t mean mimicking like a child might as he’s an adult and it’s more subtle like just repeating my answer quietly in my voice which makes me feel like it was a silly answer or something and I’m not sure how to react or if it’s meant to mock me.

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Cheffymcchef · 02/06/2025 14:44

cheekyp · 02/06/2025 14:41

I’m not going to ask him, he doesn’t do confrontations so he’d deny it or say he didn’t notice.

If you can’t be honest and open with him it’s probably not a good relationship

Blobbitymacblob · 02/06/2025 14:43

Is it something that he does on person, or just on the phone?

cheekyp · 02/06/2025 14:41

I’m not going to ask him, he doesn’t do confrontations so he’d deny it or say he didn’t notice.

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cheekyp · 02/06/2025 14:40

I think it just reminds me of when I met my ex’s dad who really didn’t like me and he had a habit of asking me questions and repeating what I replied and I found it quite intimidating especially knowing he didn’t like me and was deliberately trying to belittle me but I’m not sure ds is doing it to be nasty or maybe it makes him feel superior. He is autistic but he hasn’t always done this and I’m sure it’s deliberate.

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Cheffymcchef · 02/06/2025 14:29

Velvetbee · 02/06/2025 14:28

Is he autistic?

Hey now come on, not all us autistics do this.

OP he sounds weird and immature, but I wouldn’t necessarily say this is threatening. He is taking the piss though, which I wouldn’t like

ask him why he’s doing it rather than posting on here

Velvetbee · 02/06/2025 14:28

Is he autistic?

cheekyp · 02/06/2025 14:22

He’s 24

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Mightyhike · 02/06/2025 14:21

Have you tried asking him why he does that? It may be a strange habit or something he's doing without realising.

x2boys · 02/06/2025 14:20

How old is he?
It sounds like echolalia