Allowed teenage daughter wear trainers DH bought for me

Be honest are you ever getting them back will they now be hers

This is probably why he used "naive". Will your daughter now claim them 'because they look so nice with my clothes'. They were barely in the house before you let her wear them anyway.

If you give someone a gift, they don’t use it but pretty much immediately give it away - how would you feel?
Of course you can do whatever you want with a gift, but basically immediately giving it to someone else in front of the givers eyes doesn’t exactly show appreciation.
You give me a gift. in front of yoyr eyes i hand it to the charity shop. Find of course, its mine now. Still rude.

Does DD get her own nice trainers? I'm on his side if everyone has nice things, and this was your turn but she took away the brand new-ness of them by getting the first wear. Just because she likes them doesn't mean she should have them.

I can't believe the amount of comments defending your husband.

They were a gift for you, gifts shouldn't have caveats or strings.

If you wanted to let her wear them and it made you happy, then I see no problem.

I actually get his point. He wanted you have something nice and you let daughter have it first. Be honest are you ever getting them back will they now be hers. I would be hurt as well

Actually I think the fact that he bought them with that voucher from work may be influencing his reaction here. He chose to spend that on you instead of himself and you let your daughter wear them first.
I originally thought he was being weird but it makes more sense now

Do you usually wear trainers? Did you even want them? Did he get you something you didn't really ask for or need? Did he discuss spending the voucher on you before he just did it?

It sounds like he had a vision for how things would go and it's not gone to plan somehow.

If you’d lent them out to a friend or sister etc he might have a point but a daughter living in your house? I don’t see the issue.

I can see his point, it's giving the impression that you don't really care about the gift

Is it?? I have never heard of this before. I would only share shoes in extremis - totally different from clothes but if OP had lent DD a brand new dress DH had bought i can imagine he'd be similarly upset

What a weird man. Do whatever you like.

Does he resent/hate your daughter or something? What a weird man, I’m guessing it’s very easy to piss him off and that he reacts irrationally to other things?

Hardly a gift if he decides how it can be used and dictates if things can be shared. Wanker.

Well how lovely for you 🤮🙄

How long have you had them and why haven't you worn them? Perhaps he sees it as you not wanting to wear them but letting DD

My DH wouldn’t bat an eyelid at this, in fact he’d probably roll his eyes, give me a kiss and tell me I was too kind.

I think it would depend on the manner of the gift and the reason behind it.
If DH bought me trainers as a "proper" present then he would be very hurt if I gave them to someone else to wear (which I never would). It would seem like I didn't like the trainers or value the time and effort put in to choosing and buying them for me.
If he picked me up a replacement for my normal tatty trainers that someone else regularly borrowed them I doubt it would even register. As the effort in doing buying those, although much appreciated, is much less personal.
I have a pair of flip-flops that I use for nipping outside numerous times a day. They are now called the family flip-flops as everyone uses them, whether they fit or not. They are replaced regularly at birthdays or Christmas. No-one would batt an eye, or even notice, if someone else used the new pair before me.
I suspect in this case the trainers were a gift that had a lot of thought and money put in to them. If I were the DH I would feel hurt and rejected too.

I don’t think he knows what naive means TBH.

You leant them to your dd, not a friend.

Is he setting it up so that he doesn’t have to buy you presents anymore? If this happens, call him out on his slyness and stop buying him presents too.

This.

Is she not his daughter?

My husband finds it hilarious (and loves it) that our daughter is now slightly taller than me and we borrow each other’s clothes/accessories/whatever.

In our situation, he would be worried that she would ruin my shoes as she’s not the most careful. She borrowed my worn twice chunky heeled Louboutins for dinner a few months back and was standing rolling back on the heels, and his brow was getting a bit sweaty (she isn’t unappreciative, but she does have ADHD so is not particularly careful!). But he would be as likely to buy her new trainers as me so I really don’t see the issue here!

Is your DD his DD? I think that makes a massive difference

It's fine to loan her the trainers OP, if that is the way you normally behave.
I would loan and give my two DDS anything but the difference is my Dh wouldn't mind a bit .