9YOD Pubescent GC of neighbour running around with bra top & 'Booty shorts'

I did, because I was THAT confident I wouildnt find anything innapropriate and, I was right. Not even on shein or temu

I wouldn’t allow my own nine year old to go anywhere showing her belly but I’d be pretty cross with anyone who commented on it if I did. Mind your own business.

Frankly if “protecting her” was a concern then Eve being unsupervised alone with an unrelated adult man in a “friend of the family” scenario (ie your husband) is riskier than the crop top. No way would I let my own nine year old daughter be going off with my parents’ male neighbour alone, and certainly not if they ever dared mentioned what she was wearing.

If I were your neighbour I would seriously be contacting someone to get your devices checked.

You and your dh have absolutely no place telling a child to cover up, or commenting on her weight and physical development.

I am talking in general, as I am sure you are already aware.

I'd be quietly shocked at a child dressing like this to be honest. However, I would be horrified and worried that my child was being sexualised if an adult told them to cover up, especially with a comment about them developing in to a woman.

What did this child need protected from?

Well, I am sure you can but I am certainly not about to Google it!

Child protection is everyone’s business

You can't even get shorts for kids that are what the op is implying. She's implying Kylie Minogue esq hotpants.

They will just be regular kids shorts.

It still wouldn't be my business what a child unrelated to me was wearing.

Might have been with good intentions but it wasn't your place to say

I wouldn’t let mine wear something like that out alone but I wouldn’t comment on someone else’s child wearing something like that. I think you need to apologise to your neighbours and if you feel comfortable perhaps explain as you have done here.
For what it’s worth those saying clothes don’t make a difference to predators, not sure that’s strictly true. I was sexually assaulted when I was 7. He’d probably been working up to it for a while but when he actually crossed the line was when I had just come from gymnastics. I think generally predators are opportunistic so the child wandering around in skimpy clothing might not be an issue but she’s also a child that’s going into neighbours houses alone at 9 and has been walking a dog around an estate since she was 5. The child probably is vulnerable. The clothes are probably part of a wider picture of the family not looking after her properly

Honestly it was none of your business. I would be furious if a neighbour told my grandaughter that her outfit was unsuitable and to get changed.

‘Eve' is becoming a young woman now
Really not appropriate for any man to say this about a child, comes across massively creepy.

Your intentions were honest and I don’t like booty shorts on kids or teenagers either but it’s for the parents to decide what they are comfortable with. It’s ok to disagree and do things differently yourself but not ok to tell other people what their kids/grandkids should wear

YABU twice over - body shaming a 9 year old AND letting her walk your dog since she was 4! You should never leave a child that young alone with a dog.

Or so you mean you walk round with her and didn’t want to be seen with her in her “pre-teen hooker” look?

She isn’t your daughter or even your granddaughter. This was none of your business. You’ve upset a little girl and your neighbours for absolutely no good outcome. Except apparently some weird sense of judgemental superiority over a child you think is overweight. Badly done I’m afraid.

Personally I don’t like to see little girls wearing hijabs. I also don’t like to see little girls wearing bra tops. But I would never say so to the child or parents. Not my place.

No but it can sadly get a predator off the hook in a court of law.

OP I think we should allow women to wear what they want, but equally I can understand the protection thing. We’re in a messy place where we want to protect girls and women but equally they should be allowed to do what they want without being told that makes them wrong and at risk. It’s all a big old fucking mess.

That’s certainly not what I know booty shorts to be. The pic you have posted is absolutely fine.

Since when is a 9 year old girl 'a young woman'.

She was doing you a favour, and youve body shamed her and accused her grandparents of not protecting her and sending her round half naked.
You are the ones sexualising a little girl.

I expect so.

I have assumed the outfit is like this. I see lots of little girls in this kind of outfit.

How is this in any way provocative or innapropriate?

Fucking hell!!! 😱🤯

Congratulations for body shaming a 9 year old!

YAB MASSIVELY U!

Not your place. You might have had a word with the grandparents, but ultimately it’s not their place either. It’s hard enough for girls going into puberty that young without every adult policing their appearance. Yes, predatory adults might get off on seeing her in that outfit, but she will now definitely be starting to learn to be ashamed of her body. Badly done.

You’ve really really overstepped. Sorry.

not ok to say anything to kids you are not related to.

It wasn’t your place to say and you’ve insulted what she is wearing (which can effect self-esteem) and also insulted your friends by suggesting they don’t know what is best for their Grand daughter when she is in their care. It is going to have come across as superior and judgemental and might make them question why you wanted her covered up around your DH.

I can see your intentions were good and I wouldn’t allow my child to wear such things at that age, but it is up to the parents/grandparents to vocalise.