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Cyclist gesticulating wildly at me

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FrankyGoesToBollywood · 02/06/2025 08:49

On the school run this morning which involves driving down a narrow winding lane which is always very busy at school run time. The lane is wide enough for two cars but it’s tight. There are three schools on this route and at school drop off and pick ups times it’s busy and congested. It’s 30mph. This morning I was driving along at about 25mph and a man dressed in serious looking cycling gear was cycling. I overtook him with quite a bit of space, definitely more than the 1.5m minimum, and as I was overtaking I could see a car coming towards me so nipped in in front of him- again definitely more than 1.5m from him. My windows were closed but I could then hear him shouting wildly “what the F was that!!” Over and over again and gesticulating. I didn’t indicate. I’m worried he will report me he was going wild, I genuinely thought I was driving quite considerately until I saw his reaction!

I’m now second guessing how close I was to him when I pulled in in front of him, and thinking he will report me and upload footage. If so how likely is it I will hear about it or be prosecuted?

OP posts:
rosemarble · 02/06/2025 15:43

Chiseltip · 02/06/2025 15:22

Why was your DH on a bike next to traffic?

We don't let children play on roads because roads are not playgrounds. If your DH had been driving he wouldn't have caused an accident.

What? Am I completely misunderstanding your point or do you not understand that cyclists and cars share the road?

PetiteBlondeDuBoulevardBrune · 02/06/2025 15:34

LordEmsworth · 02/06/2025 14:58

Can I just make sure I understand your point? All cyclists are dangerous, so they all deserve to be killed? Mandatory death sentences for anyone cycling in public? Gonna be honest, that sounds a bit extreme...

Of course not!
Sorry English is not my first language.
I was commenting that cyclists seem to express their annoyance at others (drivers, pedestrians) in a way that would make us think that they are themselves very respectful of the rules. Which is not the case.
I would even say that the only group (drivers/cyclists/pedestrians) I see disobeying the rules every single time I’m outside are the cyclists.

My point is that they seem to systematically and vocally complain about drivers and it seems that they just want make a point. Because of they were genuine about road safety, why would they themselves put others at risk so often?

wombat1a · 02/06/2025 15:26

Cyclist and driver here, 95% of close (scary) calls with cars are not from the actual overtake but from the car cutting back in front of me. It seems that car drivers can not understand that I am moving (and moving at probably 2/3's of their speed) and completely underestimate how long it takes for them to perform a safe overtake before coming back to the 'right' side of the road again.

I bet this is what happened OP and I hope he has a camera and I hope you get a fine and points cos it happens far far too often and it is really terrifying sometimes.

randomchap · 02/06/2025 15:25

Chiseltip · 02/06/2025 15:23

I'm not making up stats, the vast majority of cyclists are just playing a hobby.

What's your source for that 90% figure then?

Chiseltip · 02/06/2025 15:23

randomchap · 02/06/2025 15:22

You're making up stats and demonstrating a clearly irrational anger. Are you OK?

I'm not making up stats, the vast majority of cyclists are just playing a hobby.

Chiseltip · 02/06/2025 15:22

faerietales · 02/06/2025 15:19

DH was once knocked off his bike by someone “nipping in” after overtaking him in the wrong place - luckily he wasn’t badly injured but it really shook his confidence - the driver didn’t even stop.

Hopefully you’ve learnt a lesson from this and give other cyclists more space next time 😬

Why was your DH on a bike next to traffic?

We don't let children play on roads because roads are not playgrounds. If your DH had been driving he wouldn't have caused an accident.

randomchap · 02/06/2025 15:22

Chiseltip · 02/06/2025 15:18

90% of cyclists are lycra clad middle aged men pretending that they're in the Tour De France.

Almost nobody commutes by bike, and the guy in the OP's post wasn't commuting, he was just playing his little hobby.

You're making up stats and demonstrating a clearly irrational anger. Are you OK?

faerietales · 02/06/2025 15:19

DH was once knocked off his bike by someone “nipping in” after overtaking him in the wrong place - luckily he wasn’t badly injured but it really shook his confidence - the driver didn’t even stop.

Hopefully you’ve learnt a lesson from this and give other cyclists more space next time 😬

Chiseltip · 02/06/2025 15:18

randomchap · 02/06/2025 15:15

That's rather extreme.

Cycling can be for commuting, general travel etc. It's not a hobby

Maybe you should try it. Get an appreciation for the dangers they face from bad drivers

90% of cyclists are lycra clad middle aged men pretending that they're in the Tour De France.

Almost nobody commutes by bike, and the guy in the OP's post wasn't commuting, he was just playing his little hobby.

Chiseltip · 02/06/2025 15:16

rosemarble · 02/06/2025 14:05

Of course there are bad cyclists, but cyclists are much more vulnerable so a small mistake by a car driver may have a much larger impact on the cyclists (injury), than the car driver (scratched paintwork, sharp stop).
So more cyclists have taken it upon themselves to bring bad car drivers to account.
It's also much harder to track a cyclist down (from a dashcam) so car drivers are a bit stuck if they want to report or prosecute.

I am a cyclist and a car driver. I am in utter despair at times with the recklessness of some cyclists in Cambridge. No lights, no high viz, veering all over the place.

Why should car drivers have to worry about cyclists, if cyclists had half a brain they wouldn't play their hobby on public roads.

randomchap · 02/06/2025 15:15

Chiseltip · 02/06/2025 15:08

Cyclists are so bloody selfish, they choose to play their little hobby on a public road, creating a nuisance and inconveniencing others, then they get all upset when someone overtakes them, behaving in a threatening and abusive manner. We need to start reporting Cyclists for their behaviour.

