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Grown man at cinema on his own

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Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 14:03

Watching Lilo & Stitch..is this odd?

Here with Dd, only one other family here…and this guy, munching on snacks..watching Lilo & Stitch

Is it just me 😂

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JFDIYOLO · 03/06/2025 00:37

When we went to see the first Wonder Woman film, there was a lone man sat there a few rows down.

During the trailers after the lights went down, there was a rustling and a flurry of movement.

He was changing into his WonderWoman costume.

Annascaul · 03/06/2025 00:35

BDG007 · 03/06/2025 00:26

Most of the time I would agree but a grown man seeing a U rated film on his own is odd. It's worth of further investigation to see if he has a good reason for it.

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Wtf?!

DefundthePolice · 03/06/2025 00:34

What if this man is intellectually disabled and likes watching children’s films? Very presumptuous and frankly an insult to assume he is there to perve on children or similar.

ChessorBuckaroo · 03/06/2025 00:33

XenoBitch · 03/06/2025 00:00

Because everything is better on a big screen.

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Yes the experience is so much better.

Best example I can give is Jurassic Park. Was so lucky to see it in the cinema when it was released in '93 and the moment when the dinosaurs first appeared is the most awe inspiring thing I've ever seen on screen. It needed to be seen in the cinema to fully capture the enormity of it. Plus the booming sound for each dinosaur step. It was the closest thing possible to being transported back 65 million years. You felt they were near you. As the first film to have CGI no-one had ever seen dinosaurs as realistic as this, like we were watching an Attenborough documentary on living animals. It was breathtaking, and you had to see it in the cinema. Seen it multiple times on television since and of course once you've seen it the surprise element isn't there, but nor is the size of screen to truly show off these massive animals or the sound to capture their movements and roars. The cinema gives you a totally different experience.

BDG007 · 03/06/2025 00:26

DoctorRoseReturns · 03/06/2025 00:23

I think calling people "normal" based on the films they like at the cinema is pretty judgemental ...

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Most of the time I would agree but a grown man seeing a U rated film on his own is odd. It's worth of further investigation to see if he has a good reason for it.

DoctorRoseReturns · 03/06/2025 00:23

BDG007 · 03/06/2025 00:08

I think most normal men would feel a bit uncomfortable going to see a kids film on their own. (I'm a man)

I think calling people "normal" based on the films they like at the cinema is pretty judgemental ...

BDG007 · 03/06/2025 00:22

Dangermoo · 03/06/2025 00:19

Good job not all men are as insecure as you then.

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Nothing at all about being insecure, it's realising there are certain societal norms.

If a man went to a playground on his own because he liked going on the swings would you find that a bit strange?

DoctorRoseReturns · 03/06/2025 00:22

Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 23:40

EXACTLY this, thank you! I don’t understand Disney adults either

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What's not to understand?
They are adults. Who love Disney.

Dangermoo · 03/06/2025 00:19

BDG007 · 03/06/2025 00:08

I think most normal men would feel a bit uncomfortable going to see a kids film on their own. (I'm a man)

Good job not all men are as insecure as you then.

Dangermoo · 03/06/2025 00:16

BDG007 · 02/06/2025 23:59

It is a bit weird. Why didn't he just stream it or wait for it to come out on Amazon/Netflix.

Why should he!

BDG007 · 03/06/2025 00:08

I think most normal men would feel a bit uncomfortable going to see a kids film on their own. (I'm a man)

XenoBitch · 03/06/2025 00:03

BDG007 · 03/06/2025 00:01

Yeah but it is a bit weird

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How?
It does not matter anyway. We could all do with more joy in our lives, and a man enjoying an afternoon at the flicks is doing just that. Leave him be.

ButterBites · 03/06/2025 00:02

What is going on with the really nasty and judgmental threads that keep coming up on MN??!

Missj25 · 03/06/2025 00:01

Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 23:46

I’m very sorry, I honestly wasn’t doing it to be nasty, i’m really sorry it wasn’t my intention at all 😔

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OP wasn’t looking for people to laugh , she thought it was strange ..
As a rule, unless like your son with autism it is strange ! !

BDG007 · 03/06/2025 00:01

XenoBitch · 03/06/2025 00:00

Because everything is better on a big screen.

