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Grown man at cinema on his own

816 replies

Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 14:03

Watching Lilo & Stitch..is this odd?

Here with Dd, only one other family here…and this guy, munching on snacks..watching Lilo & Stitch

Is it just me 😂

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Smoulderdash · 02/06/2025 17:28

Gettingbysomehow · 02/06/2025 17:22

What are you going to watch? Little kiddies film? If so yes I do think it's a bit weird. If I really wanted to watch something like that I'd wait until it was out online. Not weird if it's an adult movie or Marvel or something.

Yeah maybe. If it’s a film they’re bloody obsessed with (like the one on this thread) that I didn’t get to watch with them (cos they watched it with their dad) and I want to be able to actually have some idea of what it was like and can join in all their chitter chatter about it.. It’s sad I’d be judged for something like that.

ExercicenformedeZ · 02/06/2025 17:28

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 17:26

Sounds like an ideal time for what they may be after

What may they 'be after'? That makes no sense.

nomas · 02/06/2025 17:27

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 17:26

Sounds like an ideal time for what they may be after

What are they after?

JillMW · 02/06/2025 17:27

My husband once took my daughter and her friend. He dropped off to sleep. They took the opportunity to nip out and play in the foyer ( I know!! Yes they had asked to go!). He woke up when the lights came on to find all the seats around him empty whilst the rest of the cinema was full. I can imagine all the mums and nanas shuffling along the seats to move away from him 😂

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 17:26

SouthLondonMum22 · 02/06/2025 17:25

But again, surely if that was even the case, they'd pick a better time than 2pm on a school day? As OP said, hardly anyone was there.

Sounds like an ideal time for what they may be after

nomas · 02/06/2025 17:26

Gettingbysomehow · 02/06/2025 17:22

What are you going to watch? Little kiddies film? If so yes I do think it's a bit weird. If I really wanted to watch something like that I'd wait until it was out online. Not weird if it's an adult movie or Marvel or something.

It’s not a ‘little kiddies’ film 🙄

It might shock you to know that Disney and other animated movie makers spend a lot of time to make the movie enjoyable on several levels. There are jokes for kids and there are jokes that resonate more with adults.

If only kids should see the movie, you shouldn’t be in the cinema either. Wait til it comes on DVD and watch it with your ‘little kiddy’ on the sofa.

SapporoBaby · 02/06/2025 17:26

@Gettingbysomehowhow is it a little kiddies film? It’s Disney… and the original came out when people in their 30s were children. There are lots of adult fans of this specific film.

SapporoBaby · 02/06/2025 17:26

@Gettingbysomehowhow is it a little kiddies film? It’s Disney… and the original came out when people in their 30s were children. There are lots of adult fans of this specific film.

SouthLondonMum22 · 02/06/2025 17:25

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 17:15

The sex offenders that I can think of, that might have visited the cinema to watch lilo and stitch, would have been going to take advantage of the dark environment where they could busy themselves while watching the movie and kids enjoying it.

I'm aware most men aren't like this. But I've never met an adult man who I am aware of that has been to watch kids movies by himself for any reason other than an inappropriate one.

As I said though, my work history has skewed my opinion and so has my lack of friendships with men who would enjoy these things.

Edited

But again, surely if that was even the case, they'd pick a better time than 2pm on a school day? As OP said, hardly anyone was there.

CompleteOvaryAction · 02/06/2025 17:24

Yes, everyone knows that an adult man doing anything alone in public must be a paedophile.
Same as a woman on her own in a pub - definitely selling it (or asking for it).
🙄

Gettingbysomehow · 02/06/2025 17:22

Smoulderdash · 02/06/2025 14:19

@Littlebluecreature would you think it was weird if he was female?

I’m asking because I’m trying to pluck up the courage to go to the cinema solo (unsure which film..) following the recent breakdown of my marriage. Maybe I’ll be judged though?!

What are you going to watch? Little kiddies film? If so yes I do think it's a bit weird. If I really wanted to watch something like that I'd wait until it was out online. Not weird if it's an adult movie or Marvel or something.

Crole · 02/06/2025 17:22

Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 14:03

Watching Lilo & Stitch..is this odd?

Here with Dd, only one other family here…and this guy, munching on snacks..watching Lilo & Stitch

Is it just me 😂

I don't think the cinema is weird, a lot of people have a subscription so will watch any film. I do find lone men in swimming baths creepy though, especially on packed Saturday afternoons in the area where loads of kids are, just standing at the edge in the water watching what's going 😐

normanprice62 · 02/06/2025 17:22

I'm 37 and I saw it on my own and thoroughly enjoyed it. I couldn't care a less what anyone thinks. It's bizarre you would remotely care.

HRTQueen · 02/06/2025 17:22

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 17:15

The sex offenders that I can think of, that might have visited the cinema to watch lilo and stitch, would have been going to take advantage of the dark environment where they could busy themselves while watching the movie and kids enjoying it.

I'm aware most men aren't like this. But I've never met an adult man who I am aware of that has been to watch kids movies by himself for any reason other than an inappropriate one.