I don't know of any other hobby that’s played on public roads.

Don't worry OP, I doubt the little man child you passed will report anything.

Cycling should be banned on public roads.

That's rather extreme.

Cycling can be for commuting, general travel etc. It's not a hobby

Maybe you should try it. Get an appreciation for the dangers they face from bad drivers

Chiseltip · 02/06/2025 15:12

Blackdow · 02/06/2025 14:03

Because cyclists don’t tend to be response for killing car drivers. Not saying they’ve never caused accidents, they have, but much less likely to kill someone. People driving like the OP kill or injure cyclists every day.

Pedestrians don't tend to be responsible for killing train passengers either, but they're still banned from walking along train tracks.

Chiseltip · 02/06/2025 15:08

Cyclists are so bloody selfish, they choose to play their little hobby on a public road, creating a nuisance and inconveniencing others, then they get all upset when someone overtakes them, behaving in a threatening and abusive manner. We need to start reporting Cyclists for their behaviour.

I don't know of any other hobby that’s played on public roads.

Don't worry OP, I doubt the little man child you passed will report anything.

Cycling should be banned on public roads.

Dangermoo · 02/06/2025 15:02

Flashahah · 02/06/2025 14:54

Yeah sums you up!

Much easier to be laid back than behave like a dog with a bone. This is clearly a wind up thread anyway and you've taken the bait.

Lassango · 02/06/2025 15:00

Flashahah · 02/06/2025 14:56

And then others back her up, to make her think she’s right, saying the cyclist was angry and moronic!

Worrying isn't it!

If cycling a few miles in rushhour was a mandatory part of a driving test we would probably cure some of these ignorant people.

Alas.

MyLimeGuide · 02/06/2025 14:59

Blackdow · 02/06/2025 14:10

You called a man you didn’t see or meet moronic. I won’t use that word due to the history of it. I think reacting like that to a story of a cyclists gesticulating shows you are angry and over react. Doesn’t sound like you simply move on.

The guy didn’t do anything wrong. OP put two cars and the cyclist at risk. And won’t even come back to hold her hands up and accept it.

She could be at work???

LordEmsworth · 02/06/2025 14:58

PetiteBlondeDuBoulevardBrune · 02/06/2025 11:27

Cyclists seem to love getting outraged at cars, almost as much as they love putting pedestrians in danger by cycling on the pavement and through red lights.

Can I just make sure I understand your point? All cyclists are dangerous, so they all deserve to be killed? Mandatory death sentences for anyone cycling in public? Gonna be honest, that sounds a bit extreme...

Flashahah · 02/06/2025 14:58

MyLimeGuide · 02/06/2025 14:58

Oh dear you aren't going to let that word go are you?!!!

Nope, I’m not!

MyLimeGuide · 02/06/2025 14:58

Flashahah · 02/06/2025 14:56

And then others back her up, to make her think she’s right, saying the cyclist was angry and moronic!

Oh dear you aren't going to let that word go are you?!!!

Tessasanderson · 02/06/2025 14:57

southerngirl10 · 02/06/2025 13:58

So many posts on here about bad car drivers. Some cyclists drive badly as well, you know. Car drivers don't seem to obsess about filming and complaining about cyclists driving badly as much as cyclists do.

You do realise the difference in the consequences between a bad driver and a bad cyclist dont you?

Flashahah · 02/06/2025 14:56

Lassango · 02/06/2025 14:53

So basically you carry out an overtake without the visibility to make it safely and write a post wondering why the cyslist was pissed off.

Unless you have cycled out on the roads then you have no comprehension of just how vulnerable cyclists are!

And then others back her up, to make her think she’s right, saying the cyclist was angry and moronic!

Flashahah · 02/06/2025 14:54

Dangermoo · 02/06/2025 14:47

CBA

Yeah sums you up!

Lassango · 02/06/2025 14:53

So basically you carry out an overtake without the visibility to make it safely and write a post wondering why the cyslist was pissed off.

Unless you have cycled out on the roads then you have no comprehension of just how vulnerable cyclists are!

Hibernatingtilspring · 02/06/2025 14:51

Guessing the OP isn't coming back, but if anyone has ridden at 25mph on a push bike, it feels very fast. It's a safe speed (it's actually safer to be moving with the flow of traffic if possible) but it would take time to stop.

Doing an emergency stop in a car would feel scary and uncomfortable, but rarely results in injury

Doing an emergency stop on a bike - which was a close call given the OP cut him up - usually results in going over the handlebars and a broken collarbone (one of the most painful bones to brake apparently)

If it's a winding narrow road and the cyclist was going 25mph I struggle to see the need to overtake in the first place, I can't imagine a car could/should be going much faster anyway?

rainbowunicorn · 02/06/2025 14:48

Agix · 02/06/2025 08:51

Unlikely. Cyclists like to have a go even when they don't have a leg to stand on. Absolutely baffling they'd decide to take their ride during the hours of the morning everyone's going to work or dropping kids off at school, if they're afraid of cars being close to them. I suppose he expected you to trawl behind him the whole way.

What do you find so baffling about a road user doing what they are allowed to do on the road? Do you realise that some people cycle to work? Lots of people do and they will wear proper cycling gear and change when they get there. Really nothing baffling about it.

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