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There's something racist about toilet provision in the UK.

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The13thFairy · 31/05/2025 06:53

Am I being unreasonable to think there's something racist about 'oh, women and men can use the same toilets' here in the UK, when in developing countries and refugee camps, providing clean, safe and separate facilities for girls and women is seen to be of the utmost importance - because we know those foreign fellas will prey on them every chance they get; peeping, assaulting, you name it. Our British chaps, though, wouldn't say boo to a goose! Perfectly safe. Won't cause a moment's unease. Totally trustworthy, every man jack of them.

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sundaybloodysunday12 · 31/05/2025 12:57

I’m all for calling out racism. But this isn’t it.

Annoyedone · 31/05/2025 12:55

ObelixtheGaul · 31/05/2025 12:54

You'd have to ask them that. I might look on their website and see if they address that point, or if there's a message board to ask on.

Ooh yes, I’ll do that too. I’d love to hear their reasoning.

ObelixtheGaul · 31/05/2025 12:54

Annoyedone · 31/05/2025 12:49

Exactly, so why are amnesty international so invested in single sex spaces in the developing world? Surely creating mixed sex toilets would save money and space, freeing up resources for solving other problems. Instead of having to create two blocks, they could just build one.

You'd have to ask them that. I might look on their website and see if they address that point, or if there's a message board to ask on.

Nameychangington · 31/05/2025 12:53

Seventree · 31/05/2025 12:31

Refugee camps generally see higher levels of crime, including sexual violence, because they house a mixture of people who are vulnerable, have experienced trauma, and have little left to lose. Not because of the demographic of who lives there.

Race has nothing to do with it, they would be dangerous in any country, and housing people from any culture/race/religion.

It's not racist to say that gender neutral toilets in a cinema or office in the UK are a better idea than gender neutral toilets in a refugee camp. It's just common sense.

Unisex facilities are not a good idea anywhere. Not for women

https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/women/sexual-assault-unisex-changing-rooms-sunday-times-women-risk-a8519086.html

Unisex changing rooms put women at danger of sexual assault, data reveals

The vast majority of reported sexual assaults at public swimming pools in the UK take place in unisex changing rooms, new statistics reveal.

https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/women/sexual-assault-unisex-changing-rooms-sunday-times-women-risk-a8519086.html

Annoyedone · 31/05/2025 12:49

ObelixtheGaul · 31/05/2025 12:39

But what space are you sharing? The bit where you wash your hands. That's it. It's not like you have to sit on a long plank with holes in and have to see a willy as you squat, is it?

I just don't get all this. All we have to share in a gender neutral toilets is fucking wash basin and hand dryer.

Exactly, so why are amnesty international so invested in single sex spaces in the developing world? Surely creating mixed sex toilets would save money and space, freeing up resources for solving other problems. Instead of having to create two blocks, they could just build one.

Tbrh · 31/05/2025 12:44

Wow, you've managed to undermine racism, developing countries and refugees all at once. Well done! 👍 Feel free to go and live in a refugee camp if you feel they have it better than you.

ObelixtheGaul · 31/05/2025 12:39

Helpmeplease2025 · 31/05/2025 12:34

It’s not the same; it’s totally different issue.

The fact that some people live in awful refugee camps does not mean women here have to share spaces with men. And TW are men.

But what space are you sharing? The bit where you wash your hands. That's it. It's not like you have to sit on a long plank with holes in and have to see a willy as you squat, is it?

I just don't get all this. All we have to share in a gender neutral toilets is fucking wash basin and hand dryer.

latetothefisting · 31/05/2025 12:36

Um, "British" isn't a race?

Helpmeplease2025 · 31/05/2025 12:34

It’s not the same; it’s totally different issue.

The fact that some people live in awful refugee camps does not mean women here have to share spaces with men. And TW are men.

Seventree · 31/05/2025 12:31

Refugee camps generally see higher levels of crime, including sexual violence, because they house a mixture of people who are vulnerable, have experienced trauma, and have little left to lose. Not because of the demographic of who lives there.

