Dh & Dd going out early every weekend

Get up or enjoy your lie in. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’d leave them to do their playground thing and then play with her friends until lunchtime but then say “right, at 12 we’re going out for lunch and a walk so need you home by 11.45. Or “we’re having lunch at home but I’ve booked us crazy golf this afternoon”. Or if you really want the whole day “ I want everybody ready for 9.30 because we’re going to the local National Trust (or whatever!). You can go to the playground with dad tomorrow.”

Basically be more proactive.

This is lovely - spending time with just one parent and doing their ‘thing’ is very special. I’d be so happy if my children had been able to experience this (my DH passed away when they were 4 and 6). when he was alive he took them swimming most Saturday mornings which they loved as they didn’t see him much during the week at all.
Take the time to do your own thing. You can always join them when they get back or plan a quieter activity inside if she’s tired and you can also plan a whole family thing for the Sunday afternoon.
I would really encourage you to let them have this precious time together.

Make some plans for the weekends. Surely DD only plays out if you have no plans, so make some if you want family time. The easy answer is to get up early and go with them, then have a nice afternoon nap whilst she is out playing with friends.

This is such an easy fix...get up and go with them if you want to join in

If not then tell dd and her friends that one day each weekend she is not available to play with her friends and do something later as a family.

She doesn't have to go with her friends if you have other plans, you are the parents.

Yabu if you want early risers to wait around for you to get up and have a brew

It sounds like they've got a lovely bond, OP, and you're a bit jealous.... let them spend time together.

Get up earlier, join them mid morning or enjoy the peace and quiet. Plan a family activity once in a while too. Not really sure where the problem is to be honest.

We all get up and go out and do something together I don't get why 2 people would have to wait around for 1 person to decide they are ready to go out

Gosh sounds awful. How terrible of them. Have you considering LTB?
Or perhaps get up earlier. I mean leaving at 8am is sooooo early. 🙄

What are you hoping people are going to say to you here OP?

"Oh you poor thing, it must be so awful having a husband who actually wants to be hands on with his kid and is happy to give you weekend lie ins every single week! That must be torture, absolutely tell your husband to stop spending quality father-daughter time with his child because you're jealous, that's completely reasonable!"

Because... Yeah you're in well the wrong place for that.

Your options are:

• Be a pretty lame parent and demand that they reduce their time together so you can feel included.

• Get up early one of the days and go with them. 8am really isn't that early, and I say that as someone who is still in bed as we speak and loves lying in.

• Go do something else together as a family on Saturday or Sunday afternoon. If she's got energy to play out with her friends surely she's got energy for a late lunch and playground somewhere one of the days?

• Find a hobby and enjoy yourself, you're blessed with a husband who enjoys spending time with his child, make the fucking most of it mate.

As everyone else has pointed out, there's a quite simple solution to this

That sounds lovely actually. You getting a lie in while they’re out having some bonding time!
If you want to do something altogether in the afternoon though, just plan it and say to DD ‘you can play out for a couple of hours but at 3 we’re going to do xyz’
Or do something as a family on the other day? She doesn’t get to decide she just wants to play out all day on both days. You’re the parent so you decide what you’re doing.

8am isn't early. Just get up and go with them or meet them there when you've had your coffee. I wouldn't hang around waiting for you to get out of bed either.

If they’re leaving at 8 and staying out until lunchtime why don’t you go and meet them there once you're up? That way they get an hour or so one-on-one time but you also get some family time?

Kids can be cyclical – sometimes they only want to hang out with mum, then it's just dad's company they crave. So let your DH have this time with her because it will almost certainly peter out at some point. Enjoy the lie-in!

Get yourself out of bed then

I think it's lovely. You say he works a lot so it's great they have this time together.
You can have mother daughter time another day.

If you want this to be different then the only way is to actually change something about it.
It is completely in your power.
Get up and go with them some times.
Say no to playing out with friends some times and plan something to do together.
Speak to your husband and get him to stay home some mornings and again, plan something.
Really, you just need to get up a bit earlier sometimes and join in with your family.

Erm…. Get up earlier?
Use your voice and say you’d like to come and arrange a time to leave.
Plan something for the afternoons and tell DD that there’s something planned.
This is a non problem.

How to make a problem out of nothing! Your DH sounds wonderful and your DD has lots of friends close by, how lucky you are. You've clearly made some great choices to be in this position so I'm sure you can overcome this dilemmma - which I do understand tbh.

Why not ear mark a certain number of weekend days each month for a family day out? And then enjoy having the others days to yourself but plan in advance what you might do, eg get jobs done, hobby, have a friend over etc.

think it’s a thing they want to do just them, it’s really early, about 8, if they waited a bit longer, just for me to have a coffee and get ready, we could all go

bless you OP, this made me spit my coffee out

you re lucky you don’t have an ADHD kid waking up at 5 deciding to wee in his bedroom 😣

my first coffee at weekends is at 9:30 if I’m lucky 😣

enjoy the paradise which I guarantee you it won’t last long 😜

8 is not early! Get up and go with them, or follow on and join them a bit later if you want.
This really is a you issue.

If there is something really specific you want to do as a family instead then make those arrangements, get up at a sensible time (ie when THEY are ready earlier) and go.

@Doanythingtostartalloveragain

So get up & go with them??

And/or plan something for later in the day?? She doesn't HAVE TO play outside with her friends every minute of the entire weekend, surely??

With the greatest of respect, you sound like you're whining & wallowing in self pity about a situation that you can completely change.

I don’t think you should get up earlier and join them. I think you should let them have this time to themselves. It’s a very good thing for both of them. I actually think it’s self-centred of you to begrudge it.