Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Cyclist gesticulating wildly at me

339 replies

FrankyGoesToBollywood · 02/06/2025 08:49

On the school run this morning which involves driving down a narrow winding lane which is always very busy at school run time. The lane is wide enough for two cars but it’s tight. There are three schools on this route and at school drop off and pick ups times it’s busy and congested. It’s 30mph. This morning I was driving along at about 25mph and a man dressed in serious looking cycling gear was cycling. I overtook him with quite a bit of space, definitely more than the 1.5m minimum, and as I was overtaking I could see a car coming towards me so nipped in in front of him- again definitely more than 1.5m from him. My windows were closed but I could then hear him shouting wildly “what the F was that!!” Over and over again and gesticulating. I didn’t indicate. I’m worried he will report me he was going wild, I genuinely thought I was driving quite considerately until I saw his reaction!

I’m now second guessing how close I was to him when I pulled in in front of him, and thinking he will report me and upload footage. If so how likely is it I will hear about it or be prosecuted?

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
InterestedDad37 · 11/06/2025 13:01

As others have said, you cut him up without realising - learn from this and move on - but also remember, the cyclist was on a bike, you were in a big, heavy metal object moving at speed - one of those will come of worse in any collision.

dynamiccactus · 11/06/2025 12:47

he took an amazingly strong defensive position in the road. The only way to overtake him was to be fully in the opposite carriegeway

Which is exactly what you are meant to do when you overtake a cyclist. Bravo to him too.

dynamiccactus · 11/06/2025 12:47

Agix · 02/06/2025 08:51

Unlikely. Cyclists like to have a go even when they don't have a leg to stand on. Absolutely baffling they'd decide to take their ride during the hours of the morning everyone's going to work or dropping kids off at school, if they're afraid of cars being close to them. I suppose he expected you to trawl behind him the whole way.

I know he was in lycra but it doesn't mean he wasn't commuting.

(I agree with you on Sundays when they block up the roads to people who might actually be trying to get to work or eg visit an elderly relative).

OP in future you need to brake and pull back in behind the cyclist!

Tessasanderson · 11/06/2025 12:32

I thought of this thread this morning on my way to work. Lad in his 20's cycling along with a fishing rod sticking out the rucksack on his bike. Strange sight but nothing too bad.

What made me think of this thread was that he took an amazingly strong defensive position in the road. The only way to overtake him was to be fully in the opposite carriegeway. Its quite a long consistent downhill and he was maintaining 20mph all the way with a line of cars behind him. The car directly behind him made no attempt to overtake and i was very chilled sitting further back.

The point of the post. Hats off to this young man for positioning himself in a way that made it impossible for lunatics to try to squeeze past. Hats off to the lady who sat behind him for 5 mins making no attempt to overtake. Hats off to me for not giving a hoot about the 2-3 mins this cost me in time.

Life is too valuable to be putting it at risk for such things as 2-3 mins of your time.

OneTC · 10/06/2025 15:20

It's unlikely it'll go anywhere and that's a shame, you sound like you'd benefit from a course

INeedAName1 · 10/06/2025 15:03

Chiseltip · 02/06/2025 15:08

Cyclists are so bloody selfish, they choose to play their little hobby on a public road, creating a nuisance and inconveniencing others, then they get all upset when someone overtakes them, behaving in a threatening and abusive manner. We need to start reporting Cyclists for their behaviour.

I don't know of any other hobby that’s played on public roads.

Don't worry OP, I doubt the little man child you passed will report anything.

Cycling should be banned on public roads.

Here I was thinking that the busyness of motherhood meant I no longer had hobbies. Good to know that the school run I cycle with my young children is a hobby. Does cycling to the supermarket or the doctor count as a separate hobby or the same one?

MarioLink · 10/06/2025 14:34

You overtook him when you couldn't be sure the road was clear then pulled back in suddenly and close to him. He is a more vulnerable road user and was scared and angry at your dangerous overtaking. I am a driver who waits behind cyclists till itbis safe to pass and last week was cycle proficient my kid's school so we rode to school and work for a week and bloody he'll it was terrifying. For every one considerate driver there was one like you and isn't fair that it is unsafe for my child to cycle to school.

