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To think car ownership is out of control in the UK

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JacquesHarlow · 02/06/2025 13:27

I fully expect to get a vast majority of "YABU" comments, but here goes:

Firstly, before I get flamed - I am a woman, a car owner, and yes I have a driveway now (though didn't before). I am a car enthusiast in terms of the enjoyment I've got from driving and I don't have an issue with "cars" per se.

What I have an issue with is how ridiculous Britain's councils and governments are on car ownership. How cheap car ownership is. How anyone can distort the living environment around them with their choices.

Have you driven down a suburban street lately, or even an urban one?

Small and narrow Victorian streets with lines of cars packed on either side, and only room for one vehicle to drive down it. Why so many cars? The houses have been there for 150 years. Why now?

And because so many people (often fellow women, annoyingly) don't ever like reversing, you find yourself caught in the middle, having to reverse right back to the end of the street to start again.

School runs are chaos - so many cars, parking up in illegal or careless ways, purely to save a short distance walking.

And the size of cars! Absurdly large vehicles which then take up more road space on the kerbside. Yeah it is "legal" but in a decade where theoretically we want to get better as a country environmentally, most people do not give two fucks as long as their precious DCs are "safe" (you're just as safe in a NCAP 5* rated Yaris as you are in a Merc GLS, but try telling that to people where I live).

So this is the madness of today:

Cars are SO much bigger. And thanks to PCP they're cheaper - and this is why I see so many cars where I live ,and up north when I visit, and everywhere else. The PCP monthlies thing keys right into the British obsession of wanting to look and feel wealthy. Years ago a Golf or an Audi A3 would be considered posh for a family. But why would I buy a Golf when my monthly payments could get me into something BIGGER!

The one thing that isn't bigger, is the United Kingdom. I've seen councils in London paint "parking lines" half on the pavement so that people can park up on either side to let cars past. I've seen people in these Discoveries and Defenders mount kerbs at drop off time without a thought or care for who might be behind them or even aware of this being an issue.

And you can have 1 household in a street of 20 houses own 5 cars. You do the maths as to how much of the available parking is then taken away.

Why are people so aggressive and discourteous in their car ownership? What are we going to do about this?

Some of us remember 20 or 30 years ago when you could drive to another street and not have to face a x5 barrelling towards you, parked cars either side? With a tiny woman peering over the steering wheel refusing to reverse back into the space immediately behind her? But powering through so that you, in your little hatchback, have to reverse 10 car lengths to accommodate her ego and lack of driving skill?

Our city and town streets are not made for X5s, Discoveries, Range Rover Sports, and god knows what else, to be parked along the kerbside blocking out the light into tiny terraced houses.

How do we put a stop to this? I love the Japanese principle in certain cities where you have to name a parking space you own or have access to before you buy a car. Could this work here?

AIBU? How will we ever wean ourselves off this 'bigger is better, and every member of my family must have a car' mentality?

OP posts:
TY78910 · 02/06/2025 21:11

JacquesHarlow · 02/06/2025 20:45

Thanks @TY78910 for the typical snarky comment trying to discredit my experience because you, dear reader, happen to experience something else.

I don’t want to move to where you are. I doubt there’s a Third Space or a Megan’s there. I’m ok thanks.

Tbh yes it was snarky, but perhaps it’s because of the countless replies you have posted to others on this thread who have told you why they may need a bigger car and you tell them they’re wrong. You can be annoyed at the lack of parking space and congestion - that’s fine, that’s your experience. But to go around telling everyone that they don’t need big cars is absurd. How many large families are there? People who live with their elderly parents, multiple children? How many disabled that need space for wheelchairs. I don’t think you can easily pass the judgement of ‘they bought the car because the PCP was cheap’ by driving past a parked car.

Redpeach · 02/06/2025 21:01

And free public transport like in Luxembourg

Redpeach · 02/06/2025 20:57

More car share hire schemes like electric bike hire schemes would be a good start.

Runssometimes · 02/06/2025 20:52

MargaretThursday · 02/06/2025 16:58

It's not really the percentage used for, so much as to the length of each journey.

4% isn't ridiculously small.

There are 168 (24*7) hours in a week.
4% of 168 is 6.72 which is approximately 6hours 45 minutes.

For someone who only uses their car to commute, that is 10 journeys a week or 0.67 hours = 40 minutes per commute.

A lorry driver is only allowed to drive 90 hours over two weeks, which is 26% of the time. Admittedly 95% of those hours seem to be trying to overtake another lorry at 1mph faster on the motorway, but it is only just over 1/4 of the time.

Far better to look at the average length of journey per person. Lots of people will pop in the car for a 5 minutes school run/local shops. I suspect the sort of person that do4es that is in the car for far longer than your 4% commuter, but it's far less justifiable.

