Ok so this is sort of two separate issues but it has been making me reevaluate my relationship quite a bit. Firstly and most majorly, me and my partner are planning on moving, still looking for a suitable house to rent. I live in a fairly nice area in terns of low crime rate, it is student-y, but I’d prefer that to high crime. He lives closer to work currently but the area is a bit renown for crime, economic stagnation and overall less public transport/walk-friendly areas. He is pushing for us to move there solely because it is closer to his work, where I live, it is about a 35 min drive. I also work but mostly from home (bear in mind he could work from home but chooses not to). AIBU for being stubborn and wanting to stay in my area? My son is 12 too so him moving school is not something I want to do lightly. I just feel like my partner is putting himself first all to reduce what is only a 35 min drive that he does 4 days a week as he only works 4 days. I can be a bit blunt and I say that the area is horrible which makes him angry, which then annoys me more because he for some reason attaches this area to his identity and gets passionate about it.
secondly a bit more TMI, he has been suffering from a period of ED which I have been supporting him through, it is due to a situation of trauma he experienced. It has been about 8 months now, and I’ve suggested we get professional help but he’s very adamant against it which has left me silently frustrated. We’ve been together 2 years now and I wonder if it really is a good decision to move in and continue everything. Outside of these two issues we do get on very well