9YOD Pubescent GC of neighbour running around with bra top & 'Booty shorts'

I'm sorry but you sound weird OP.
Why are you staring down other people's prepubescent kids and commenting on their clothing.
Do you find it sexual? Why do you care?

When I see children running round semi clothed I just ignore it. Same as I do with adult in bathing suits or scanty shorts.

Why would it impact on you what another person wears? Just look away.

Time to walk your own dog I think! #nutternextdoor

You mentioned her weight which was unnecessary and quite telling, you shamed a 9 year old and obviously made her feel bad enough for her gp's to have a word with you. No matter how you feel about her clothing it is not your place to comment to her, if you can't help but judge her just stay away. Also you mention that both you and your dh suffered abuse, did your clothing have anything to do with that or did it help to protect you? Surely you realise predators don't care what a child wears.

I don't think it was your place to say anything, however her parents should buy appropriate clothing for her. The outfit you describe is in my opinion not acceptable.

Christ OP you dont actually think what you did was ok? You told a child (that you are in no way related to) she should be covering her body..... did you even think about the message this sends to her?

That her body isnt her own
That she should be ashamed
That predators actions are her responsibility

She is young so hopefully you havent done any lasting damage but you and your partner sound like absolute nightmares and frankly a bit creepy

Exactly.

The sexualised image is in your head @Idratherreadabookthanks or are you concerned about your husband finding a 9 year old sexually attractive?

Well done for making her feel bad though. That's what you've done. You've affected her confidence.

You both need therapy.

You massively over stepped the mark here. While your intentions were good it wasn't for you to tell her how to dress

Booty shorts are adult clothing

The weight stuff definitely isn’t relevant and was unnecessary. I don’t think that kids should be dressed as the OP described though.

Adult lingerie is a bit different to a bralet and shorts.

And she is at 9.

It sounds as though OP is making her an adult with the 'pubescent' and 'overweight' staff.

It wasn't heels and a corset!

You are the ones projecting sexual connotations onto a very young child’s clothing. The fact you had to include detail on her weight is very telling.

You should be deeply ashamed of yourselves and I hope her grandparents keep her far away from you both.

It's not your place to tell someone else's child how to dress.

What is the relevance of her being overweight OP?

I’d be doing more than calmly knocking if you spoke to my boys like that. Mind your own damn business. I’m also a victim of child and adult SA.

I have a 10yo and whilst she runs around in swimsuit, or bralet and knickers in our garden, I would not allow her to wear a crop top in public.

... but that's my decision as a parent. I also don't let her have a phone, drink juice, or have too much screentime, which lots on here would think nuts. I would never ever dream of saying something to a parent who WAS letting their child do these things.

OP plenty of young wear athleisure wear in the form of crop tops or sports bras. They are for training/ comfort and not sexualised. Honestly I think you have way overstepped.

It’s not the norm. 9 year old children wear what their parents buy for them.

I hate the sexua;isagoon of chi;stem too. But I wouldn’t have told the child off.. it’s not my place.
Instead get angry at retailers who manufacture this stuff aimed at ‘tweens

It is you that it's making more of some clothing than the child and the child's family.

You are being massively unreasonable and I hope you haven't done harm to her confidence.

you have probably caused that poor girl years of problems by being ashamed of . her body
I was abused as a child but these days it is a norm for skimpy clothes I often see my granddaughter and think that she wears a lot less than I ever got away with at her age but this is the way fashion is these days. good luck to them
I hope you would not be so rude to your own granddaughters

Of course not. Doesn’t change the fact that children should be children.

If it doesn’t matter then you’d all let your children go around naked at 9 if they wanted to? Wouldn’t matter who saw them or was near them

Looks like you'll have to walk your own bloody dog now. Yay you.

Whilst I too think it's really inappropriate for girls that age to dress like that, it's absolutely none of my business if they do. You can't go round telling girls who are not your own DD how to dress, whatever your view of their outfit.

If that was the case, would you be ok with her wearing a corset and suspenders?