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Original poster

I just screamed 'Stop bullying my fucking kids' at my husband.

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thenoodlemachine · 31/05/2025 21:34

He was shouting at them and they were both crying. I lost it. I am feeling very fragile so please be nice.

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thenoodlemachine · 31/05/2025 21:45

This isn't a long term thing, it's only been the last couple of months.

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TheaBrandt1 · 31/05/2025 21:44

Sounds like a horrible unsustainable environment.

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thenoodlemachine · 31/05/2025 21:44

I know I sound insane. I have never screamed at anyone in my life. We have been together 20 years. I feel like I need to be on antipsychotics or something. What can I do to feel less terrible?

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MoreDangerousThanAWomanScorned · 31/05/2025 21:43

If I'm reading correctly everyone here was shouting? Which clearly isn't great, or a healthy family pattern, but it isn't quite the same as everyone else being cowed and DH alone going around shouting.

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thenoodlemachine · 31/05/2025 21:41

I have been getting annoyed the last few months over unequal distribution of housework. I ended up crying and screaming at him a few months ago because he said I was escalating when I brought it up after I had been snappy.

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AnnaBalfour · 31/05/2025 21:40

Hope you’re okay, take some time to settle down and relax with your daughters

your DH should be ashamed of himself and apologise profusely to you all

EmeraldRoulette · 31/05/2025 21:40

I cannot abide shouty people. It makes everything so incredibly unpleasant.

Did he have a good reason for shouting? Not that shouting ever helps anything.

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thenoodlemachine · 31/05/2025 21:38

Yes they are his kids. He and I had rowed over housework and he was shouting at 12 year old DD over her bedroom. 17 year old DD shouted at him to stop shouting at her because she was crying. Then all three of us were crying and he kept shouting.

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randomusernam · 31/05/2025 21:37

Well done, I’m sure this isn’t the first time he’s done this for you to have a strong reaction. I hate it when adults shout at crying kids. They’re kids and we all make mistakes. They’re still learning is shouting at them isn’t going to help.

Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 31/05/2025 21:37

No judgement OP. Is this part of an ongoing problem?

CaptainFuture · 31/05/2025 21:36

How old are they.and what else was happening?
Are they his kids?

WFHbore2023 · 31/05/2025 21:36

Hope you are ok OP.
are the kids with you?