Is 46 too old for a baby?

Ditto

Def proceed with your remaining embryos or else what will happen to them

they defrost /die
use for medical science
donate to someone

it took 5 costly ivf to have my one and only bfp. She is now 8. I was almost 44 when ivf finally worked

When your child is 5, you will be over 50!
Chances are you not going to get pregnant anyway.

I say go for it, of course you don’t know what’s round the corner but no one does. Everyone who is saying that it will be awful for the child as you won’t have long with them etc etc.
My Mum had me at 30 and died at 38. Having children younger doesn’t mean you’ll be around to see them grow up.
What a child needs is to know they are loved unconditionally.

I’d say that’s quite old, more risks. I was geriatric having my second at 37. You’re looking at approx. 2 years TTC at that age. So by the time baby comes along if successful you’ll be almost 50. Also you never know what health concerns are round the corner. Can you put plans in place for someone else to take over care of your child should the worst happen? Those are the things I’d be thinking about.

Put things in God’s hands. Use no contraception and if it’s meant to be, it will happen. I’m mid 30’s and my mum had me at 43 and my brother at 47 naturally. I noticed all my life my parents being older but you know, we were more financially stable than other families which had a lot of benefits and I have had friends lose parents in their 50’s. You can’t predict the future, you could be ill. You could be the fittest person ever in your 90’s. Go for it!!! A child with happy soulmate parents would be a lucky child. Oh and I have no developmental or learning difficulties so people exaggerate the associated risk in my opinion. Family and friends ruined my mums pregnancy with me telling her the risks constantly.

Heading toward seventy when they are a teenager @Stompythedinosaur ? My DS was born when I was 45 and he's now 16. I am definitely not "heading to seventy", I am only 61!

My general advice is: if you are pregnant, go for it. If you are not, don't plan.
I had my youngest at 41, a surprise that I accepted with gratitude, but I have seen too many people who planned a baby after 40 and are bringing up children with serious health conditions.
I would adopt.

Why so? You have literally no idea about their circumstances. She could be rich with a massive family to help. Such a judgy comment.

I had my second at 42, other friend the same. Another one got pregnant at 45 naturally. Everyone's happy. Just don't hang around!

I think it's too old to have a baby, yes.

Even if you got pregnant right away (which is unlikely) you'd be 47 when you had the baby, so over 50 with a reception child, and heading towards seventy once they are a teenager. I'd question if you'd be on a position to give a child the care that's ideal for them at those ages.

what is your vitality age / not biological age. are you looking after yourselves so you can be around longer for your child?

I was 41 and 45 when I had my DC. Do what’s right for you. You’re better not asking on here because the posters who think it’s too old can be quite abrasive when expressing their views. It’s your life. Good luck

Everybody walks their own path in life. If you want kids, have kids. The oldest person in the UK to conceive naturally was 58 and people have had IVF older than that! Not saying that’s great but what I am saying is you do you. You can have illnesses or die at any age. Yes odds increase etc etc but so many defy all odds too. You will never know what your story will be unless you try but you can guarantee that your child will be loved and wanted, which is worth so much. There will be so many opinions of people would or wouldn’t and why but everyone makes their own decisions. I wouldn’t have wanted kids at 16 but I have friends who did and are fantastic mothers. I had 2 in my early 20s and then my 3rd at 37 and now just had my 4th just before my 45th birthday. 3 and 4 were surprises and 4th a definite shock but you know what I wouldn’t change a thing and am definitely up to being a good mother still, despite what my younger self would have said then about having kids in my 40s. There is no right answer just what you do. Good luck and I wish you well whatever you decide.

It is obvious that you didn't have a childhood like mine, as my major requirement in a husband and potential father was to be my age, and he is indeed 6 months younger than me.

Believe me when I say there is no 'snap judgement' in enduring over a decade of my father's terminal illness. The having to leave school to come home and make his lunch, the constant screaming as he was in so much pain, the ringing the Dr as my mum left me to it and I didn't know what to do, the ruined life because I failed my a-levels and the school didn't believe how bad things were because my mother never mentioned it. From age 6 or 7 to age 18. All because a silly woman thought she was grown up and sophisticated by allowing herself to be groomed by a bloke one step above a paedophile. So absolutely you're silly and the bloke who is with someone who is young enough to be his daughter is selfish. I hope that clarifies what most sensible people with a decent moral code are thinking.

A close friend had her first at 43, she had started TTC at 40 fell pregnant at 41 and lost the baby at 18 weeks due to chromosomal defects that hadn’t been picked up at the earlier scan.
She tried again and is a very happy mum of one, she is very financially stable and her little one gets the benefit of lots of clubs and activities, her parents have endless patience and love.
I had my first at 30 and last at 37 and energy wise I definitely noticed I was tired more with the last one (but that could be because I was also looking after the others)
There has been studies that show an increase in autism etc in older parents however our eldest has high functioning autism.
The increased likelihood of disability etc would dissuade me, however that’s easy for someone with 3 healthy children to say, if having a child has been your forever dream then you may regret not trying.

Too old, my partner's cousin had a baby kid 40's unexpected and has autism. Risks increase with age. I had mine at 21 and 28. Now 36, I definitely don't want more, too exhausting especially if you have to work and gave no family support network. Kids are 24/7. I am counting down to my 40's for some freedom.

If it feels right for you and it’s what you want, I’d say go for it.

Honestly, I think it’s too old and unfair on the child.

I know two 47 year old first time mums. They both had a one and only. I don't see the problem.

Hmmmmm I'm not sure.

I'm 38 and our 4th and final child is due in September.

My husband is 49 and although he's very fit and I consider myself extremely lucky to have met him, I'm acutely aware that my children might not have that long with him.

And that hurts my soul because they love him and he's a very good father.

And on top of that I'm not a spring chicken myself!

But I think in your position, being 46, childless and longing for a baby, I would definitely go for it!

No do it, but go straight to docs I'd say to let them know. I've just had a baby, 38 and husband is 48, it's our second. I'm so glad we decided to have another. Go for it x

Exactly this! "Just enjoy a child-free life" if you've ever desperately wanted a baby, but haven't been able to have one, you would never say this! My friend fell pregnant naturally at 45, to a little girl, who has no health problems. It can happen.

My friend had a baby at 45, I say go for it if it's what you both want!

Live in the moment and everyday as if it’s your last as someone once said to me in January.

43 y.o out of hospital after a serious operation according to A&E doctor but no answers why or how, I’d so hoped the periods would get the mandate from stressful serious surgery and be off. Nope woken up early hours of Saturday like a teen experiencing ovulation pain again with a period arriving nearly 3 weeks late.

Mother nature can be a cruel b—— but sometimes may smile down on us delivering what feels impossible hey. Won’t know until you at least try.