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2nd Date, he embarrassed me in a restaurant

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RTooDeeTo · 30/05/2025 19:42

Am I over reacting here? I suspect I might be.

1st date went well, 2nd date today. We went for for late/early dinner. nice restaurant. We got talking about Austria, Switzerland etc and he said “I can yodel”. I just laughed so he said “I can show you?” So I laughed again and said “in the middle of a restaurant?”

He then started yodelling loudly. I swear everyone turned around and looked at us. I’m normally pretty passive and would usually just quietly die inside but on this occasion I was beyond embarrassed, absolutely mortified and snapped “Shush!”

He laughed and said “what?” So I said “seriously? We’re in the middle of a restaurant”. He said sorry (whilst still laughing) and tried to change the subject but I couldn’t get past it. Who does that?

I don’t like being centre of attention and yes I embarrass easy. I ended up going home early as I just couldn’t stop thinking about it. He’s messaged me since asking if everything is ok, I don’t think he’s actually associating my change in mood to the yodelling incident!! Making me think maybe I’m over reacting??

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whackamole666 · 31/05/2025 23:07

Hmmm ...... You're not compatible.

pineapplesundae · 31/05/2025 22:56

This is the way.

ImGoneUnderground · 31/05/2025 22:01

Was it impressive yodelling? Or like a yak caught in too tight jeans? If impressive, then maybe take it in good fun, it may be his 'party piece' to try & impress you if you were talking about 'yodelling places' anyway - if it gave you the Ick, then maybe be just be a good friend with a 'Sound Of Music' obsession? (did anyone else in the restaurant really care??).🤔Or take him outside next time (if there is a next time) & go round with a collecting hat? (or, does he come from somewhere that yodelling is a mating call??). However, he did ask first, laugh & say sorry afterwards though.....I would go on a 3rd date & see what happens, just for the heck of it...you may look back in 20 years & laugh together - or you may 'delete & block' - just out of interest - where did you meet him?

BunnyLake · 31/05/2025 20:58

If I had liked him up until then I’d give him a second chance but with the condition of no more yodelling. If he went on to something else equally cringe then I’d knock it on the head. You need someone you can take places without worrying they'll show you up.

Dawnb19 · 31/05/2025 20:23

He seems like fun. It's good to lighten up sometimes. It could have also been the nerves.

asrl78 · 31/05/2025 20:17

He is not from SE England is he, where in my experience situational awareness is dreadful?

BrickBiscuit · 31/05/2025 19:58

CoraPirbright · 31/05/2025 19:24

Tell him you were utterly mortified by his preposterous antics in a public place and see what he says. I am an extrovert but am keenly aware of others comfort and have standards, damn it, so his answer will tell you all you need to know. If he is staggered and non-plussed by your reaction, throw him back into the sea. If, however, he was just trying to impress and got it v wrong, it might be worth a second look.

No, definitely not worth a second look. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Bleachedlevis · 31/05/2025 19:54

ilovesooty · 30/05/2025 21:49

What would you have done? Climbed out of the toilet window or something?

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Yes, of course she’d have climbed through the bathroom window isn’t that what everyone does? 🤪

CoraPirbright · 31/05/2025 19:24

Tell him you were utterly mortified by his preposterous antics in a public place and see what he says. I am an extrovert but am keenly aware of others comfort and have standards, damn it, so his answer will tell you all you need to know. If he is staggered and non-plussed by your reaction, throw him back into the sea. If, however, he was just trying to impress and got it v wrong, it might be worth a second look.

PlainJaneBrain · 31/05/2025 19:19

Give him another chance, take him out and give him your best whale call impression!😶

pollymere · 31/05/2025 18:58

You should have said "maybe later" rather than "what, here in the restaurant?" He may just like fooling around and is less inhibited. It wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. I have a friend like this and you just have to step in and say something when it pushes outside of your comfort zone. He's an amazing, generous friend so the minor embarrassment is worth it!

GiveDogBone · 31/05/2025 18:54

Sounds like he is an extrovert and you are an introvert. Not the ideal combination.

Bandit24 · 31/05/2025 18:44

Really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. You didn’t like it and you mentioned it. He dismissed your concerns on a second date! That’s important and if you absolutely can’t take that then you can’t. It’s perfectly reasonable to walk away

NooNakedJacuzziness · 31/05/2025 18:27

When he finished I hope one of the other diners said "I'll have what he's having"

GentleJadeOP · 31/05/2025 18:15

It would be funny if you got as far as having sex and he started yodelling 🤣

SamphiretheTervosaur · 31/05/2025 18:08

That would be simultaneously the most embarrassing and the funniest thing ever to happen on a date

If it isn't for you tell him. If you like him give him another chance, if he does similar agin walk away

Best of luck getting rid of the feeling of mortification

TatteredAndTorn · 31/05/2025 18:06

It’s nice to be with someone that would do crazy things and make you laugh. All the more important as you age tbh and life can get very hard and boring. I would have felt mildly embarrassed but also would have found it funny. But if that’s not for you I’d knock it on the head. You shouldn’t be a in relationship where one person is suppressing the other because they find them embarrassing. Not good for either of you.

Isinglass20 · 31/05/2025 17:51

I’d be watching the waiters tittering and assuming he’d had too much wine, and the knowing looks and nudges if you went back 🤣🤣

ChristmasFluff · 31/05/2025 16:56

He's not the one for you, OP. Your life will be full of experiences like this if he lacks filter, so don't sign up for it if that isn't what you want.

There are plenty of women who love men who don't give a shit about showing themselves up and who act daft. Let him meet one of those.

BunnyLake · 31/05/2025 15:40

BangersAndGnash · 31/05/2025 10:26

Go on another date, turn up in a full Heidi outfit.
Or possibly a dress with a bodice, made from curtains.

Might be seen as milk maid wench, I think his yodelling might go stratospheric.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 31/05/2025 14:51

BunnyLake · 31/05/2025 09:21

Or wedding night.

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The image I have 🤣

BangersAndGnash · 31/05/2025 10:26

Go on another date, turn up in a full Heidi outfit.
Or possibly a dress with a bodice, made from curtains.

Onlyharmony · 31/05/2025 10:21

I think I would have walked out of there. I hate being embarrassed! 😫 Nope nopity nope, bye!

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 31/05/2025 09:52

I’d find it funny, you didn’t. He’s obviously the type of person who doesn’t give a fuck, while you have too many fucks to give. You’re not compatible and it’s best to end it now.

shoelady2 · 31/05/2025 09:51

I would actually find that pretty funny. It certainly wouldn’t put me off him unless he was a complete exhibitionist who did that sort of thing all the time.