Redpeach · 10/06/2025 14:32

INeedAName1 · 10/06/2025 14:28

It sounds like you overtook him in a way that frightened him.

If he had a camera, I expect he will report the footage to the police. If the footage shows you driving safely, the police won't prosecute. They will only prosecute if the footage shows that you were driving in a careless or dangerous manner.

I cycle to school with my primary school children on a road that sounds similar (I'm only on it for about 45 seconds but it is narrow and winding and full of blind bends) and often send footage to the police of drivers that overtake us too closely or overtake on a blind bend, resulting in near-collisions with oncoming motor traffic. The close passes usually result in 3 points and a fine for the driver but the blind bend overtakes get quite a bit more (one recent one got 5 points and £1000 fine).

When I am driving a car, I will only overtake a cyclist if there are no blind bends and I can see that the opposite lane is clear as I always use the full oncoming lane to overtake a cyclist. There are very few roads in the UK where it is possible to overtake a cyclist legally without using part of the oncoming lane, so there is nothing to be lost by using the full oncoming lane (and a lot of safety to be gained). A general rule of thumb to follow is that if the cyclist hits a pothole (plentiful in this country) and is suddenly left laying on the road sideways, would you still be giving him enough space? If I'm going to be making a turn in the next 400m or so while driving, I don't bother overtaking a cyclist at all -- it just isn't worth the risk and won't save anyone a meaningful amount of time.

I wish I didn't have to run a camera on my bike (or spend chunks of time cropping video and filling in police forms). But I do it because reporting my near miss might save someone else's life.

Ah the reasoned voice of a driver and a cyclist

INeedAName1 · 10/06/2025 14:28

It sounds like you overtook him in a way that frightened him.

If he had a camera, I expect he will report the footage to the police. If the footage shows you driving safely, the police won't prosecute. They will only prosecute if the footage shows that you were driving in a careless or dangerous manner.

I cycle to school with my primary school children on a road that sounds similar (I'm only on it for about 45 seconds but it is narrow and winding and full of blind bends) and often send footage to the police of drivers that overtake us too closely or overtake on a blind bend, resulting in near-collisions with oncoming motor traffic. The close passes usually result in 3 points and a fine for the driver but the blind bend overtakes get quite a bit more (one recent one got 5 points and £1000 fine).

When I am driving a car, I will only overtake a cyclist if there are no blind bends and I can see that the opposite lane is clear as I always use the full oncoming lane to overtake a cyclist. There are very few roads in the UK where it is possible to overtake a cyclist legally without using part of the oncoming lane, so there is nothing to be lost by using the full oncoming lane (and a lot of safety to be gained). A general rule of thumb to follow is that if the cyclist hits a pothole (plentiful in this country) and is suddenly left laying on the road sideways, would you still be giving him enough space? If I'm going to be making a turn in the next 400m or so while driving, I don't bother overtaking a cyclist at all -- it just isn't worth the risk and won't save anyone a meaningful amount of time.

I wish I didn't have to run a camera on my bike (or spend chunks of time cropping video and filling in police forms). But I do it because reporting my near miss might save someone else's life.

MyLimeGuide · 05/06/2025 18:30

Gyozas · 05/06/2025 17:17

He sounds fun. 🫢

😂

BlueSkyBeing · 05/06/2025 18:28

This reply has been deleted

This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines.

When you've had your body or life put at risk by someone else's actions you would understand.

BlueSkyBeing · 05/06/2025 18:25

Spirallingdownwards · 02/06/2025 09:04

If you read the original post you will see she says she still gave requisite space for the cyclists on this occasion so it isn't the scenario you are describing. It is ridiculous that some people can't accept that some cyclists can be dickheads in the same way some drovers can be.

She gave sufficient space to overtake. She didn't give sufficient space to pull in.
I've been that cyclist where someone who is in a rush to overtake has pulled sharply in front of me, causing me to break sharply to avoid crashing into them.

It's scary and very dangerous.

I'm not surprised he gesticulated. But as others said learn and move on.

