Dh & Dd going out early every weekend

No I'm not oddd, what are you basing that on? You know nothing about me.
A grown up who does the same every weekend appears rigid and boring to me. Doesn't sound like my idea of family life as others have said, and OP doesn't like it. You do you tho.

I think you're the odd one here.

OP isn't awake when they are, they want to go out, so they do. OP needs to get up earlier or make plans the day before if she wants to be included, not expect them to sit around until she's ready.

Yes, apparently you’re a Clique of two, ‘deliberately excluding’ your DH.

Well, as envisioned by someone who’s never grown up past the age of being devastated when someone didn’t invite her to her sixth birthday party.

Not odd because you're a woman so a) expected to do this and b) not a pedo 🙄

The difference is that OP doesn't prefer this arrangement. Key difference.

Sounds like the dad is stuck in some rut and a bit rigid.

@Doanythingtostartalloveragain have you suggested to your husband let's go to x,y,z next sunday?

Because it’s not odd at all
I am sure if she planned family days they would go (she said they did)
They both get up earlier than her and go out rather than stay in. She wants them to wait for her to have coffee and get ready. They just want to get up and go.
It’s obviously become their special routine and that’s fine.
I used to take mine swimming and for breakfast on a Saturday whilst DH had a lie in. He would have a movie and pizza night with them one evening whilst I was at work and have them Sunday morning whilst I had a lie in
We would do a lot as a family as well
Shes not being excluded. She’s chosen not to get up (which is fine) and is now being a martyr. She has the rest of both days to do something with them both. She just needs to arrange something!

I thought this after one of the updates but now I dont.

She hasn't explicitly said they have told her not to go...I think they just get ready and go whilst she is still in bed, after all, if she was up and ready, she could just get in the car and go.

If op wants to be a part of this, all she has to do is set an alarm and get up and ready, then go too.

If they prevent her from getting in the car or say "don't come" then I would agree but op says that isnt whats happening

Well done for putting a laughing face emoji in response to my post @LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway . I imagine you do the same on FB discussions when you see a post you disagree with.

Sign of the times sadly. Dismissive and ignorant.

So when I take my DS to town regularly on a Saturday and we have some fun or do something interesting, and DH stays at home because he prefers to to have a lie in or potter about alone at home, is that "odd"? Are we "deliberately excluding" him? Now that is a bonkers attitude!

It's hard to say, OP. On the face of it, it does seem that you are being unreasonable. 8am isn't early to be out and about when you have a young child (and as she's still interested in going to the playground, I assume she is under 10). It's also nice that she gets to spend some 1:1 time with her dad, especially if she doesn't see him much during the week.

It sounds like you just need to communicate more effectively with each other. If you want to do something specific, or spend time together, discuss this with your DH. Have a calendar on the wall where plans are written down so everyone can see. If you want to sometimes join them at the playground, do. If they want to keep that time to themselves, arrange something for Sunday that you all do together.

Does Op's husband not want to do something as a family? Ever? Odd.

It’s slightly different as my Mum worked nights but I have very fond memories of my Dad taking me and my brother out at the weekend. It is really nice to spend time with one parent. We had a lot of fun.

I’d just go with it and arrange something for later in the day on one of the days.

Shit.... same! Am just about to take 1 dc out just the two of us! @LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway should I cancel?! 😱

But she really isn't. The child (who we don't know the age of) has said she doesn't spend as much time with their dad as they do mum. The child probably now sees getting up early and going to the park as a nice thing to do with dad.
The OP states dad works more, so for all we know the OP could work part time, child is actually pre school age so mum takes them out several days a week on their own, so the child is simply wanting to even things out and have 1:1 time with dad, same as they do with their mum. Not strange or weird at all.

And it's not ODD if they are basically going out because the child and dad are already up, and waiting around for mum to sort herself out would mean half the day is gone.

Half the weekend every weekend and never ever asking the OP to do something together? And always going to the same place? So odd.

Am I speaking in Martian? The OP is deliberately being excluded, as the DH and her DD want to go alone. Read her posts for goodness sake. Them purposely excluding her is odd. I'm not repeating myself again. If people think it's not odd, then you do you. I think it is!

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Let them do it one day at the weekend, it sounds sweet, and do something as a family the other day. It might mean that you have to get up earlier than you would like but that’s the price you pay if you don’t want to be left out!

You're implying there is something inherently unsavoury about a parent spending time one to one with his own child.

I genuinely feel sorry for you.

There's absolutely nothing odd about a dad and his daughter wanting quality time together at the weekends.

OP could plan something for the whole family if she wanted - nobody is stopping her.

How odd. What's your husband like generally. He sounds quite unusual. What does he do after coming home from the playground? Sounds like he's actively avoiding you. And taking your dd out every weekend to the playground for about 5 hours doesn't sound like it's child centred, you say she is tired when they come back. Follow them next time and see where they spend these 5 hours. He wouldn't have a girlfriend whose house he goes to would he?

Op you sound pathetic
Mid week at dinner - arrange your weekend plans. Might be a day trip together on the Sunday, might be an afternoon out on the Saturday, might be a pizza and board games one evening. It doesn’t matter.
If you don’t communicate plans then they are going to do their own thing rather than wait around for you
Even if you don’t go as a family you can still take your daughter out one of the days. She can’t be that tired if she plays all afternoon with friends. She are also letting her do what she wants, you are the parent. Tell DH he has to be home by a certain time and then do something. Be an adult

@LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway what so you find "odd" and not normal about a parent regularly having outings with their child? I do it pretty much every week and I don't believe I am odd. Can you explain?

If course you can go out. Just say no to put with friends if you have plans to go somewhere. Mind you if plans are Sat in the house then I can see why your DD wants to play with friends instead

It's ODD because the DH and DD are not wanting the OP (the girl's mum) to go with them, like ever. How can anyone think this is not odd? She is being excluded. Why?