Dh & Dd going out early every weekend

Bear in mind that dd might love having some time alone with her father.

So just meet them there, would be a nice 40 min walk.

It's very sweet that your dh and dd want to spend some time together and this should be encouraged. I'm sure you also cherish the times you spend one on one with her. I think it would be wrong for you to try and prevent them having some one on one time.

This doesn't mean that you have to spend the weekends at home alone though, it's perplexing that you view things this way.

Are your dd's friends only available at weekends to play with her, which is why you're reluctant to make alternative plans with her in the afternoons?

If so, then enjoy your morning alone and make afternoon plans to see your friends or go to a class. Your dh can stay home to mind dd in the afternoon when she's playing with the neighbourhood friends.

Saturday and Sunday evenings can be family time. Or Sunday afternoon make a plan to go somewhere as a family for a few hours. Tell your dd's little friends, when they come knocking, that dd will only be available for a short while today because you're going out later.

She can have one on one time with her father (which is important), see her friends, you can get out of the house and have family time all in the same weekend if you change your attitude and make plans.

So, you have no reason, then?

It's not odd at all for a parent to want to spend one-on-one time with their child. They have multiple hours the rest of the day that they could spend together as a family but they're apparently are not doing that because the child needs to play with the other children in the neighborhood.

I do understand that whilst an 8am leave isn’t seen as early for many. Having a deadline of 8 that I had to be up and out of the door at the weekend (for no good reason really) would annoy me slightly. Though I’d be perfectly happy with a lie in and peace and quiet instead..!

Have you spoken to him ? Could he think hes doing you a favour?

Or, could you catch them up in an uber a couple of hours later?

Depends on context. If it's being done deliberately to exclude you, it's a problem. But unless you've had a chat about it, we don't know.

Have you chatted to your DH about this? There could be a compromise - - - one day they are up and out early and that’s their time. On Sunday they agree you’ll all go at 8.30/9 or do a different plan.

I would also start planning in other family stuff like day trips out. The playground is just really dull.

I don't understand why you don't go and join. Them once you're up and out?

Is this triggering some childhood feeling if abandonment? Do you feel that its like a date they are having that somehow shoves aside both your maternal role and your romantic role?

It’s interesting that she’s completely ignoring all of us saying this and instantly glommed onto the people saying her husband is purposefully excluding her.

Oh no, poor men!
How dare women have different opinions and feelings!

My mum won’t get up earlier and misses out on things. If you want to lay in bed that’s your choice- alternatively they’d be waiting around for you… some compromise is ok eg Sunday morning they go to the park bit Saturday family time begins 9:30!

Then you organise something for the weekend.

Make a plan for something you want to do and get them on board- e.g. next Saturday at 11am, I've got tickets to go to a wildlife park, so everyone needs to be ready to leave at 10:30. Then they are prepared not to get too overtired at the park.

There's not a chance I'd get up at 8am on a weekend day unless it was for something spectacular.

But if you just throw some clothes on and go you can have a coffee in the cafe. Cafe coffee always tastes so much better as well. Just go to bed earlier.

@LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnywayJust so you know-I’ve reported your nasty, insinuating post.

I have to say this is a crazy thread! Who would have thought that people (presumably mostly parents) would be criticising another parent for taking their kids out on the weekend while the second parent catches up on sleep, reads, does a hobby...whatever! Madness.

Your explanation does not explain why you are prohibited of doing other activities during the weekend - or you waiting until you are actually at breakfast to drink your coffee.

It’s not outside the realm of possibilities for you to wake up at 7.30am, throw some clothes on and some lipstick and concealer and make it out the door.

No one should have to wait for you to “get ready and drink a coffee” when the whole point of breakfast is to have coffee at breakfast.

I think this sounds like really nice bonding time for them. 8am isn’t particularly early so if you wanted to go you could easily join them. it’s hardly fair to expect them to wait for you to have a coffee for example, just have one in the cafe. Otherwise join them later, can you get another car or an e-bike, or ask them to go to a playground you can walk to? If you want to do something different as a family one day you’ll need to discuss it and agree it in advance, and ask them to come home straight after the cafe so you can all do the activity together.

Or he's doing it because it's what his daughter wants to do, and OP is still in bed at that time.

If OP doesn't like it, she can always get herself up earlier and make different plans, can't she?

Do something exciting in afternoon/evening or on Sunday so they want to do something with you.

I had this for a while - DH worked away and took then to dance and spent Saturday morning with them - I was still up in night and did all week me and kids so was exhausted and struggled to get up earlier.

Realised only changed when I sorted out a plan and task to do together - so did that - sometimes in house somtimes outside.

If you want family time then you need to sacrifice your long lie. Your DH and DD enjoy these outings so they shouldn't be made to sacrifice them so that you can have a lie in. As others have said, one morning DH and DD go and have some one on one time and you get time to yourself (find something to keep you busy if you're bored), and the other day you all have a family day out together. You'll still need to get up early though, not fair to have them waiting around for you half the day.

Let them go one day without muscling in other day get up early

The OP never said they told her not to come, only that she doesn't like to get up as early as they do Nothing stops her from going with them if she wants, as far as I can see from the info given so far.