For context we aren’t English but from Asia.
My parents are old and although my father is fairly fit, my mother isn’t. I don’t work so am able to visit her regularly during the week. To enable this DH has a flexible working agreement and can finish working early to pick up and look after the children. He will then log on in the evening to complete his work.
I have one brother. Earlier this year, he went back ‘home’ for 6 weeks bit wasnt able to visit my in laws. He intended to but was too busy. In our culture, this is a black mark, I fully accept that my DB should have visited them because my DH’s working pattern allows me to visit our parents. DH also doesn’t a lot for my parents, including large DIY jobs. He is livid that my DB didn’t visit his parents.
DH plans to back to his standard working arrangement, it will means I won’t be able to visit parents as much. He has been complaining about this arrangement as it means he frequently works late. I feel upset that he is doing this, it will cause additional stress to my parents. He’s refused to reconsider and has become very shouty and nasty.