AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

@pimplebum and @Sagepage are 2 more posters with internalised misogyny who need to read the OP updates. She was not “exploding” she’s said she explained clearly and calmly what her job involves. The fact he has run home to get his wife to fight for him is up to his character, not hers.

I agree with @spicemaiden- women should be able to defend themselves without being characterised as mad, angry <insert sexist stereotype of your choice here>

......and Annoying Fucker has left the Watsapp group.

I bet you wouldn’t have spoken like that if a woman had made the same joke.

Sorry @Guttyyyyyyyyy i wasn’t claiming you had gone full meltdown. It’s just the language used by previous poster indicated that they thought ‘properly served’ was an appropriate way to deal with someone, when it sounds like they are advocating for someone to kick off if this situation arose.

I didnt go full meltdown, no tears, shouting , swearing or stamping of feet.
I am a 52 year old professional in healthcare not a toddler.
Believe it or not giving information in a concise manner is part of my job .
I gave him the full, unvarnished lowdown on what I was actually doing yesterday, nothing more.

What are you talking about?

and also…‘properly served’ - if you don’t like what someone says then tell them, nobody need to go full meltdown, just tell them politely that you don’t appreciate their comments and move on. It doesn’t have to be a race to the bottom

You do see that it was suggested a few years ago that he leave

but he stayed

they kept him on the WhatsApp group etc

despite knowing he was a bully years ago

Good for you sticking up for yourself comments like that get tiresome.

I had a friend who used to always comment on my long lies and lazy days when I was a SAHM. She's no longer a friend.

Bullseye !

Bullseye !

You can’t just kick someone off a dog walk. If someone told me I’m not welcome to walk my dog at 10 in a morning at the beach, I’d laugh in their face! Honestly I didn’t think walking your dog could result in so much drama. I got my dog to get myself exercised and outdoors, seeing it as relaxing and chilled. Didn’t realise there was all this Jeremy Kyle drama going on for something as mundane as going out for a walk with dog in tow.

You aren't being unreasonable to shut down his passive aggressive nastiness.
You are being unreasonable if you were aggressive about it in response. Being annoyed (rightly, imo) doesn't justify a "both barrels" reply.

did you read all the exchanges amongst this group yesterday… people jumping in with their views on him, people “liking” comments….

if I was a dog walker in this group, I’d have muted notifications about 10 mins in. And probably found myself a different group to meet going forward. Who wants that kind of messaging drama in their lives!

Back from dog walk and a coffee afterwards. No sign of Annoying Fucker.
However 2 other people say she contacted them after I replied to her as her H wasn't entirely honest with her. Told her that all he had said was hello and I screamed and shouted at him. Other witnesses confirmed that firstly he had made his lazy comment twice first time I replied with " No AF I work Sundays, I tell you most weeks ." so 2 mins later he said it again. And secondly that I didnt raise my voice at all, one described my tone as akin to a primary school teacher.
Also found out that it was suggested he leave a community gardening group a few years ago due to a bullying incident ( against a woman)
He took early retirement, is early 60's.
So thats that. I feel sorry for his wife though. .

You can’t just kick someone off a dog walk. If someone told me I’m not welcome to walk my dog at 10 in a morning at the beach, I’d laugh in their face! Honestly I didn’t think walking your dog could result in so much drama. I got my dog to get myself exercised and outdoors, seeing it as relaxing and chilled. Didn’t realise there was all this Jeremy Kyle drama going on for something as mundane as going out for a walk with dog in tow.

Absolutely remove from the WhatsApp group, but OP suggests that they all just usually meet up at the same time daily on the beach for a dog run around kind of activity, rather than an actual walk. If the guy turns up with his dog at the beach, he can hardly be demanded to leave. People can ignore him, but can’t dictate who can or can’t be at the beach at the same time as they are on any particular day. Anyway, leaving this thread. Can’t believe I’m getting so invested in this….

Absolutely remove from the WhatsApp group, but OP suggests that they all just usually meet up at the same time daily on the beach for a dog run around kind of activity, rather than an actual walk. If the guy turns up with his dog at the beach, he can hardly be demanded to leave. People can ignore him, but can’t dictate who can or can’t be at the beach at the same time as they are on any particular day. Anyway, leaving this thread. Can’t believe I’m getting so invested in this….

I’m not saying they can tell him to leave, @Livelovebehappy - but they can make it clear he isn’t welcome in their group on the beach. He can walk his dog on his own.

Maybe he was doing it carefully, so the individuals who were targeted didn’t realise they weren’t the only ones he was doing it to, @Thesecondcoff - and it’s only now that one person has spoken out, they are all realising it was part of a pattern.