Pedallleur · 05/06/2025 18:19

Gyozas · 05/06/2025 17:17

He sounds fun. 🫢

Better than being dead/injured because the motorist couldn't wait to get to the next red light.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 05/06/2025 17:39

Gyozas · 05/06/2025 17:17

He sounds fun. 🫢

It’s his hobby. I stay out of it. 😂

Redpeach · 05/06/2025 17:32

Gyozas · 05/06/2025 17:17

He sounds fun. 🫢

More fun than getting killed

Gyozas · 05/06/2025 17:17

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 02/06/2025 09:22

DH uploads footage of 4-6 dangerous drivers (around cyclists) a week. Around half would be on narrow lanes. He gets feedback on each one - I’d say 50% are no action, 40% are “had a word” and 10% are progressed to prosecution.

He sounds fun. 🫢

Redpeach · 05/06/2025 17:15

FrankyGoesToBollywood · 02/06/2025 21:30

Thank you for all the replies and sorry it’s taken me all day to respond!

Firstly we do live semi rurally- the lane I described has no footpaths and as mentioned is narrow- if someone is walking their dog on it and a car comes along they have to sink into the hedge so it’s not a route suitable for walking to school with a child. We also live three miles away and this is the nearest school.

I do accept on reflection I should have waited to overtake until I could see further ahead and wasn’t as near to a bend, but I’m not lying when I say I was considerate to the cyclist and felt I left plenty of room. Like I say it was definitely over the minimum, I’m not saying it was that amount exactly, but he was certainly never in danger of being hit by the car and nor did I slam on my brakes after passing him as some have suggested.

The reason I mentioned his clothing is because he seemed it me to be out for a hobby ride, not cycling to work, plus there’s nothing around there unless he’s a teacher at one of the schools! I know cyclists have the same rights to use roads as everyone else but you’d think people would exercise common sense and not choose to cycle on narrow country lanes when there are lots of cars trying to get to school for a specific time. I know I’ll be flamed for saying that but come on it’s common sense!

So basically your journey is more important than his? If time is such an issue, leave home earlier

outdooryone · 05/06/2025 17:07

Agix · 02/06/2025 08:51

Unlikely. Cyclists like to have a go even when they don't have a leg to stand on. Absolutely baffling they'd decide to take their ride during the hours of the morning everyone's going to work or dropping kids off at school, if they're afraid of cars being close to them. I suppose he expected you to trawl behind him the whole way.

Well, on my commute this morning the 200+ cars I overtook were in my way on a bike. They were all sat in a queue of, checks notes, other cars and had decided to take a drive at a busy part of the day, slowing all us cyclists down. They were even sat two abreast - often with no-one in the second seat - so making it harder to get past them.
How selfish, antisocial, noisy, polluting and arrogant of all those drivers heading onto the road at rush hour!

MemorableTrenchcoat · 04/06/2025 21:13

Pedallleur · 04/06/2025 21:04

Sorry to disappoint you. Your abs equipped car won't stop on a dime. Physics applies. A car has greater mass and higher velocity. Try stopping on a gravel road and your brakes may actually not work v.well. A car travelling at 30mph takes generally 23 metres or 75 feet to stop. That increases significantly in wet conditions and in snow or ice your brakes may be useless. At 20mph its 40 feet.

Edited

Yes, I mentioned the physics: 1.0 G versus around 0.4 G. Assuming a firm surface, like most metalled roads, the car can exploit the much larger contact patches of its four wide tyres. A cyclist decelerating that quickly will go over the handlebars.

BlueMum16 · 04/06/2025 21:08

FrankyGoesToBollywood · 02/06/2025 21:30

Thank you for all the replies and sorry it’s taken me all day to respond!

Firstly we do live semi rurally- the lane I described has no footpaths and as mentioned is narrow- if someone is walking their dog on it and a car comes along they have to sink into the hedge so it’s not a route suitable for walking to school with a child. We also live three miles away and this is the nearest school.

I do accept on reflection I should have waited to overtake until I could see further ahead and wasn’t as near to a bend, but I’m not lying when I say I was considerate to the cyclist and felt I left plenty of room. Like I say it was definitely over the minimum, I’m not saying it was that amount exactly, but he was certainly never in danger of being hit by the car and nor did I slam on my brakes after passing him as some have suggested.

