My boyfriend (43) told me (37) that when he was at a christening a friend of his friend offered him a blowjob and he turned her down. We’ve been having issues around boundaries and I felt very triggered. I said is he still in touch with this woman and asked if he’s ever at a social gathering where she is to avoid her as best he can. He says I’m being insecure and he should be allowed to be friendly. I said that a woman who offers sexual favours at a CHRISTENING is walking red flag and that it would be humiliating to me if he didn’t show her that he was honouring his relationship by keeping his distance from her. I don’t understand why men use this “I’m being friendly, I don’t want to hurt her feelings” language when they’re so happy to hurt their partners feelings.
He did cheat on me last year (I know everyone will say this is a dealbreaker) but I’m asking even aside from him cheating, would you have a problem with him being so friendly with this woman. No one offers that out of the blue, surely there was a prior flirtation.