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People over 55 (or younger), what things do you avoid doing now?

110 replies

Luluissleeping · 01/06/2025 19:17

For me, it's going up stairs due to mobility issues. We are thinking of moving to a bungalow or getting a stairlift here. I find getting upstairs in other buildings very difficult so avoid it.
I would be interested in what other people avoid doing.

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ReignOfError · 02/06/2025 18:57

I’m 70.

I don’t iron anything, but then I barely ever did. And I don’t feel the need to be polite to people who piss me off.

I’ve spent the past four years severely limited because of injury and then a hip replacement. The main reason I had that is so I could get my life back, so I’m trying hard not to avoid or give up anything that I once took for granted.

Aramox · 02/06/2025 18:55

Giving up:
Working too hard
Not contacting friends
Cheap tat
Pubs
Meals in shouty restaurants
Boring work dos

aspidernamedfluffy · 02/06/2025 18:51

I'm nearly 60 and I avoid anyone who turns anything into a big drama....yes "d"sis and her almost 40 year old DD I am looking at you.

Markham66 · 02/06/2025 18:50

cut out all alcohol other than social drinking and that may end.
work out 5-6 times a week so had to up the amount of protein I consume but cut any junk food
more religious on making I sure I get enough sleep

Recycledblonde · 02/06/2025 18:47

I’m 60 and don’t go up ladders if I’m alone in the house plus I keep my phone on me most of the time in case I have an accident. Other than that I haven’t changed what I do.

Endiof · 02/06/2025 18:46

Drinking alcohol, it make me feel quite ill.

PlasticAcrobat · 02/06/2025 18:45

I'm 62 and there is nothing at all I have stopped doing due to my age.

RaininSummer · 02/06/2025 18:43

I have given up citrus fruits and fruit juice as plays havoc with arthritis and blood sugar respectively. Given up eating past 7pm as gives me heartburn in bed later. Barely drink alcohol as goes straight to my head and make me feel like I'm being boiled. Given up bare feet as get pains thanks to plantar fascitis. I go up and downstairs like a toddler as don't have faith in my knees behaving. It's fun getting old.

HelenaTranscart · 02/06/2025 18:43

I avoid spending time with people I don't like, including family members. Fck 'em!
I avoid caring what people think. F
ck' em!
And I've pretty much given up alcohol but only because the hangovers are not worth it. Yes, I've become middle aged and crotchety, and I bloody love it, it's liberating to be this age.

exaltedwombat · 02/06/2025 18:39

I'm 74. I've stopped doing a few things (like running for a bus) because I'm not physically up to it any more. I've stopped others (certain aspects of my profession) because I can't be arsed to any more. I don't go up ladders, though I probably still COULD, because I recognise the risks are now too high.

Orangesandlemons77 · 02/06/2025 18:39

Didn't we just have this thread the other day...oh that was about over 55s and what they were bored of now.

There seems to have been a few threads recently very similar. I'm 48 so not quite there yet but find it a bit depressing to be honest

ginasevern · 02/06/2025 18:37

I'm 68 and don't drink alcohol like I used to. I also avoid kneeling down on the floor if possible because it bloody hurts and getting up is an undignified mess. I am generally a little more cautious too. For example, I'm more aware of nasty cracks in pavements or slippery surfaces because I really don't want to fall and break any bones. I mean, I'm not paranoid - just somewhat more aware.

SpottedDonkey · 02/06/2025 18:37

Nothing. Physically, I’m in pretty good shape in my mid 50s and fitter than at any. time since my 20s.

I was going to write ‘fortunately’, but it’s not just luck. I also look after myself, maintain a healthy weight, 10k+ steps every day, eat sensibly, don’t smoke, don’t sunbathe, only drink alcohol one day a week etc etc. So many of the things which have a big effect on our health & mobility as we get older are lifestyle choices which are entirely within our own control.

SusanOldknow · 02/06/2025 18:34

Noisy pubs, restaurants, really busy places - I'd now choose to avoid them. This is probably partly due to hearing loss and maybe also partly due to getting older anyway.

PriOn1 · 02/06/2025 18:32

Bouncing on trampolines. To be fair, that’s more related to having given birth three times and insufficient bladder control than reaching 55 but it’s definitely up there.

I can’t drink any more either. Seems to be a theme!

Countesschaos · 02/06/2025 18:28

58 here with mobility issues. i refuse to let my mobility issues stop me living my life. i dont ask myself 'what should i stop doing', i ask myself 'how do i do that now'

Judiezones · 02/06/2025 18:27

Mid 60s-I haven't stopped doing anything, yet! Apart from caring what people think of me.

FloridaCat · 02/06/2025 18:26

I am almost 62. I am slightly more cautious about going up ladders than I was. That is about it, apart from not going clubbing 😅and disliking really noisy pubs and restaurants.

Sundews · 02/06/2025 18:25

I am in my 50s.

Getting drunk, it makes the next day (or two!) a write-off and it’s not worth it. Takes too long to recover.

Being friends with people I don’t actually like.

MarySueSaidBoo · 02/06/2025 18:20

I think since turning 50 I'm much more conscious about staying active. I walk 12.5k steps a day, take vitamin B and D supplements, and eat well. Can't drink alcohol as it just makes me feel horrible.

I completely agree with the just saying No to things I can't be arsed with - that part is very liberating and welcome.

EmeraldRoulette · 02/06/2025 18:14

@Luluissleeping the stair thing is health related though, not age related?

Purpl · 02/06/2025 18:11

Newname71 · 01/06/2025 19:25

Not doing anything that involves getting down on the floor…. I can’t get up again!!
Probably more to do with my weight than my age though tbf. Losing a few stone is on my to do list but I’ve got a festival in 2 weeks so not much point starting now.

Edited

It is worth starting now but with small changes like eating more protein boiled egg at breakfast and porridge. Maybe buy a cheap fit bit watch mine was £17 Argos and increasing steps by 2000. It’s nice weather and you be surprised how many a 20 min walk in nice weather can clock up. Concentrate on wellness. I changed my diet to eating protein at every meal and it honestly curbed my sweet tooth. I put it all off for 5 years and small changes in 6 month and I’ve lost over a stone. I know it’s hard

zenae · 01/06/2025 19:38

Pubs at night time
Crowded places
Long haul flights
Late nights
Beach holidays

I'm very happy, I've found that NOT doing things I don't like/want to anymore is very liberating, and was helped by learning to just say "no".

FunnysInLaJardin · 01/06/2025 19:35

dinner parties 😫had one last night with a lovely group of 60 somethings. Didn't drink to excess but got to bed at 2am after tidying up and today was a write off.

I saw write off, still had to collect DS2 from volleyball, a 1 hr round trip, do the shopping, change the beds and make dinner, but all feeling rather sub par.

I can't do it!

TeenLifeMum · 01/06/2025 19:30

Younger than 55 but I avoid getting pissed - like a couple of drinks but no getting drunk. Also cheap alcohol. I’d rather have a good bottle of wine occasionally than cheap wine every week.