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2nd Date, he embarrassed me in a restaurant

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RTooDeeTo · 30/05/2025 19:42

Am I over reacting here? I suspect I might be.

1st date went well, 2nd date today. We went for for late/early dinner. nice restaurant. We got talking about Austria, Switzerland etc and he said “I can yodel”. I just laughed so he said “I can show you?” So I laughed again and said “in the middle of a restaurant?”

He then started yodelling loudly. I swear everyone turned around and looked at us. I’m normally pretty passive and would usually just quietly die inside but on this occasion I was beyond embarrassed, absolutely mortified and snapped “Shush!”

He laughed and said “what?” So I said “seriously? We’re in the middle of a restaurant”. He said sorry (whilst still laughing) and tried to change the subject but I couldn’t get past it. Who does that?

I don’t like being centre of attention and yes I embarrass easy. I ended up going home early as I just couldn’t stop thinking about it. He’s messaged me since asking if everything is ok, I don’t think he’s actually associating my change in mood to the yodelling incident!! Making me think maybe I’m over reacting??

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mumofoneAlonebutokay · 30/05/2025 21:55

WiganWheel · 30/05/2025 21:51

@mumofoneAlonebutokay psychotic? Seriously? Daft yes….embarrassing….maybe….well….he’s different, that’s for sure. But not psychotic. That’s a horrible thing to say.

Psychotic

Patrick Bateman would get chills

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american psycho dancing GIF
TwistedWonder · 30/05/2025 21:54

ilovesooty · 30/05/2025 21:49

What would you have done? Climbed out of the toilet window or something?

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Why would I climb out of a window when there’s a perfectly decent door to leave through?

ObliviousCoalmine · 30/05/2025 21:53

God. I’d have left immediately.

My19thNervousNameChange · 30/05/2025 21:52

Bleachedlevis · 30/05/2025 21:39

Bloody ridiculous behaviour. Who the f**k does that in a restaurant?

If I were to take an educated guess I'm fairly sure the answer would be 'Nobody'

Grin
Masmavi · 30/05/2025 21:52

He’s obviously an extrovert and you’re not. Probably just not compatible, no one’s fault.

WiganWheel · 30/05/2025 21:51

@mumofoneAlonebutokay psychotic? Seriously? Daft yes….embarrassing….maybe….well….he’s different, that’s for sure. But not psychotic. That’s a horrible thing to say.

Emonade · 30/05/2025 21:50

SheridansPortSalut · 30/05/2025 21:24

From experience - get out now. It'll only get worse.

You dates a yodeller?

ilovesooty · 30/05/2025 21:49

TwistedWonder · 30/05/2025 20:40

I wouldn’t have got through the date. I’d have gone to the ladies and not returned.
I can’t stand show offs and this would have made me cringe so hard I couldn’t get past it.

What would you have done? Climbed out of the toilet window or something?

Sunnyevenings · 30/05/2025 21:43

When I was younger I'd have been mortified by causing attention in the restaurant. Since my mid 40s, I admire people for not giving a shit about what other people think of them tbh. We're dead long enough.......

jetlag92 · 30/05/2025 21:43

No that's inappropriate. He doesn't know how to behave in public

SunDash · 30/05/2025 21:40

On the plus side, he was obviously excited to be with you...is that a good thing? You decide.

Bleachedlevis · 30/05/2025 21:39

Bloody ridiculous behaviour. Who the f**k does that in a restaurant?

EdgarAllenRaven · 30/05/2025 21:39

I would give him one more chance…
sometimes people do embarrass themselves on dates, especially when they’re nervous. He might calm down a bit with time… or you may be incompatible. But he deserves another chance if he is nice in other ways.

MyRootinTootinBaby · 30/05/2025 21:39

Could he actually yodel though?

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 30/05/2025 21:39

Emonade · 30/05/2025 21:37

I’m not sure you know what psychopathy is. He obviously just thought it was funny.

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😭😭😭 omg no, sometimes hyperbole is necessary!

Emonade · 30/05/2025 21:37

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 30/05/2025 19:47

Omg! 😄😄 no, youre not at all, he needs to be chucked back! Psychotic behaviour

I’m not sure you know what psychopathy is. He obviously just thought it was funny.

Camille99 · 30/05/2025 21:34

It's the second date so if he embarrassed you it's a no. Just don't see him again. No harm done.

pinkyredrose · 30/05/2025 21:33

SheridansPortSalut · 30/05/2025 21:24

From experience - get out now. It'll only get worse.

Did you have a yodelling date too? Did he try to get you to perform as a duo?

SantiagoShaming · 30/05/2025 21:31

Definitely throw this one back. I couldn’t date someone with no social graces who doesn’t mind making a spectacle of themselves.

Attention seeking is such an unattractive quality.

Gyozas · 30/05/2025 21:28

I think he sounds fun. But I don’t embarrass all that easily.

Mum2jenny · 30/05/2025 21:26

Seems almost a 50/50 split. I couldn’t be with someone who had so little social awareness about their behaviour in a closed public space.
If he’d chosen to yodel on a mountain or outside location, I’d feel it was more acceptable. However, inside a restaurant, just no!!

SheridansPortSalut · 30/05/2025 21:24

From experience - get out now. It'll only get worse.

RollerSkateLikePeggy · 30/05/2025 21:22

This just sounds plain rude to the other people in the restaurant, which I hate. So that's a hard no from me.

ANiceCuppaTeaandBiscuit · 30/05/2025 21:20

I laughed out loud at this one, and that’s rare from a post! I get that it would put you off. TBH it probably would me too. But I also think fair play to him, that’s hilarious, I bet he’s great fun. I kinda want to be friends with him.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 30/05/2025 21:20

Waitingfordoggo · 30/05/2025 21:14

I think this would make me wish the ground would open up and swallow me if it happened to me. I’m a massive introvert and find uber-extroverted people exhausting.

That’s not what introvert and extrovert mean. They just describe where you get energy.

I don’t embarrass easily, this wouldn’t bother me.

BUT it bothers you and that’s all that matters.