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Cyclist gesticulating wildly at me

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FrankyGoesToBollywood · 02/06/2025 08:49

On the school run this morning which involves driving down a narrow winding lane which is always very busy at school run time. The lane is wide enough for two cars but it’s tight. There are three schools on this route and at school drop off and pick ups times it’s busy and congested. It’s 30mph. This morning I was driving along at about 25mph and a man dressed in serious looking cycling gear was cycling. I overtook him with quite a bit of space, definitely more than the 1.5m minimum, and as I was overtaking I could see a car coming towards me so nipped in in front of him- again definitely more than 1.5m from him. My windows were closed but I could then hear him shouting wildly “what the F was that!!” Over and over again and gesticulating. I didn’t indicate. I’m worried he will report me he was going wild, I genuinely thought I was driving quite considerately until I saw his reaction!

I’m now second guessing how close I was to him when I pulled in in front of him, and thinking he will report me and upload footage. If so how likely is it I will hear about it or be prosecuted?

OP posts:
Flashahah · 03/06/2025 10:48

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:40

Yes, it is a stupid decision. There are far safer means of transport. You could take a bus or drive there. You could use an Uber or a taxi or a ride share app.

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You’re on a wind up 😆😆😆😆🇮🇪

Mustbeme124 · 03/06/2025 10:47

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:40

Yes, it is a stupid decision. There are far safer means of transport. You could take a bus or drive there. You could use an Uber or a taxi or a ride share app.

Edited

Wow. Go back to your cave troll. Victim blaming at its finest. So it’s my fault and I should drive and add to the millions of other cars and pollution. Okay then. Sound advice. Just wait a minute while I type it on my invisible typewriter and file it in the bin

MemorableTrenchcoat · 03/06/2025 10:47

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:43

Which is exactly why people should drive the biggest and heaviest vehicles they can afford. Fortunately there are far fewer HGVs on the road compared to the number of passenger cars, so those sorts of collisions are rare.

Not everyone can afford to buy or operate a big, heavy vehicle. Did anyone criticise the family killed by Kroker for not owning a pair of SUVs? Lorry drivers must treat all other road users as comparatively vulnerable, and drive accordingly. Same goes for all motorists in relation to cyclists and horse riders. This is really basic stuff.

lochmaree · 03/06/2025 10:47

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:43

Which is exactly why people should drive the biggest and heaviest vehicles they can afford. Fortunately there are far fewer HGVs on the road compared to the number of passenger cars, so those sorts of collisions are rare.

SUVs are more likely to seriously injured or kill a pedestrian than a smaller vehicle

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:43

MemorableTrenchcoat · 03/06/2025 10:40

No amount of airbags and crumple zones will protect the occupants of a small car, or indeed most cars, in a high-speed collision with a lorry. There just isn't enough structure to absorb all that energy. For example, a lorry being driven by Tomasz Kroker struck a people carrier, which in turn struck a small hatchback, killing the occupants of both. The hatchback was compressed to a third of its length, despite having an entire car acting as an additional crumple zone between it and the lorry.

Which is exactly why people should drive the biggest and heaviest vehicles they can afford. Fortunately there are far fewer HGVs on the road compared to the number of passenger cars, so those sorts of collisions are rare.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 03/06/2025 10:40

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:25

They literally do, thats why cars have airbags and internal roll cages, to help protect the occupants. That's why people with kids drive big SUVs, to help protect the themselves in the event of a collision. That's why we have NCAP scores to help buyers decide on the safest vehicle.

Why do you think they stopped building vans with the engine under the front seats?

This is really basic stuff and if you're stupid enough to choose to drive a car which has no crumple zones or air bags, you are partly responsible for the injuries suffered in and collision.

No amount of airbags and crumple zones will protect the occupants of a small car, or indeed most cars, in a high-speed collision with a lorry. There just isn't enough structure to absorb all that energy. For example, a lorry being driven by Tomasz Kroker struck a people carrier, which in turn struck a small hatchback, killing the occupants of both. The hatchback was compressed to a third of its length, despite having an entire car acting as an additional crumple zone between it and the lorry.

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:40

Mustbeme124 · 03/06/2025 10:38

Okay, you’re right it’s my fault. How dare I expect to be able to cycle to work on the road and be safe. Stupid of me really.

Yes, it is a stupid decision. There are far safer means of transport. You could take a bus or drive there. You could use an Uber or a taxi or a ride share app.