Race has nothing to do with it, they would be dangerous in any country, and housing people from any culture/race/religion.

It's not racist to say that gender neutral toilets in a cinema or office in the UK are a better idea than gender neutral toilets in a refugee camp. It's just common sense.

MyUmberSeal · 31/05/2025 12:25

AffableApple · 31/05/2025 12:19

Women and children are already very vulnerable in camps.

Making sure you don't piss next to a bloke in the loo in M&S isn't the same.

Stop with the rage bait.

Voice of reason. I can’t get on board with the fuss about this. It’s not racist at all.
Im a woman, and I don’t use same sex toilets with fear. Actually, quite often the womens toilets have huge queues because females take forever and a lifetime to wee. If I know there is a cubicle in the blokes toilets, I’m going to use it.

Pluvia · 31/05/2025 12:20

ObelixtheGaul · 31/05/2025 11:06

Can we get some perspective, here? UK gender neutral toilets have cubicles with lockable doors.

Women in the countries various aid groups are campaigning for often have to go out in the open. In fields, as one PP mentioned, by the roadside, sometimes even in the street.

Nobody has to take their knickers down in the UK in the open. That's the difference.

If gender neutral toilets had no doors, or had urinals for the men, you'd have a point.

The only difference between gender neutral and ladies only loos is you might see a man next to you at the wash basin. You cannot compare that with having to take your knickers down and lift your dress up in full view of anyone walking past.

So why aren't Amnesty and various other similar aid organisations campaigning for mixed sex toilet cubicles with doors? Why do they know exactly what a woman is, and what dangers women face as a result of their biology, in India or sub-Saharan Africa, but here in the UK and Western Europe they think men can be women and women should be happy to share loos with men?

Amnesty applied to have their position on this heard as part of the the Supreme Court judgement between the Scottish Government and For WomenScotland. Amnesty and the Scottish government took the line that men who identify as women are women and should be allowed access to access women's single-sex spaces. The Supreme Court said no, 'sex' in the Equality Act 2010 clearly means biological sex and men can never be women.

We really ought to be asking what Amnesty has against women in the UK, that it refuses to acknowledge the risk of men in women's spaces. Decent men stay out so that the bad father actors stand out.

Dangermoo · 31/05/2025 12:19

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 31/05/2025 12:16

It’s not racist to have separate facilities for men and women.
Trans shite has its rancid tentacles everywhere.
Which is another reason why the Supreme Court decision is so important.

👏 👏

AffableApple · 31/05/2025 12:19

Women and children are already very vulnerable in camps.

Making sure you don't piss next to a bloke in the loo in M&S isn't the same.

Stop with the rage bait.

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 31/05/2025 12:16

It’s not racist to have separate facilities for men and women.
Trans shite has its rancid tentacles everywhere.
Which is another reason why the Supreme Court decision is so important.

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 31/05/2025 12:16

It’s not racist to have separate facilities for men and women.
Trans shite has its rancid tentacles everywhere.
Which is another reason why the Supreme Court decision is so important.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 31/05/2025 12:12

Reallybadidea · 31/05/2025 07:09

I think I see what you're getting at. However, I think the TRA position isn't that men and women can safely use toilets together, but that TWAW and should use the women's because they're not safe in the men's

Yes alot of TRAs seem to actively not want universal toilets or individual stalls for everyone. Which makes you think.

Dangermoo · 31/05/2025 12:12

Brefugee · 31/05/2025 12:08

No. There are huge inequalities between life in Britain and, say, India in many respects.

So should we stop wanting better things for ourselves, or to get our single sex spaces back, until everyone in India has access to a toilet with a door? Don't be soft.

It is perfectly possible to want both things. Or are you going to forego all your wage increases until everyone in India earns the same as you? Or are you going to stop going to school at 10 until all girls in the world get to go to secondary?

Well if I still had a wage, I wouldn't be comparing any increase to that in India. Why would I? You can be concerned about (perceived) inequalities, without forcing a label on it; which the OP has.

Brefugee · 31/05/2025 12:08

No. There are huge inequalities between life in Britain and, say, India in many respects.

