AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

Be kind can fuck right off , two years of hearing his inane crap.
Well done on setting him straight.👍

I bet most women can think of a similar thing

I worked in a pub and was badly assaulted on a night out for no reason (mistaken identity)
After recovering I was still bruised but back working in the pub
A regular started with “oh been fighting have we HA HA HA” so I told him no I was assaulted
he continued to bring it up every single night loudly to other people “oh she’s always fighting this one, got to watch out for her HA HA she will be punching you next”

eventually I snapped and asked him if he found a woman being assaulted funny or was he just a prick? My manager backed me up but one of the other regulars told me I had upset him
I was “me?! Upset HIM?! I’ve got a fucking broken cheekbone”

He doesn't know. That's the point.

If you read the OP you will see that she is in fact at work when her partner takes the dog.

The man making snarky comments ignores that she has told him this each time and has continued to suggest that she's having a lie in every time he speaks to her.

Pretty maddening. Don't you think?

Unable to take her information and running with a completely different scenario.

OP has said she has mentioned it a couple of times to her DH. Not every time it has happened.

He sounds like a cunt

But who else told the guy and the other dog walkers about your set up? I see lots of lone dog walkers in a morning when I walk the dog and don’t give a thought as to where their partner is, or why they aren’t also on the walk. I suspect maybe he was chatting to your dh, who volunteered the info that you’re at home having sent him out to walk the dog, otherwise why would he know so much about the ins and outs of your day?

OMG the argumentative brigade are digging in deep. If you people have ever been on a dog walking group, you know that these people are not necessarily “friends”, but acquaintances. The comment about the “ladyboy” was shared as a way of empathetically letting OP know that she is not his sole target. It sounds like the doggy walkers collectively dislike AF and are now sharing stories that they previously felt were isolated.
OP your DH and male buddy sound fabulous.

Yes, you are. As well as not being able to actually read what the OP wrote regarding the racist comments (aka she only found out about them after she spoke up to this twat), you have used these words about her:

he gets both barrels
you have just exploded
All seems a bit nasty to me

But she didn’t challenge him on his misogynistic or racist views, nor in solidarity with their fellow dog walker who did vote with their feet.

And you have called OP, in your response to another poster:

Hardly the decent person that you refer to.

I’m not trying to make you a villain. My first comment and the one prior to this one now I have explained my reasoning for thinking YABU. You have asked for opinions. I’m not asking you to agree with me, I understand that I am the minority. I don’t condone his behaviour I just think what he said didn’t warrant both barrels. Time to leave this thread. Going to watch the last episode of Mobland now, enjoy the rest of your evening.

only for two years you say?

She has tried to politely stop this twat commenting on her ‘laziness’, @ClearHoldBuild - he has ignored her. That’s why she finally had enough today, and told him exactly what she spends her day doing, to finally shut him up.

My original point was that bearing in mind that the OP doesn’t at this stage know anything about racism or misogyny. They’ve just had to deal with being called lazy for two years which they have not condoned or challenged, I personally feel based on that it was unreasonable to give them both barrels. I do not think his conduct is acceptable nor do I think the OP should have taken her bad day out on him. I’m not asking you to agree with me, it’s just one person’s opinion.

She only found out about the racist comments after she handed this bloke his arse, @ClearHoldBuild - she would have needed a crystal ball to have told him off about it.

Did you read the post where OP said that she only found out about the racist comment today? What was she expected to do?

JFC you are now making OP responsible for this racist twat's behaviour because she didn't challenge him. From what OP said, it sounds as though she has only just found out about this:

'Another group member has just told me that the reason she hasn't been for weeks is that he kept asking her if her sis in law was a ladyboy because the sis in law is from the Phillipines.'

You said that it shouldn't be celebrated that he had to leave the dog walking group. I disagreed because he isn't the sort of person that anyone would want in their group unless they were also racist and misogynistic.

You’ve been well socialised 😁

But she didn’t challenge him on his misogynistic or racist views, nor in solidarity with their fellow dog walker who did vote with their feet. She only gave both barrels as a result of being called lazy. The OP who continued to meet this person with the other dog walkers ignoring their disgusting opinions until they had a bad day at work and a menopausal rage. If his wife hadn’t text and he hadn’t left the group this afternoon chances are they would still be walking their dogs in the same group. Hardly the decent person that you refer to.

we have a similar unfunny man, but not a regular walk, and no whatsapp fortunately
we can hide if we see him!

Perfect!

Did you read OP's post where she said that another dog walker had stopped joining this walking group because this man kept asking her whether her sister in law was a lady-boy because she is from the Philippines. As well as being a misogynist he is also a racist. I find that much more nasty than OP finally telling him some home truths after 2 years of listening to him calling her lazy.

I think him leaving the group is to be celebrated if you are a decent person that won't put up with misogyny and racism.

This comment made my day because as I wrote the post it occurred to me for the first time that I need to do exactly that!

Please tell me that was sarcasm or satire! Because no one can be this demented...

I think what you did needed to be done, he hasn’t caught the hint over two years, sometimes people don’t think and think themselves as funny (bet he wouldn’t like it back to him).
overreacted? Probably not / possibly, but I think sometimes it’s the only way people understand and then act the victim.
Your job is so so invaluable, thank you, and i hope in future he will consider his humour tactics.

No my DH can speak for himself, as can I.