AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

He’s to old to claim stupid, perhaps he’ll stop being stupid now that he’s been pulled up on it.

Shame his wife was too stupid to not tell him early he’s embarrassing!

Seems rather silly to remove it when we can just use the standard one on iphones.

Yes, 'human shield wife' is about right. I was thinking 'enabler'.

I had a couple in the family who would do this: the husband would say something to, or demand something from, someone & if they did't react they way the husband wanted, then the wife would ring that person & tell them they'd upset her husband, with the expectation that they would immediately capitulate.

Whenever she did it to me, I took it as a sign that I was completely in the right. And that he was a pathetic coward.

No, but it isn’t about the apology, it’s about the olive branch. I appreciate that some men are jerks, but others aren’t, and we don’t know whether this one is a jerk or just stupid, I’m guessing the latter.

I just don’t think that the right way to get men to respect women is to act disproportionately, as happened in this case.

im not on his side, he clearly can’t read a room, but that doesn’t mean he is part of the problem

What’s up with some posters thinking OP is unreasonable and her DH has been encouraging it? Totally absurd conclusions.

If I were his wife I’d tell him he deserved it and to stop talking to women like that, it’s obnoxious. I wouldn't be defending him. Maybe he’s just ground her down over the years because I’d bet money he’s an absolute jerk to live with.

Right behind you - he deserved it !

Hopefully that will shut him up.

Spare a thought for his poor wife who will now be sitting there with her arms folded looking like thunder telling her DH "you've made me look a right prat, Derek" (or whatever his name is.) She would be played by Allison Steadman in the film version. 😂

Well done, OP. They don't like it up 'em!

MN need to bring back the laughing emoji, this comment needed it!

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A helicopter wife! How pathetic 😂

I hope this has also been fed back to the daft wife!!!!

Poor diddums has hurty feelings. Good, what an unfunny twonk! Good for you OP!

I wonder if he's the same man who knew my husband in passing and, when our DS was little, would comment "Is he babysitting?" every time I walked in the pub (I went once a fortnight for 3 hours to have a bit of a laugh and karoke when it fit in my DH's shift pattern). One night I mentioned it when I got home and, the next time DH saw him, he said "Are you not going to ask if Hooble's babysitting or do you think they forgot to cut the cord?"

He's truly vile. Your poor friend having to tolerate such racist abuse.

That is shocking.
I would refuse to be in such company.
Time to make other walking plans I think.
Life is too short.

That remark to your friend should be passed around as your reason for no longer attending.

I’d point out that #BeKind should work both ways!

Given that OP says her DH is supportive and thinks this man is an arsehole, why would you think he would engage in ‘bants’ with him berating his wife when he knows she’s out at six and working a stressful and distressing job ? Or did you miss what this man is saying to other women in the group - namely repeatedly asking if SiL of one of the women is a ladyboy because she’s from Thailand ?

Not everyone’s DH is an arsehole and if you actually believe what you’ve posted here I feel very sorry for you because you must have been the victim of so much misogynistic bullshit that now you think it’s everyone’s experience. Sad.

I think if anything you’ve underreacted. I’d have cracked ages ago! Another man who’s too lazy to come up with any real humour so resorts to sexist ‘jokes’. Also it’s clear he thinks that women should do everything and it’s outrageous to ask a man to ever be inconvenienced in even the most minor way.

Tell tale sign she, and everyone else in the WhatsApp group, know very well that her husband is the arse here and you were well within your right to (finally) put him in his place

I feel your pain, OP. YANBU. And well done you for calling him out on it. His wife will likely have no idea about the jibes he makes.
About 20 odd years ago now, maybe longer, a patient (far too well to be in the ICU they were lounging in) giving a constant narration to anyone who could be bothered listening about my, apparent, heart and kidney problems….in that I was “heart lazy & kidney be bothered”. What he didn’t know was that I’d been called to theatre to help out because the woman who had been in the bed opposite him was exanguinating on the operating table, it was an absolute blood bath and she died the most horrible death. Didn’t even recognise that when I returned, I was showered and in hospital scrubs because my clothes were essentially binned. He didn’t even clock on to the fact that she never returned. Horrible, horrible man and it still upsets me now. I wish I’d said something.

You’re completely in the right OP and why is his wife fighting his battles? That’s weird.

I anyone you’ve seen the last of them.

And I’m sure that’s very much to the glee of the rest of the group.

No, the sexist pain does it to OP's friend, but not to the friend's DH (or any other man i.e. provably sexist).

She probably knows her DH is a twunt and therefore can’t defend his actions anymore.

Always the ‘be kind’ types that are the crappiest people. Don’t be gaslit by his wife (this is normal for her!)

You did right. Let them run around in circles at the audacity of someone calling him on his bullying disguised as humour!