Dh & Dd going out early every weekend

Crikey you're being very passive here.
If you want to spend time, then do. Just talk to them. Options include:

• asking them to leave a bit later (say 9) and you come with them.
• discuss with your husband signing her up to a morning class, say swimming, ballet, karate etc, then they swing by and collect you and you go out somewhere.
• suggest they go to the park for a shorter time, you make a picnic and go out somewhere together at say, 10.
• go out places in the afternoon.

No one is going to know you're unhappy unless you actually say something.

8am is not early. It's your choice to stay in bed. Just get up if it's bothering you and don't be that person who is half-asleep, with hair all over the place. Weekends are precious things so go and enjoy them!

Oh give over, honestly done women will find fault I anything a man does!

OP can get up at 8 at least one if the mornings if she’s that bothered? How about that, it’s not really early at all,

So it sounds like your DH takes DD out to the park then breakfast, then they come back at midday. This is fair enough to me, he's the one getting up with her etc.

Then after getting home he "clocks off" and has a snooze or goes out?!

If he goes out is he taking the car again? Is he off running errands, or is more hobbies/pub?

Is there any communication happening or is it just expected that you'll be spending the rest of the day at home watching DD playing with the neighbourhood kids?

Would also be interested to know why you stopped planning stuff.

Also agree that you sound quite down.

I understand that you have felt got at - and it's understandable why posters have responded as they have. Peri can be a bastard, but usually something can be done about it. It does mess with your head in that you think you can't do anything about situations, but that's in your head. I suspect all three of you would be happier if you rediscovered some va va voom. Good luck at the GP. HRT isn't always the miracle answer, but it can improve things.

So go with them. 8am isn't early, and you don't need hair & makeup. Just bung on some jeans & a tshirt and go too.

So is the annoyance that you used to arrange for all of you to go out but your husband arranges just him & your daughter?

It's easy to see how this has come about though as you were still in bed.

So they come back after breakfast & you all have the rest of the day together?

Or you could all go out after lunch?

Seems that there's still plenty of time to do stuff!

I still don’t understand why you can’t get up earlier and go with them?

If you want a family day out then of course you have to plan it in advance like everyone else does.

It’s not fair that they have to stay in until you decide to wake up and for you to then decide whether you want a family day out or not.

If nothings been planned then they are of course going to fill their time with something fun.

You sound quite difficult OP.

Next Saturday get up early and go with them.
Then plan something in advance for the following Saturday.

When and why did you stop?

was it because you were exhausted/needed a break? Did you communicate that?

Was it because you were cross at your husband for never planning anything and fed up of always being the one to do it? Did you communicate that?

That's understandable so you just need to take control if you want to do something together. Let them go to the park, I think it's nice to spend 1:1 time together but you arrange something for a different time, somewhere out, a film, baking a cake, playing a game and that's either for everyone or your 1:1 time too.

So where does he go? Why don't you go out in the morning while he has DD then swap over and you take her somewhere in the afternoon?

Or as everyone has said, mention in advance going somewhere as a family!

You seem to have a lot of excuses.

If it bothers you then get up with them! Otherwise, have your lie in and let them enjoy it.

So why don't you take DD out in the afternoon? Or just tell him you're going out (either alone as a family). Or talk about plans at any point before or during the weekend. It sounds like you're sitting around waiting for him to entertain you...

You have to speak to him and make plans to go out so that he can arrange to mind the kids. Again, as many others have said, nothing will change unless you make plans.

You know the answer to this……….get up when they get up and go join them for precious family time. Before you know it DD will be taking her own child to the playground.

So he...doesn't? Tell him you're going out and he's on child duty.

So get up half an hour earlier? Or plan something for the afternoon, or lunch out?

It won't kill her not to play out one afternoon every few weeks.

But tbh it sounds like lovely weekend time. Kids don't need much more than play on weekends, which is why she's happy.

There's lots of solutions to this, you're only seeing problems.

Why can't your dh stay home one afternoon to supervise and then you can go meet your friends or attend a class?

DD is 6, you tell her she isn't going out to play that day. Therefore no kids are coming into your house and you are not responsible for the other children who are already outside as that is up to their parents.

Is she quite spoilt? Do you give her any boundaries? You earlier mentioned you don't want to stop the park routine as it makes her happy.
She is a child, you are the adult. If you have plans then you need to say so and so what if she whines.

Why cant DH supervise? Or you tell her no playing out today as you're going out as a family. Why are you letting a 6yo dictate your weekend?

I think you sound really sad so maybe this isn’t really about what you think

pragmatically though if they’re ready to go at 8, either get up early and join in or enjoy the peace. You have every afternoon with your daughter while your husband is presumably at work so it’s nice they have some time together. Both mornings is lovely if you have nothing else on, but no idea why you’d make them sit and stare at you drinking coffee so you could sleep in later than they do. Make a plan for every other weekend to do whatever and then they can do their own thing the alternate weeks. You can also tell your daughter no to playing out and do something together. Loads of options logistically but if you can’t see them I think it’s worth considering if you are struggling in general.