As I said though, my work history has skewed my opinion and so has my lack of friendships with men who would enjoy these things.

Edited

NameChangerPopstar same here

even if it is in their conditions to not visit places where young children will be (playground etc) they still do

SapporoBaby · 02/06/2025 17:21

God forbid a man wants to watch a recreation of a Disney classic - that could have been one of his or his kid’s childhood favourite - on an afternoon.

He’s at the cinema minding his own business not wanking behind the bushes. Are you always so judgemental and holier than thou?

MaryTheTurtle · 02/06/2025 17:21

Perhaps he has an annual card and wants to get his moneys worth, I saw Peter Rabbit by myself. Maybe he’s a film buff or he’s bored and wanted to get out or he just get like seeing it

HaddyAbrams · 02/06/2025 17:15

whitewineandsun · 02/06/2025 17:09

Unless you're letting your young children run around the cinema naked, or leaving them unattended, they aren't at risk from another person watching the film.

And if you're doing that, the man on his own in the cinema is not the problem.

Indeed!

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 17:15

Autie · 02/06/2025 17:12

The "must be a predator" people are very confusing. Of all the places for them to be planning nefarious things, going to a cinema where anyone moving around/talking is going to be very noticeable makes perfect sense(!)

The sex offenders that I can think of, that might have visited the cinema to watch lilo and stitch, would have been going to take advantage of the dark environment where they could busy themselves while watching the movie and kids enjoying it.

I'm aware most men aren't like this. But I've never met an adult man who I am aware of that has been to watch kids movies by himself for any reason other than an inappropriate one.

As I said though, my work history has skewed my opinion and so has my lack of friendships with men who would enjoy these things.

greengreyblue · 02/06/2025 17:15

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 17:12

Really? Do you know men that would enjoy going to watch a kids movie?

I don't know any adult men that I can think of who would enjoy going to watch a kids movie at the cinema on their own.

I have however, met several child sex offenders of the years who have enjoyed such things, as well as sitting in playparks by themself and going to places like trampoline parks on their own.

It is possibly just my social circle and my work history that has formed my opinion! But I'm surprised at how many posters seem to think that adult men going to watch kids movies is normal and they have friends that do it :)

I know of some men that wear cartoon ties and socks so maybe?

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 17:12

Abracadabra12345 · 02/06/2025 17:08

Maybe I move in different circles but I know several people who enjoy animated films, me included

Really? Do you know men that would enjoy going to watch a kids movie?

I don't know any adult men that I can think of who would enjoy going to watch a kids movie at the cinema on their own.

I have however, met several child sex offenders of the years who have enjoyed such things, as well as sitting in playparks by themself and going to places like trampoline parks on their own.

It is possibly just my social circle and my work history that has formed my opinion! But I'm surprised at how many posters seem to think that adult men going to watch kids movies is normal and they have friends that do it :)

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 02/06/2025 17:12

yabu girl, but I think you know

god i hate to have to defend a man

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Catsandcannedbeans · 02/06/2025 17:12

My dad has one of the cinema passes and sometimes he will just go to get out the house. Don’t think he’d watch Lilo and Stitch alone to be honest because he’s too old for the nostalgia of that, but if a remake of Chitty Chitty Bang Bang came out or something like that he would probably go if it was convenient. When I was at uni I had a cinema pass and I would go and see anything, from live operas to the Sonic movies.

Autie · 02/06/2025 17:12

TheSwarm · 02/06/2025 17:03

As others have said, defending men is not something I make a habit of but for fuck sake. An adult man (or woman) going to see a film by himself is not and will never be deserving of any suspicion.

So what if it's a kids film? Unless we are talking paw patrol levels of shit, most kids films will appeal to adults as well because, y'know, normally adults have to take their kids to see them. Some of the best films ever made are classed as "kids" or "family" films, do you think that no adult should be allowed to watch them without an accompanying child?

The "must be a predator" people are very confusing. Of all the places for them to be planning nefarious things, going to a cinema where anyone moving around/talking is going to be very noticeable makes perfect sense(!)

Lilactimes · 02/06/2025 17:11

mrSmeeandtinkerbell · 02/06/2025 17:01

I work in Animation storyboarding and keep up to date with the latest animated films as well as live action ones. On a rainy Saturday afternoon, I quite often go to the Cinema alone and not once have I thought anyone would consider it odd or thought I would be judged.

Exactly!! I said this earlier- twice!! 😅 - he may have been an animator/ worked on this film/ interested in its style/ looking at latest rendering techniques / who knows. Certainly lots of people who work in the industry go and view films for other reasons than simply the story. And often on their own - as they just go when they can fit it in around work.
(And for those who replied earlier saying it’s live action - it’s not really its supposed to look as real as possible - but it’s photorealistic CGI as opposed to traditional animation) x

whitewineandsun · 02/06/2025 17:09

Unless you're letting your young children run around the cinema naked, or leaving them unattended, they aren't at risk from another person watching the film.

And if you're doing that, the man on his own in the cinema is not the problem.