Magic Mike Live - Bride really unhappy

It is comparable though. Have you been to one of these shows? If my husband went to the women equivalent of this I’d divorce him

If someone had done this to me on my hen do I would have walked out. The poor bride.

Strips clubs are fully naked for a start

I'm team "frigid prune" all the way 🤣🤣 BUT THAT'S NOT THE POINT!!

The point is the fiance is being controlling and a groomzilla and making demands and dictats to OP with no solves.

Also... People can like different things

But are we sure it is?

I‘ve watched SATC (the series and the films) and still wouldn’t want my „hen night“ to be SATC themed. Let alone a SATC musical.

And even if this was simply down to the groom. Different couples have different boundaries. That isn’t necessarily wrong. Which is why OP and the bride should have talked about the hen plans in advance.

I wouldn’t be going if someone organised it for my hen, nor would I go if it was someone else’s. I bet you’d all have some choice words if the groom went to a strip club!

No, frigid is a very popular term amongst anyone who knows what it means.

No, I'm saying that pretending it's not about perving over scantily clad men on stage is delusional.

Oh dear OP, didn't you realise that prim and proper MN looks down their noses at anything "tacky" or "grim" such as this. Even hen's nights in general, dancers or no dancers. No fun, please ladies, be proper. 🙄

Anyway, you've done nothing wrong. Of course it's a perfect hen's night activity.
Does the bride actually want to cancel it, or is it just the groom that's the problem? You're going to have to ask her if it's a no-go. Then ask all the attendees if they want to go anyway and change the date of the hen's, or, sell the tickets, but that might be challenging to sell so many.
How disappointing for you. Maybe she should organise her own bloody hen's night, approved by the ridiculous husband of course.

Is it definitely the bride who isn’t happy as it sounds more like the groom and family aren’t? Would probably have been better to check with her beforehand but it’s done now. See if you can sell the tickets on if that’s what she wants but I don’t think it’s the huge error of judgement they are making it out to be.

FFS so many people spectacularly missing the point because they’re too busy hyperventilating over the type of entertainment planned. It’s completely irrelevant whether posters find the idea tacky/cringey/“common” (ffs) or whatever. OP who presumably knows her friend thought she’d enjoy it, and indeed everyone happily paid for tickets without objection.

But the groom, whose business it is absolutely not, told the bride she wasn’t allowed to go. Like she was a child and he gets to tell her what to do. And apparently everyone on here thinks this awful controlling behaviour is totally fine because the musical entertainment proposed is not to their taste. Really??

OP I’d be tempted to walk away too after all this. And not go to the wedding - I don’t give the marriage long anyway if that’s what he’s like.

You picked the wrong forum for this OP as MN is populated by the sort of people who loathe hen nights, group gatherings and anything else that isn’t sitting at home ‘relaxing’ in their pyjamas.

I’ve seen Magic Mike live, it’s great fun, more of a stage show than a strip club and perfect for a hen do. Think the groom sounds like a controlling twat and you’ve done nothing wrong. I’d be turning it back on him and asking her why he gets to dictate what she does.

Magic Mike is just a male burlesque it's absolutely nothing like a strip club. Groom is being ridiculous.

It wouldn't be my thing at all, even if it wasn't seedy. Sorry I think you really needed to check first. I feel sorry for you because you were obviously trying to do a nice thing, but lesson learned. Can you move the date so people can still go and not lose their money but do something else for the hens? Also to add the bride should've made it clear stripper type activties were a no-go (or someone should've checked)

Really poor choice here imo

Ooh here we go - frigid?

I thought only teen boys used that insult when they didn't get what they wanted!

Straight men are less likely to go to lots of things - a Take That gig, Calamity Jane The Musical, ABBA Voyage, the ballet, bottomless brunch…the list goes on. Are you saying that women shouldn’t go because the menz aren’t interested?

Oh so true!

The thought of organising a hen do, fills me with dread!

Maybe OP did get it wrong, but it comes from a place of trying to do good and she’s just left with a headache and lots of pointy fingers.

although the whole group booked, so 🤷‍♀️!

Men visit strip clubs so what’s the difference? And they are naked…

Did you read the thread? It IS the brides cup of tea. The groom is the one unhappy about it really.

Groom sounds ridiculous. Agree with all previous posters who have said that anyone of the other 19 attendees could have said “hang on, should we consider something else?”
what a load of drama.

It doesn’t matter if it is or isn’t seedy. The bride doesn’t want to go and it clearly isn’t her cup of tea. Did you talk about stripping (or “soft stripping”, if that’s a term you’ll accept) in advance?

And who cares if the bride has dances on tables? I’ve had some “wild” nights.

I still wouldn’t want magic mike or chippendales for my hen do. Which my MOH knows (because we’ve talked about prefernces, expectations etc.) Which is why my hen do will include some form of boozy brunch (I don’t know the specifics) but absolutely no stripping, burlesque or similar.

Noses stuck in there air or just against degrading behaviour (and I'm talking women degrading themselves, not the mem raking on the money over it).

I've gone along with many a shit and tacky thing I didn't really want to do because it was a hen do and didn't want to be 'difficult'.

'Musical'? Hardly Les Mis, is it?