Is 46 too old for a baby?

My mum had my sister at age 46 and my sister is currently 15. She has a lot of resentment towards my parents for being older parents. Shes very sociable but won’t invite her friends over as she’s embarrassed of them seeing her older parents. She gets sad thinking into her future, say if she got married and had her own kids around 30 she worries her parents won’t be around to see. She talks regularly about being sad of having older parents.
Sadly I do think it’s a bit old. Enjoy an amazing child free, free life :)

It would be too old for me.
I think it would be unfair on the child tbh.

Honestly yes I think it's probably too old...but it's also your last chance and life doesn't always work out perfectly so i think it may be worth a try.

Why not look at fostering? Your longer life experience would maybe make you an even better candidate.

I've probably got a skewed view of it as dh and I had babies at a "sensible age" and then dh died when he was 47. A lot of people live to their 80s so you may have a lot longer with your kids than my kids had with their dad!

I also think it’s too old to start. Because I’d hate to be so old when they turn 18 etc. it’s not for me. If had both before I was 30, I got remarried at 40 and even then we were both very much no thanks . Only you know you though.

My opinion is, it is too old, particularly with the risk of learning difficulties. Relative should have been enjoying early retirement, instead she's cleaning shit off the walls. Extreme example though.

Yes, I think it's too old to start

It’s too old. Sorry. Much increased likelihood of health issues for the child, and for you. Menopause with a young child while working (and potentially factoring in elderly relatives issues too). Paying for Uni in your 60s. Why not have a lovely life with your lovely man and enjoy that.

i knew someone who had their second child at that age
i felt she was too selfish by then
but that might just be her!

Having had my youngest at about your age I found it easier than my first as I already was well practiced about broken nights, childhood illness etc.
Do you have nieces and nephews, close cousins etc nearby or other young families around.
Playing football with a nine year old isn't easy in your late fifties especially if you are both working

Well you can try. But I wouldn't hang about.

Yes.

I'd say that you need to think about things like are you in good health and can you maintain good health with a baby, as you'll be approaching 70 when the child is still in last year of uni for example.

Are you prepared to possibly have a child with potential additional needs (not a guarantee but a hard truth of having children older, I say this as someone who had a child older than planned and via ivf so stats were drummed into me)

I'm 37 and have a toddler, and found having a newborn and baby exhausting even though I was fit.

I'd also add that finding our soul mate is absolutely wonderful, I was lucky enough to meet mine at 23 though we didn't try for a family til we were 33 and then needed ivf at 35. As you know your whole life changes with a baby and you have far less time for eachother, you're a family not a couple and while you grow into it, things aren't the same when you had that freedom to just spend time with eachother in loved up bliss!

Is your partner younger than you?

I don't want to put you off but as a parent these have been my worries about approaching a second child at perhaps 39 which I know is younger than 46, but just sharing my own considerations from the pov of having had one child already so have a bit of insight into what it's like. But if you both really want to have a baby together and those things aren't a worry then honestly go for it, better to try than to regret not trying.

Aww congrats OP! Later life love can be especially sweet. I would go for it. I had my first at 44 and it’s wonderful. I’m definitely conscious of being an older mum- my partner is also older and we are very tired. That part is tough when you are both juggling jobs. We are also conscious that we need to stay healthy and fit for as long as possible for our son. But he is the absolute light of our lives and my plan is to embrace all his little friends and our extended family of cousins into our lives so he never feels alone and has a ton of people around to call family. I’d also say that longevity isn’t promised to any of us and people lose parents at very early ages. So go for it!! Good luck