Well yes one of the issues is that people use cars for short journeys that could often be down by other means. Habit, no safe alternatives etc. Myriad of reasons. But obviously cars spend most of their time parked taking up space and cluttering streets which is such a waste of urban space, especially. If there were fewer cars and they were used more - by multiple people even it would be more efficient. Dunno how it would work but there must be a technological solution and then you just need the political will to make it happen.

JacquesHarlow · 02/06/2025 20:45

Thanks @TY78910 for the typical snarky comment trying to discredit my experience because you, dear reader, happen to experience something else.

I don’t want to move to where you are. I doubt there’s a Third Space or a Megan’s there. I’m ok thanks.

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TY78910 · 02/06/2025 20:33

Christ on a bike. Or in a car.

Driving has become more accessible. It’s not the Victorian times when all streets and houses were built for the life they were living, and cars were for the bourgeoisie. Society has moved on and even women (omg) can drive.

What we can’t do is dig up all of Britain and rebuild it. So we can only adapt it with these small changes you’re referencing. And aside from banning SUV+, what do you propose exactly? A banding system where you’re only allowed a car if you reeeeeeally need it?

Btw I have a small SUV and live in a part of England that is majorly new built and the roads are glorious. Modern roundabouts, plenty of space for parking and cars to fit through. Very nice traffic calming measures. I invite you to move here so you can drive and park your car in peace from all these horrible city people in their horrible cars.

crackofdoom · 02/06/2025 20:23

Helpmeplease2025 · 02/06/2025 19:58

this still wouldn’t get me out of my car. I’ve done my years of public transport

See, I just don't get this. Driving is stressful, you're always "on", it's often mega crowded and you're sitting in traffic, and then there's the stress of finding somewhere to park when you get there.

If the journey can be done by public transport I find it a massive relief. Time to go on my phone, read, watch the world go by...and when you get there you just walk off.

Skippydoodle · 02/06/2025 20:22

Very interesting post fo a Monday lunchtime. Either the liquid lunch was too much OR you need a very large glass of vino 💕

Papyrophile · 02/06/2025 20:18

We'll be sticking with the cars, at least until we relocate, and then we might try to manage with one if the local amenities two geriatrics need are within walking distance (which is what we're looking for). But for now we live in a small village with no shop and the nearest supermarket is four miles away; the other small town, where I prefer to shop, is seven miles in the other direction. There's rail service to the nearest biggish city from the village but the round trip costs more than petrol and parking while the bus service is limited and stops at about 6:00 pm.

Shatteredallthetimelately · 02/06/2025 20:14

Fluffyholeysocks · 02/06/2025 19:56

I've said it before, you're never going to get people out their cars until there is cheap, safe, reliable public transport. It's simple.

Also those living in bigger cities/towns need to remember not all public transport, mainly buses run until late in the evening in some areas, there are two bus companies that run buses where I used to live in the town and if they're short on drivers they'll just cancel certain routes without a thought for those that use/need the transport.

Where I live now there's 2 buses a day to run along side school pick up/drop off times.

Shatteredallthetimelately · 02/06/2025 20:03

CandelabraCat · 02/06/2025 19:42

”Not all CPZs limit the number of permits per household. I would limit it to 2 per household MAXIMUM, with a tapering effect so by 2030 it is 1 car per household.

Increase the costs for permits so that serial multiple car owners have to really think whether they want to pay £3k a year to park 5 random old bangers on a street”

Are you aware of the existence of house shares? 🤔🤔

This just pushes owners to park their non used vehicles out to other areas where permits aren't needed.

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Helpmeplease2025 · 02/06/2025 19:58

Fluffyholeysocks · 02/06/2025 19:56

I've said it before, you're never going to get people out their cars until there is cheap, safe, reliable public transport. It's simple.

this still wouldn’t get me out of my car. I’ve done my years of public transport

Fluffyholeysocks · 02/06/2025 19:56

I've said it before, you're never going to get people out their cars until there is cheap, safe, reliable public transport. It's simple.

Superhansrantowindsor · 02/06/2025 19:54

I would love to get rid of my car and use public transport but it is very unreliable where I live, expensive and infrequent.

LlynTegid · 02/06/2025 19:54

I would like anyone with an SUV to have to take their test in one. Smaller cars would be chosen. I think size of cars is the greater issue than number, though if motoring laws and standards were adequate and enforced, you'd take about a quarter of all driving licences away so the number of cars would reduce.

Setyoufree · 02/06/2025 19:49

Public transport is so appalling even within cities that even though my kids go to school a couple of miles away, I have to take them because the bus, which is timetabled to be half hourly, regularly just doesn't turn up leaving my kids in the dark and cold. I can't get the bus to the station so also need to drive the couple of miles to park there. Husband's office is cross country so no public transport.