So should we stop wanting better things for ourselves, or to get our single sex spaces back, until everyone in India has access to a toilet with a door? Don't be soft.

It is perfectly possible to want both things. Or are you going to forego all your wage increases until everyone in India earns the same as you? Or are you going to stop going to school at 10 until all girls in the world get to go to secondary?

Dangermoo · 31/05/2025 12:06

Brefugee · 31/05/2025 12:00

most people i know are able to be concerned at several different issues before breakfast.

So it is possible to wish for more single sex facilities in the UK and also wish for any single sex facilities in other places. And the two are not equated because they are two separate issues.

The starting point is having access to toilet facilities per se. Anything, thereafter, might be considered a luxury.

Brefugee · 31/05/2025 12:00

AgentJohnson · 31/05/2025 09:36

Ohhh FFS! The pivots that some posters are willing to make in order to make a point is at best tedious and at worst, insulting.

Around 1.4 billion people have no access to a private toilet and around 2 billion have no access to clean water in their home. It's hardly the same fight. I think it's a bit disgusting to equate the two

This with fucking bells on!!!!!!

most people i know are able to be concerned at several different issues before breakfast.

So it is possible to wish for more single sex facilities in the UK and also wish for any single sex facilities in other places. And the two are not equated because they are two separate issues.

MsEm · 31/05/2025 11:28

Annoyedone · 31/05/2025 11:16

But isn’t it racist to imply men of certain cultures cannot be trusted in mixed sex spaces but men of other cultures are? Can you imagine if a Reformed politician said that? These orgs are implying men in developing countries are more dangerous to women than Western men. If they did not believe thst, they would be campaigning for mixed sex toilets in developing countries as well as in the UK wouldn’t they?

Of course it's xenophobic to make that claim about men from other cultures. I'm still not sure it's racist, but certainly that statement is xenophobic. But the OP original question/point about the "toilet provision in thus country is racist"....that was odd. I understand the comments about cultural differences impacting the very presence of a unisex facility...but, im just saying that I believe it's possibly xenophobic rather than racist. Being a potential sex offender isn't more likely because of where you're from- and yes, whoever made that sort of statement needs to explain what they're actually saying. There's enough discrimination in this world, without orgs drumming up unnecessary fear.

Annoyedone · 31/05/2025 11:16

MsEm · 31/05/2025 11:08

Definition of Racism- Racism is when a person is treated worse, excluded, disadvantaged, harassed, bullied, humiliated or degraded because of their race or ethnicity.

This isn't an issue for Race. It's not xenophobic either. It's gender politics.

But isn’t it racist to imply men of certain cultures cannot be trusted in mixed sex spaces but men of other cultures are? Can you imagine if a Reformed politician said that? These orgs are implying men in developing countries are more dangerous to women than Western men. If they did not believe thst, they would be campaigning for mixed sex toilets in developing countries as well as in the UK wouldn’t they?

ObelixtheGaul · 31/05/2025 11:15

Annoyedone · 31/05/2025 11:01

So why are amnesty international not campaigning for mixed sex toilets with doors in India? They are campaigning for single sex spaces in developing countries. If mixed sex spaces are so safe, why not campaign for them in India?

Because at the moment they are campaigning for something that doesn't exist at all in a culture that isn't used to the concept of PT. This is a starting point. But it should be pointed out that there are also sanitation reasons for providing toilets and this issue is also being addressed by aid organisations so that toilet facilities are available to all.

Gender neutral toilets are not a new thing in this country. I have been in plenty of restaurants where there is one toilet area for both genders with two cubicles and a washbasin area. Nobody thought this was a problem, mostly because it isn't a problem.

Unisex toilets have existed here in various spaces for at least 50 years. Not every public space has room for separate toilet facilities.

PrettyParrot · 31/05/2025 11:12

I agree with your point OP - the implication is that men in the UK are civilised and can be trusted to not assault women, while men in other countries are uncivilised and can't be trusted. Imo there are men who will happily commit assault anywhere and so both sets of women need protection.