The reason I mentioned his clothing is because he seemed it me to be out for a hobby ride, not cycling to work, plus there’s nothing around there unless he’s a teacher at one of the schools! I know cyclists have the same rights to use roads as everyone else but you’d think people would exercise common sense and not choose to cycle on narrow country lanes when there are lots of cars trying to get to school for a specific time. I know I’ll be flamed for saying that but come on it’s common sense!

Highway code was updated.

Cyclists have more rights than cars. You must give way to them.

Pedestrian have the most rights overall.

Just be more careful, wait and give more space than you would to a car . The cyclists wants to get home to his family too.

Pedallleur · 04/06/2025 21:04

MemorableTrenchcoat · 04/06/2025 20:44

I was referring to the sort of speeds at which bicycles travel. At 20mph, an ABS- equipped car can stop on a dime, regardless of driver skill. It has four nice, wide tyres, and no chance of skidding, so the car can brake right at the very limits of the tyres’ adhesion. A cyclist can’t hope to do this and remain in the saddle. Under hard braking, a car can decelerate at around 1.0 G; a cyclist, less than half that.

Sorry to disappoint you. Your abs equipped car won't stop on a dime. Physics applies. A car has greater mass and higher velocity. Try stopping on a gravel road and your brakes may actually not work v.well. A car travelling at 30mph takes generally 23 metres or 75 feet to stop. That increases significantly in wet conditions and in snow or ice your brakes may be useless. At 20mph its 40 feet.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 04/06/2025 20:44

Pedallleur · 04/06/2025 20:25

Not actually true. It depends what is ahead of you and at what distance. A car travelling at 50mph behind a vehicle 10 metres ahead is not going to stop safely. Stopping distance increases exponentially with speed, road conditions, brake and tyre conditions and the reaction time of the driver

Edited

I was referring to the sort of speeds at which bicycles travel. At 20mph, an ABS- equipped car can stop on a dime, regardless of driver skill. It has four nice, wide tyres, and no chance of skidding, so the car can brake right at the very limits of the tyres’ adhesion. A cyclist can’t hope to do this and remain in the saddle. Under hard braking, a car can decelerate at around 1.0 G; a cyclist, less than half that.

Pedallleur · 04/06/2025 20:25

MemorableTrenchcoat · 03/06/2025 14:27

Don’t be daft. Drivers in cars with ABS can stamp on the brakes as hard as they like and stop safely from any speed. A cyclist who brakes too hard will go sailing over the handlebars.

Not actually true. It depends what is ahead of you and at what distance. A car travelling at 50mph behind a vehicle 10 metres ahead is not going to stop safely. Stopping distance increases exponentially with speed, road conditions, brake and tyre conditions and the reaction time of the driver

ForPlumReader · 04/06/2025 20:17

PetiteBlondeDuBoulevardBrune · 02/06/2025 17:36

That is fair, but why not also ask: how many times do you witness dangerous/illegal behaviour from cyclist on an average 15min spent walking outside vs from car drivers?

Today, just 1h ago on the school run, literally when leaving my house there was a cyclist on the pavement. More pavement-riders were encountered. Some also crossed red lights. Nothing to report from drivers, they all indicated when turning into the side roads I was crossing and left me cross before turning. And none of them drove at a red light. Anecdotical of course, but this is a fair representation of what happens in urban areas.

Edited

My experience while walking to work this morning was that most cars go through red lights (amber apparently means nothing) and many don't indicate. Anecdotal but happens on a regular basis while I'm waiting to cross.

Pedallleur · 04/06/2025 20:15

Agix · 02/06/2025 08:51

Unlikely. Cyclists like to have a go even when they don't have a leg to stand on. Absolutely baffling they'd decide to take their ride during the hours of the morning everyone's going to work or dropping kids off at school, if they're afraid of cars being close to them. I suppose he expected you to trawl behind him the whole way.

And we are off!! Shall we have the road tax/insurance/number plate drivel trotted out? The op overtook the cyclist but an oncoming car caused the op to move in. I don't know the distance to the cyclist but why not just wait until it's safe to overtake? I commute at peak times. Am I being told I can't go out? Perhaps motorists should be regulated to certain times of day or certain days when they can use their cars

Swipe left for the next trending thread