Grown man at cinema on his own

Several adult people, to make it clear

Maybe I move in different circles but I know several people who enjoy animated films, me included

It's a shit analogy.

Women's spaces are only for women (biological ones)

The cinema doesn't have an upper age limit for films. Therefore anyone can go and see a children's film. Unless you're letting your young children run around the cinema naked, or leaving them unattended, they aren't at risk from another person watching the film.

Please don’t say OP was on phone with its glaringly bright screen while the film was on!

If I was the man, I’d be judging YOU

I don't think there's anything wrong with people being curious, wondering silently to themselves and maybe being a bit mindful and cautious of others in situations that don't sit right with them

I often walk my dog where I see kids with hoodies smoking. I am not judging them as bad kids. They may be lovely. But equally, I do form judgements about why they might be where they are, and keep my wits about me, just in case.

It's ok and actually quite sensible to be careful and to wonder about people.

I'd be a little cautious of this man if I had my children with me. He may be, probably in fact, is lovely and all is fine and he's there for innocent reasons. But it's protective and human instinct to question to yourself, something that doesn't feel right... And an adult man watching a kids movie by himself is quite unusual so it's ok to feel a bit weird about it.

The anti-trans people here are very angry. All of the time. It's exhausting to be so angry and care so much about something that doesn't affect them, so it's easy to see why they can't help themselves.

Not harming anyone.
Maybe he has one of those monthly passes and makes most of it.
Maybe a friend let him down
Maybe he's a loner and wants to be alone.
Many reasons.

As others have said, defending men is not something I make a habit of but for fuck sake. An adult man (or woman) going to see a film by himself is not and will never be deserving of any suspicion.

So what if it's a kids film? Unless we are talking paw patrol levels of shit, most kids films will appeal to adults as well because, y'know, normally adults have to take their kids to see them. Some of the best films ever made are classed as "kids" or "family" films, do you think that no adult should be allowed to watch them without an accompanying child?

It wasn't an analogy, it was bring something completely irrelevant into the thread in lieu of having any actual point.

He's only being judged because he's male. And that's grim.

He'd probably have liked to go last week but knew that people would think the worst of him being in a cinema full of kids at half term. I'm so glad to be female and not under constant suspicion.

I work in Animation storyboarding and keep up to date with the latest animated films as well as live action ones. On a rainy Saturday afternoon, I quite often go to the Cinema alone and not once have I thought anyone would consider it odd or thought I would be judged.

It is called an analogy. Look it up. I never said he was identifying as a woman.

I'm autistic, so my behaviour is sometimes considered to be a bit odd. Useful to know that would make people like you "guarded". Can I ask what the obvious reasons are though?

This has really upset me. A lot of people, myself included, have to do things by themselves, if we didn’t we wouldn’t do anything at all! The man might just have wanted to see the film or he might just have wanted to get out of the house but I don’t suppose that would have occurred to you!

Indeed. That poster also wins a prize for shoe-horning trans into a thread where it had no relevance whatsoever.

I know who's odd and it isn't the guy in the cinema.

Like I said earlier - he could have been an animator or in VFX / may have worked on film/ missed final screening or wanting to see how it looked. It’s very common.

I do think it's sad, and of course this man is entitled to go to the cinema on his own.

However, not very many adults like watching kids movies. Given our particular culture, men especially are unlikely to go to the cinema on their own to watch a kids movie. It's just how it is. While our culture remains thus, I think it's ok to question to yourself someone's motives. We all form judgements all the time and in this case, i think it is (sadly) ok to be wary and to wonder

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When I had a pass I saw everything cinema was just round the corner and it was an excuse to be out from a really tedious flat share where people hogged the kitchen and loaned about washing up so I’d hide out in the cinema for £10 a month. Unless he’s trying to engage with children I’d just leave him alone tbh.

He didn't plan it very well then waiting until after half term.

My DH doesn't like Disney but plenty of adults do, males included.

It makes me so sad for my sons that men can’t live their lives in peace without being judged as a threat.

Or he may have no learning disability and still enjoy it! I have a high IQ and I still love Looney Tunes and all kinds of things which are supposedly 'for kids'. To extrapolate that he is a paedophile from him watching a 'kids' film in a cinema is a new low even for this site.

I’m 36 and went to see the recent Snow White on my own, hope no one made a mumsnet post about that! Or is it just men who aren’t allowed?

This! Given the awfulness some of them are putting out there on a daily business, I think a man going to cinema alone is not the fight I want to have.

I have a monthly cinema pass and often go alone. I don't see lots of kids' films when I do, so I can't honestly say how unusual this is for that particular situation, but I do see a lot of people, women and men, there to see a film by themselves. If that's not acceptable for men we're really heading into a difficult place. Dodgy behaviour shouldn't be brushed over but we're way away from that at this point! Let the man watch his chosen film and leave him in peace.

I'll go against the grain and say I do find it odd.

Lilo and stitch isn't really an adults film. He may have a learning disability and being innocently enjoying it. Of course.

However, as someone that has worked professionally with men with child sex offence histories, seeing a lone male (assuming he has no additional needs) watching a kids movie by himself would make me question his motives.

Would your husbands or boyfriends enjoy watching lilo and stitch on their own? I doubt it.

Oh shit I've missed that

That might just be worse ye!