I think just our one family's story pretty much sums it up. There's no public transport to speak of, and that's in a major city in the south east.

CandelabraCat · 02/06/2025 19:42

JacquesHarlow · 02/06/2025 13:40

Local councils to look at proper solutions (and NOT LTNs, which don't actually deal with the amount of ownership, but just funnel it elsewhere for those who loved lockdowns and like flower planters).

Some potential solutions:

  • Ensure CPZs in a 1 mile radius of any major town.
  • Not all CPZs limit the number of permits per household. I would limit it to 2 per household MAXIMUM, with a tapering effect so by 2030 it is 1 car per household.
  • Increase the costs for permits so that serial multiple car owners have to really think whether they want to pay £3k a year to park 5 random old bangers on a street
  • Surcharge for permits on any petrol or diesel vehicle over 1.5kg in weight. This would tax some of the 10 or 15 year old Discoveries and Range Rovers off the streets.

”Not all CPZs limit the number of permits per household. I would limit it to 2 per household MAXIMUM, with a tapering effect so by 2030 it is 1 car per household.

Increase the costs for permits so that serial multiple car owners have to really think whether they want to pay £3k a year to park 5 random old bangers on a street”

Are you aware of the existence of house shares? 🤔🤔

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 02/06/2025 19:39

minisoksmakehardwork · 02/06/2025 19:08

My take is that more people are living in multi generation households as they cannot afford a home. But they can and need to run a car for work.

This is true.

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 02/06/2025 19:37

So only people who have driveways can have cars?!

I drive in London occasionally and driving down streets of Victorian terraces isn’t a problem, it just means occasionally reversing.

I’d be all for a ban on owning massive cars in the city though. I think v few people have 5 cars so I don’t think you need to worry about that.

Shatteredallthetimelately · 02/06/2025 19:37

I'm talking about whether the amount of cars that are parked up in suburban and urban streets, can be supported long-term.

As I've said in a previous post about unregistered traders, firstly the authorities should rid the streets of these traders and all unregistered, untaxed, non MOT'ed vehicles.

Pickingmyselfup · 02/06/2025 19:36

As many people have said, car ownership has increased because more people are working further away from home, public transport to said workplace is non existent or hideously expensive, children living at home longer so they will also need a car to get to work meaning more cars in one household instead of less cars spread over more houses.

Cars are also bigger even when you discount the SUVs. Even a standard mini is a lot bigger than an old one used to be but nothing else has changed to accommodate this and it's getting harder to find older smaller cars that have the same safety rating, have space for car seats and are reliable and unlikely to break down.

It's not always as simple as "get a job/school closer to home or take public transport. A well paying career might be based in x area but housing costs aren't in your reach. You lose your job that's on your doorstep and just to keep a roof over your head you take one with an hour's drive.

When we were looking to buy we wanted to live closer to our workplaces but we couldn't get what we wanted for the money we had which meant moving somewhere else where we had to drive. My hours especially meant public transport just didn't run so even if I wanted to get the bus or something it wouldn't have been possible no matter where I lived since there was nothing surrounding it but a dual carriageway and a motorway. When I changed jobs to a different place on my doorstep my hours still meant driving was the safest option for a lone female as opposed to walking at midnight or later.

When I changed to school hours I still had to drive in order to get to work in time after dropping the kids off until I changed my hours and took a pay cut. Only possible because of the new hours suiting my workplace and being able to afford the drop in pay because my husband earns quite well.

That's just my example of why I needed a car to drive such short journeys, I'm certainly not unusual so it's no wonder there are more cars on the road.

picklyjuice · 02/06/2025 19:35

Redpeach · 02/06/2025 17:39

There are other ways to get to work

Maybe for you!

Shatteredallthetimelately · 02/06/2025 19:32

minisoksmakehardwork · 02/06/2025 19:08

My take is that more people are living in multi generation households as they cannot afford a home. But they can and need to run a car for work.

Not only multi generation but older DC, my DC both passed their driving test aged 17 and still lived at home, both needing cars to get to work/college.

There's also areas where multiple large housing developments are being built with little or no infrastructure in the way of transport links let alone schools, convenience shops, Dr's or dentists, for some a cars are essential.

CeciliaMars · 02/06/2025 19:30

How would 1 car per household work when both parents need a car to get to work because the public transport links are so terrible?
if your entire post was about how public transport needs to improve massively so we can all rely less on our cars, I’d be more with you.

Rewis · 02/06/2025 19:27

I hate how in the residential areas there aren't any streets where 2 cars fit the road and it's very stressful tucking in all the time. Honestly, a lot of the cars would fit their drives if they wanted. But it's easier to leave it. People also have too many cars when they don't need them (some do, some dont). But since public transportation is shit, it is so much easier to have several cars.