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Yeah but it is a bit weird

XenoBitch · 03/06/2025 00:00

BDG007 · 02/06/2025 23:59

It is a bit weird. Why didn't he just stream it or wait for it to come out on Amazon/Netflix.

Because everything is better on a big screen.

BDG007 · 02/06/2025 23:59

It is a bit weird. Why didn't he just stream it or wait for it to come out on Amazon/Netflix.

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Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 23:56

LemonOwl · 02/06/2025 23:21

I'm not just talking about my DH. I just don't know any men or women that go to the cinema to watch a kids film on their own. I have learnt something new today that it is a thing.

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Same x

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Missj25 · 02/06/2025 23:55

Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 14:14

Ok wasn’t trying to be awful at all, wasn’t judging him, feel bad now.
I love going to the cinema on my own, it was just the kids thing, that’s all

Hey OP
Stop feeling bad ..
Yeah , he might be perfectly normal & then again he may not ..
You’re a mother & so am I , & quite honestly, I do think it’s a bit weird , none of the grown men I know anyway , would be going to see a lilo & stitch movie on their own ..
I can’t believe all the posts on this that are calling you weird & judgy ! ..

grizzlyoldbear · 02/06/2025 23:47

I don’t think it necessarily makes someone a predator, i go to the cinema alone and love it

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Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 23:46

Coffeewithtwosugars · 02/06/2025 22:18

Alone. Adult. Happily sitting eating his snacks . Staying at the end to see if there is a post credit scene ….

…. sounds just like my adult autistic son, who is the kindest soul you would ever meet and loves to go to the cinema alone for some independence.

Made me want to cry to read this and think some people may be watching him and laughing.

He was doing nothing wrong and not affecting anyone, yet you thought it ok to start a thread about him and likely expected people to laugh along with you .

I have read your replies and can see you regret it now but please think before you pass judgement.

I’m very sorry, I honestly wasn’t doing it to be nasty, i’m really sorry it wasn’t my intention at all 😔

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Ajayo · 02/06/2025 23:44

Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 23:40

EXACTLY this, thank you! I don’t understand Disney adults either

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Of course you wouldn’t understand them 🙄

Pherian · 02/06/2025 23:41

Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 14:03

Watching Lilo & Stitch..is this odd?

Here with Dd, only one other family here…and this guy, munching on snacks..watching Lilo & Stitch

Is it just me 😂

Yeah it’s just you and maybe a handful of other judgmental busy bodies.

It’s a public place.

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Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 23:40

Supima · 02/06/2025 21:16

Years ago, with young children, I was genuinely stunned to see adults without kids at Disneyland Paris. I kept grumpily thinking ‘but Paris is just down the road. Who the fuck would want to squeeze into a bloody revolving teacup when the Louvre & steak frites with red wine are available?’ I had no idea at the time that adult Disney was a thing. I personally feel the same about adults voluntarily watching kids’ movies without kids. I didn’t think adults at Disney were paedophiles of course, I just thought it was incomprehensible to me. I don’t think the OP was planning to call the cops, she was just surprised. Whatever! I’m sure I like lots of things other people hate.

EXACTLY this, thank you! I don’t understand Disney adults either

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NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 23:38

DoctorRoseReturns · 02/06/2025 23:32

Lilo and Stitch is Disney. It's not primarily kids

It's also a remake of a 20 year old film, it had a certain level of nostalgia.

Cute characters aren't just in kids films. There are some definitely not kids films which have cute characters in.

Hunger Games is a 12.

Sonic, Super Mario, Minecraft are prime examples of things people think are for kids but have a huge adult fanbase...

And again just because YOU don't know anyone, plenty of people here DO know someone who would. It makes no difference to what YOU know (and I suspect you're wrong but the men you know wouldn't say because of your judgmental attitude)

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The poster asked specifically about our husbands and partners. So i responded about my husband.

I raised that no men I know would watch a kids movie at a cinema by themself, because I was being open about my stance and admitting my view is skewed by this and by my experiences working with sex offenders.

I'm not sure what I have said that is judgemental. Yes, I have said it's ok and normal to form judgements when we see something out of the ordinary. We all form judgements all the time. You are forming them about me right now.

Not sure of your point really.

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