Mustbeme124 · 03/06/2025 10:38

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:00

But you're making the stupid decision to put yourself in a position where several tonnes of steel are passing you at high speed and just a few feet from you.

Why would you make such a stupid decision and risk your life?

I'm sure a framed copy of the highway code, and the knowledge that " you were right", will make you feel better when you find yourself lying on the side of the road with a broken spine. Have a read up on bowel managment for people with spinal injuries and see if you think playing around on a bicycle next to traffic is really such a good idea.

Okay, you’re right it’s my fault. How dare I expect to be able to cycle to work on the road and be safe. Stupid of me really.

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:38

Redpeach · 03/06/2025 10:32

Unfortunately even pavements dont keep pedestrians safe from cars. Between 2012 and 2020, 99% of fatal collisions with pedestrians on pavements or verges involved motor vehicles

Well yes, I suppose there would have be a vehicle involved for there to be a collision. I don't think pedestrian on pedestrian "collisions" are recorded.

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:37

TheSwarm · 03/06/2025 10:28

Ok, I'll play along.

When I used to cycle to work I did it because:

It took around 20 minutes for me to cycle across town compared to about an hour in the car.
It was fun.
It was exercise.
It was free.

Statistically you are more likely to die from falling down your stairs than you are on a bike. I do hope you live in a bungalow.

Fun and free exercise could be done somewhere safer.

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:34

Redpeach · 03/06/2025 10:27

So wouldn't it make more sense to put restrictions on the vehicle doing the killing and maiming?

No, that's regressive.

Redpeach · 03/06/2025 10:32

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:19

Yes, that's why we don't let them walk down train tracks.

But at least pedestrians have pavements to walk down that keeps them away from traffic. Most of the 400 people you mention have walked out in front of the vehicle that hit them, rather than the vehicle mounting the pavement and hitting them.

But you are correct, if all those pedestrians had chosen to drive instead of walking, they wouldn't have been hit by a vehicle.

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Unfortunately even pavements dont keep pedestrians safe from cars. Between 2012 and 2020, 99% of fatal collisions with pedestrians on pavements or verges involved motor vehicles

TheSwarm · 03/06/2025 10:28

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:20

But you haven't actually my questions?

Ok, I'll play along.

When I used to cycle to work I did it because:

It took around 20 minutes for me to cycle across town compared to about an hour in the car.
It was fun.
It was exercise.
It was free.

Statistically you are more likely to die from falling down your stairs than you are on a bike. I do hope you live in a bungalow.

Redpeach · 03/06/2025 10:28

Just be nice to more vulnerable road usres, its really not hard

lochmaree · 03/06/2025 10:27

FrankyGoesToBollywood · 02/06/2025 21:30

Thank you for all the replies and sorry it’s taken me all day to respond!

Firstly we do live semi rurally- the lane I described has no footpaths and as mentioned is narrow- if someone is walking their dog on it and a car comes along they have to sink into the hedge so it’s not a route suitable for walking to school with a child. We also live three miles away and this is the nearest school.

I do accept on reflection I should have waited to overtake until I could see further ahead and wasn’t as near to a bend, but I’m not lying when I say I was considerate to the cyclist and felt I left plenty of room. Like I say it was definitely over the minimum, I’m not saying it was that amount exactly, but he was certainly never in danger of being hit by the car and nor did I slam on my brakes after passing him as some have suggested.

The reason I mentioned his clothing is because he seemed it me to be out for a hobby ride, not cycling to work, plus there’s nothing around there unless he’s a teacher at one of the schools! I know cyclists have the same rights to use roads as everyone else but you’d think people would exercise common sense and not choose to cycle on narrow country lanes when there are lots of cars trying to get to school for a specific time. I know I’ll be flamed for saying that but come on it’s common sense!

My husband is a cyclist and cycles to work as a teacher almost every day. He wears "serious cycling gear" because he is cycling.

Also the irony of car drivers getting mad at cyclists for using main roads so many of us try our best to avoid them. And yet car drivers now also get annoyed at us for using country lanes! Where are we meant to go?

It sounds like you scared him in some way, I think it's hard to know exactly how far away the back of your car was from him. I would just learn from it and give more space in future/overtake when you've got more visibility. Don't try and justify it by saying he shouldn't have been on the road at that time, he has exactly the same right as you to be on the road at any given time, regardless of his reasons for being out at that time.

