AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

Good for you. Sounds like his absence from the group for a while is no loss.

So the big 'I am' has got his mummy wife to tell you off? What a prince of a man she is married to.

You weren't being unreasonable. You have put up with his snarky jibes for 2 years and you finally snapped. As for 'be kind', where was his kindness when trying to humiliate you? I'd want to tell his wife to fuck off, but that probably wouldn't be a good idea.

I agree or the poster is a man and is having a laugh

No. Over reacting would have been to let rip 2 years ago... get some context please. Ops on her last nerve. Good for her for speaking up.

Serves him bloody right.

I was okay with your comment apart from the "speaking for all women" thing.

Love this! Your friend is a man (gasp), so his words count.

Glad you told the boring cunt to shut up.

menopausal rage is not a bad thing 😊

🤣🤣🤣

Well done op, it fucks me right off when men make bloody stupid comments like this to women, but would never dream of doing it to a man.

You did not over react. Years of comments have worn you down.

You may be menopausal but oestrogen suppresses our emotions and lots of women come out of oestrogen suppression raging, after years of putting the needs of other people first, keeping the peace, avoiding conflict.

I also watched a TedTalk that I will try to find later which explains that when we react, we are reacting to every time we felt obliged to remain silent, to accept micro aggressions, to be kind, to smile and nod.. when we find our voice, it all comes out and we speak on behalf of all women and all moments of misogyny when we do this.

Stand in your power!! We are with you.

I am sure that any attempt to explain your perspective would simply escalate this ... and of course, we are conditioned to de-escalate, to retreat to a safe space and to internalise our feelings and our hurt.... but this is what I would like to say if I were in your shoes... as I said.. I know how that goes.. and it results in me slinking away after having taken my stance.

Bob.. every time you tell me I am lazy and having a lie in, it annoys me, because you are making assumptions and judging me, every time, I think, I won't say anything, it's not important, just let it go, but every time, you laugh at my expense and I feel powerless to defend myself. You don't diminish or mock Dave, because he is a man. You are out here, marking your territory, making this space slightly inhospitable for me and other women. I could make all sorts of assumptions as to why, to excuse your behaviour and to assume you mean no harm, but it does cause harm, you are flexing your power and showing how little you respect women. I am not sorry for my response yesterday, I am only sorry I didn't put aside my social conditioning to speak before. I can not understand why I am expected to put up with your behaviour but when I responded, you have made this space even more inhospitable for me by involving your wife and by her posting publicly about this. The correct response would have been to reflect on your behaviour, change it and allowing women to feel more afe in this space, not less safe.

But yeah... Stand in your Power. We are with you!

I love your mate so much for this! I bet Billy Bigballs finds another group of dog walkers with women to harrass. He will be far too embarrassed (outraged) at being called out by a man.

This, in bucket loads!!

This 100% warranted a poll. He deserved it.

Good on you for standing up for yourself and good on your friend for highlighting the rank misogyny.

I’d hazard a guess that this poster is regularly subjected to the kind of behaviour they describe, from those in their own life. And have become so used to the disrespectful bullshit that they think it’s the norm - hence the projection. It’s quite sad.

Exactly. A whining little man. How pathetic. I wonder if he's sobbing and shaking 😂

So nice when they get their comeuppance. Well done OP 👏🏻

If he 'wants to be pleasant', he got that very, very wrong.

Easier for whom? Wasn't easier for the OP who was already feeling the pressures of her job, was it?

I think you did the right thing.
Sometimes these sort of Men need to realise that they can’t get away with these sort of comments towards women. They are cowards as they would never do the same to Men.
Can believe he’s gone running to his wife about it and she’s backing him.
Glad others have backed you up.

Nowhere did OP say she laughed it off. She ignored him or explained that she worked. Why should women have to go into minute details about their lives to avoid this kind of bullshit. Seems to me that whatever she had said and however politely wouldn’t have stopped the comments. Some people need it spelled out to them and OP has hopefully shut it down for good.

I was being slightly tongue in cheek (is one way of putting it). At the PPs suggestion that the OP bought this on themselves by not speaking up previously.

Because it's always the responsibility of women to handle mens bad behaviour.

The fact you only just snapped makes you sound like you have the patience of a saint, especially with the job you have. He probably trots out a selection of these 'jokes' every day and thought he was viewed as the beloved neighbourhood comedian. Suddenly, he's learned he's not.

On the plus side, he probably won't bother you again now you've (justifiably) shown your teeth!

@SerendipityJane the OP has literally said she's never gone along with it, and that every time he's done it, she's disagreed with him and contradicted his lazy comment with the info that no, she was actually working.

Good on you op..and tuff titty for him

Good!

It's one thing tolerating your annoying DH, but defending his offensiveness towards other women is pathetic IMO.

She should have quietly said to him, on the side, reign it in. You're going to get a reputation for being an arse.