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Original poster

Aibu to feel like an embarrassment to DH and my family?

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Amelia1909 · 31/05/2025 21:27

So my father who golfs with my DH tells him he’s concerned - apparently I look haggard. Nice choice of words. He wants to know if DH is missing something. Apparently im
so fat I must be drinking alcohol
to excess?? I’m bloated and fat according to my dad.

just absorbing this when DH is sitting outside with me this evening enjoying the late sun. I say why are you staring at me - he says ‘your eyebrows are blonde again do you need to do them’.

so I’m 52. Fair skinned and blonde. I feel
like utter shit. Everyone is judging me, my appearance, how I’m aging. Please tell
me I’m being unreasonable and others feel
like this?! This is not a vanity post. I think I look ok but evidently not. Do I need to man up and accept I look like crap or is this horrible?! Be gentle please. We have two teenage daughters age 17 and 18.

OP posts:
Barney16 · 31/05/2025 21:34

I would be absolutely raging. Tell them both to fuck right off.

ASimpleLampoon · 31/05/2025 21:34

So I take it your Dad looks like Anthony Hopkins and your DH Brad pitt? No? Oh well they can fuck off then.

Don't forget to give a full appraisal of your husbands disappointing peen tonight to return the favour.

Sunshineandrainbows23 · 31/05/2025 21:34

I'd be upset too, @Amelia1909 . How to make someone feel terrible in their own skin! I feel so cross for you. It's them not you. ❤

Dozer · 31/05/2025 21:33

If your father actually said that why the fuck did your H tell you, followed by a nasty comment of his own? Awful.

Christwosheds · 31/05/2025 21:33

Are you sure your Dad actually said this, or is it your DH’s version of what your dad supposedly said ?

Original poster
Amelia1909 · 31/05/2025 21:33

Ugh my sister is like just ignore it but I feel like a self conscious teenager again and just want to hide. The power of words eh! Thank you for not making me feel
like im not over thinking this xx

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NewShoesForSpring · 31/05/2025 21:32

Seriously! Who the fuck do they think they are?
You should comment on their beer bellies / receding hair/ veiny legs etc

JimJonesLivesInMyHead · 31/05/2025 21:31

Tell them both to get to fuck and buy themselves a mirror each..

Original poster
Amelia1909 · 31/05/2025 21:30

God honestly I’m so grateful
for your reply that I’m not insane and that it IS actually ok for me to feel upset about this whole thing.

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NewShoesForSpring · 31/05/2025 21:30

No you don't need to man up! You need to lose two men - those dickheads. How dare they!
I'm sure they could both give Brad Pitt a run for his money. Fuckers

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 31/05/2025 21:29

How absolutely horrible of your father and your husband.

I'm so sorry they've made you feel so bad about yourself.
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