Redpeach · 03/06/2025 10:27

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:19

Yes, that's why we don't let them walk down train tracks.

But at least pedestrians have pavements to walk down that keeps them away from traffic. Most of the 400 people you mention have walked out in front of the vehicle that hit them, rather than the vehicle mounting the pavement and hitting them.

But you are correct, if all those pedestrians had chosen to drive instead of walking, they wouldn't have been hit by a vehicle.

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So wouldn't it make more sense to put restrictions on the vehicle doing the killing and maiming?

Flashahah · 03/06/2025 10:25

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:19

Yes, that's why we don't let them walk down train tracks.

But at least pedestrians have pavements to walk down that keeps them away from traffic. Most of the 400 people you mention have walked out in front of the vehicle that hit them, rather than the vehicle mounting the pavement and hitting them.

But you are correct, if all those pedestrians had chosen to drive instead of walking, they wouldn't have been hit by a vehicle.

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No pavements on OPs road, the pedestrians jump in the bushes! Apparently!

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:25

MemorableTrenchcoat · 03/06/2025 10:13

Same goes for someone driving a small, older car, sharing roads with 44 tonne lorries. Should the two collide at speed, the occupants of the car can expect, at a minimum, serious injuries. No one tells the owners of such vehicles that they have no business being on the road; everyone understands they are legitimate road users. The same applies to cyclists, whether you like it or not.

They literally do, thats why cars have airbags and internal roll cages, to help protect the occupants. That's why people with kids drive big SUVs, to help protect the themselves in the event of a collision. That's why we have NCAP scores to help buyers decide on the safest vehicle.

Why do you think they stopped building vans with the engine under the front seats?

This is really basic stuff and if you're stupid enough to choose to drive a car which has no crumple zones or air bags, you are partly responsible for the injuries suffered in and collision.

Flashahah · 03/06/2025 10:24

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:20

But you haven't actually my questions?

Perhaps they don’t have a licence to drive a car…. 🤔

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:20

TheSwarm · 03/06/2025 10:11

This is so daft and backwards it's hard to know where to start.

But you haven't actually my questions?

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:19

Noodlewave · 03/06/2025 10:08

Why do pedestrians insist on doing something that literally endangers their life (~400 killed a year by cars, ~40 of them while on the pavement)? If they just took some responsibility and drove a car, they would be much safer.

Yes, that's why we don't let them walk down train tracks.

But at least pedestrians have pavements to walk down that keeps them away from traffic. Most of the 400 people you mention have walked out in front of the vehicle that hit them, rather than the vehicle mounting the pavement and hitting them.

But you are correct, if all those pedestrians had chosen to drive instead of walking, they wouldn't have been hit by a vehicle.

Middleagedstriker · 03/06/2025 10:14

Agix · 02/06/2025 08:51

Unlikely. Cyclists like to have a go even when they don't have a leg to stand on. Absolutely baffling they'd decide to take their ride during the hours of the morning everyone's going to work or dropping kids off at school, if they're afraid of cars being close to them. I suppose he expected you to trawl behind him the whole way.

Bollocks do they. I haven't cycled for years but I remember so well the feeling of almost being killed or hurt by a car. Car drivers and cyclists can both be twats but cyclists rarely kick off unless given good cause.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 03/06/2025 10:13

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:00

But you're making the stupid decision to put yourself in a position where several tonnes of steel are passing you at high speed and just a few feet from you.

Why would you make such a stupid decision and risk your life?

I'm sure a framed copy of the highway code, and the knowledge that " you were right", will make you feel better when you find yourself lying on the side of the road with a broken spine. Have a read up on bowel managment for people with spinal injuries and see if you think playing around on a bicycle next to traffic is really such a good idea.

Same goes for someone driving a small, older car, sharing roads with 44 tonne lorries. Should the two collide at speed, the occupants of the car can expect, at a minimum, serious injuries. No one tells the owners of such vehicles that they have no business being on the road; everyone understands they are legitimate road users. The same applies to cyclists, whether you like it or not.

TheSwarm · 03/06/2025 10:11

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:05

Why do cyclists insist on doing something that literally endangers their life?

What's the point?

If they just took some responsibility and drove a car, they would be much safer.

This is so daft and backwards it's hard to know where to start.

Redpeach · 03/06/2025 10:11

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 10:05

Why do cyclists insist on doing something that literally endangers their life?

What's the point?

If they just took some responsibility and drove a car, they would be much safer.

Thats a joke right?

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