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2nd Date, he embarrassed me in a restaurant

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RTooDeeTo · 30/05/2025 19:42

Am I over reacting here? I suspect I might be.

1st date went well, 2nd date today. We went for for late/early dinner. nice restaurant. We got talking about Austria, Switzerland etc and he said “I can yodel”. I just laughed so he said “I can show you?” So I laughed again and said “in the middle of a restaurant?”

He then started yodelling loudly. I swear everyone turned around and looked at us. I’m normally pretty passive and would usually just quietly die inside but on this occasion I was beyond embarrassed, absolutely mortified and snapped “Shush!”

He laughed and said “what?” So I said “seriously? We’re in the middle of a restaurant”. He said sorry (whilst still laughing) and tried to change the subject but I couldn’t get past it. Who does that?

I don’t like being centre of attention and yes I embarrass easy. I ended up going home early as I just couldn’t stop thinking about it. He’s messaged me since asking if everything is ok, I don’t think he’s actually associating my change in mood to the yodelling incident!! Making me think maybe I’m over reacting??

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Londonrach1 · 30/05/2025 21:19

You asked he did it....when you get Abit older you honestly don't care about randoms in the restaurant and being embarrassed..who cares...the main question is do you enjoy being with him and does he treat you well. If not don't meet again if you do meet him again...

Waitingfordoggo · 30/05/2025 21:14

I think this would make me wish the ground would open up and swallow me if it happened to me. I’m a massive introvert and find uber-extroverted people exhausting.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 30/05/2025 21:13

This is the point of dating, to find out whether you're compatible together.

Someone who embarrasses easily and someone immune to embarrassment, probably not that compatible.

Pbjsand · 30/05/2025 21:12

Mydahliasareshit · 30/05/2025 20:02

Attention seeking men are really hard work. You can never relax or fully trust when you never know when the next impromptu performance will be. It's always about them and how fucking 'gregarious' and 'people person-y' they are. He will shrink you if you let him.

This^

dudsville · 30/05/2025 21:10

It's uncommon behavior, one that requires a potential partner to be able to match in kind.

Ethylred · 30/05/2025 21:09

This is Mumsnet, people think it's fine to take effluent like McDonalds into a cinema so yodelling in a restaurant is just a bit of banter. You're being judgey. Which is the MN sin of sins.

Fluffypussycat · 30/05/2025 21:08

If you stick with him, don’t go booking any alpine holidays! 🤣🤣

IleftmybaginNewportPagnell · 30/05/2025 21:03

Just thank the Lord you brought up the subject of Austria and Switzerland this soon!

Shesellsseashellsnotinmystreet · 30/05/2025 20:59

Jeez lighten up op. Not light he lit a fart in Harrods.....

LogicalBlodge · 30/05/2025 20:56

My19thNervousNameChange · 30/05/2025 20:54

Heavens but you lot are gullible Grin

What is this - Sistine Chapel The Restaurant Edit?

😆 Does OP mean she snapped and farted?

SnowFrogJelly · 30/05/2025 20:56

Yodelling is a red flag….

LogicalBlodge · 30/05/2025 20:55

That's quite early to bring out the wierd.

I'd personally die but I have a real thing about it as my mum used to never be able to control the volume of her voice in public 😆

My19thNervousNameChange · 30/05/2025 20:54

Heavens but you lot are gullible Grin

What is this - Sistine Chapel The Restaurant Edit?

SunnieShine · 30/05/2025 20:54

What a dick.

Bridgetjonesheart · 30/05/2025 20:54

He sounds like good fun!

GlitteryUnicornSparkles · 30/05/2025 20:52

Just place marking as I want to know if he was actually any good!?

beAsensible1 · 30/05/2025 20:51

Yes it is embarrassing leaving is a bit much though. But If it bothered you then that’s fine you don’t need a reason

id have laughed 😂

Perhapsanothertime · 30/05/2025 20:51

😂😂😂

was he any good?

TheHillsIsLonely · 30/05/2025 20:50

I might get past it if he looks good in lederhosen.

JustAnInchident · 30/05/2025 20:48

This is absolutely hilarious! I mean… was he good at yodelling? 😂 my whole answer, I fear, hinges on that.

No, seriously though, if you’re not into him, you’re not. If you have the ick, you do and there’s no coming back from that! Just call it a day and move on.

babystarsandmoon · 30/05/2025 20:47

There’s no going back from the ick on date 2.

Cherrysoup · 30/05/2025 20:46

Oh my days, I’d have sunk through the floor in shame! I don’t think you’ll be seeing him again, will you? He sounds very extrovert. Fun is great but that was crazy attention seeking.

BeachBabe998 · 30/05/2025 20:46

I would find this hilarious but it would also make my vagina clamp shut. Not sexy, at all 😂

TheHillsIsLonely · 30/05/2025 20:46

Does he live high on a hill, is he lonely and does he work as a goatherd?

Beautifulweeds · 30/05/2025 20:43

I would find this hilarious 😂 However it sounds like you're different types of people; he doesn't care about what others think and you do. Personally I prefer someone who likes fun, though he could be a lot to handle and I settled with a DH who wasn't like this but my friends are.

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