AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

Excellent news, let your friend that stopped joining the walks know that the coast may be clear for them to return.

That he’d rather leave the chat than reflect and try to clear the air speaks volumes. Tantrum because people have called out your “jokes” as unfunny because they’re really just bullying dressed up as “banter”.

easy, just msg back:
you want some then bitch???
outside now!!!
(unless you dont think you can take her?)

I do think he deserved getting told, yes. I can understand why the OP was utterly fed up. Maybe she thought she’d given enough hints but was absolutely brassed off that despite trying to be polite / subtle it hadn’t worked, and there he was again with the same inane comment.
For some this may be an over reaction because everyone is different with different tolerance levels, some people would be less tolerant, some would have continued to have ignored it I guess. I’d have probably been in the ‘ignore it until I couldn’t’ camp, a bit like OP. But as I say, we’re all different

On one hand I don’t think it should be celebrated that he left the group, but if he’s been making people feel uncomfortable with his comments (assume you read the ladyboy one which was outrageously rude) then maybe it’s for the best.
But of course he could also choose to apologise and move on, and continue to go for the walks.

After a few years, you generally know what sort of person your spouse is.

I like this.

I said that the OP told him she worked and that she ignored them. I did read their posts. The fact that this has been going on for a period of two years clearly indicates that he hasn’t read the room. If someone I saw on a regular basis kept saying the same thing that annoyed me I can’t see myself not saying anything for two years. I never said the OP found it funny, just that he seemed to. He has greeted her with his usual annoying greeting to receive both barrels. I don’t dispute that he’s annoying and that he is as awful as described but I don’t think he deserved both barrels just because the OP had a bad day at work. You’re entitled to your opinion that he deserved it. It’s not his fault that she had a bad shift and as it’s palliative care that is potentially quite a lot to have in your barrels. It now seems that he has felt he needs to leave the group which seems to be celebrated. All seems a bit nasty to me.

Result!

Hopefully this means he will no longer be on the dog walks. I hope his wife has left the group too.

His problem not yours. He’s probably sexist Presumably he doesn’t harass your husband when you have done the early walk asking him if he enjoyed his lazy day?

Can you explain what wasn’t proportionate about OP’s response? She didn’t swear or raise her voice, she told him about her day working which started at 6am, after he said she must have had a lie-in. What do you think she should have said?

Read any MN thread and prove yourself wrong!

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Some posters don't seem to understand the concept of a joke- I say something funny and we both laugh- that's a joke. It's only a joke if you're both laughing, if I say something racist/sexist/uncalled for and no one laughs then it's not a joke, it's me being a twat.

Let it lie for goodness sake.
Op has told you that she only mentioned it to her Husband a couple of times.
It’s for the Op to say something ( which she now has), not her DH.

Hear hear.

It would be tempting to say how lucky he is to have been able to have a rest and a lie in while his DW did his WhatsApp messages for him.

However the high moral ground is always best, so if you see him dog walking again just be civil but don't engage.

No, the OP saying that she was at work, or choosing to ignore the stupid comment (time and time again) should be enough for an adult to ‘read the room’ and see it’s not getting the response he wanted and to stop. And yet he didn’t, despite not getting any indication to suggest the OP found this funny, he repeatedly said the same comments.

It doesn’t sound like the OP has once laughed along, or encouraged this ‘humour’, this wasn’t a long standing ‘in joke’ between friends that the OP suddenly decided to have a go at him after playing along for 2 years.

The fact that someone else has commented on the WhatsApp group speaks volumes for how annoying it is.

So the answer was no?
I missed that!

Will it be you walking or dh tomorrow?

That question has been answered. I think you might need to find something more productive to do. You seem very fixated.

Wouldn’t you have said something to someone if it was your husband working 4 days a week as a palliative and you know that on his one precious day of walking… he had faced a woman denigrating him? For 2 years!

Oh Jesus @Hardgum let it go. 🙄

This is Mumsnet, it’s full of people who take this kind of awful shit from their husbands but think they deserve it. Sadly.

I didn’t say he “should” have had a word

I am surprised that in 2 years, seeing him 4x a week and knowing how much he annoyed you… he wasn’t inclined to say something of his own free will.

Please share tomorrow's goss 🍿