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2nd Date, he embarrassed me in a restaurant

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RTooDeeTo · 30/05/2025 19:42

Am I over reacting here? I suspect I might be.

1st date went well, 2nd date today. We went for for late/early dinner. nice restaurant. We got talking about Austria, Switzerland etc and he said “I can yodel”. I just laughed so he said “I can show you?” So I laughed again and said “in the middle of a restaurant?”

He then started yodelling loudly. I swear everyone turned around and looked at us. I’m normally pretty passive and would usually just quietly die inside but on this occasion I was beyond embarrassed, absolutely mortified and snapped “Shush!”

He laughed and said “what?” So I said “seriously? We’re in the middle of a restaurant”. He said sorry (whilst still laughing) and tried to change the subject but I couldn’t get past it. Who does that?

I don’t like being centre of attention and yes I embarrass easy. I ended up going home early as I just couldn’t stop thinking about it. He’s messaged me since asking if everything is ok, I don’t think he’s actually associating my change in mood to the yodelling incident!! Making me think maybe I’m over reacting??

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SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 04/06/2025 19:45

Dear me

How embarassing. Obviously he really fanncies himself and lackss social awareness. Who dies he think he is? William Tell

Sorry. But that is the sort of thing Males on night outs and stag parties dowhen they are well oiled. Usually, wfter about 6 pints of strong lager

I think l would have been very near to walking out of the restaurant. What a knob!!

Look further a field for a more mature man. My dear

👎📣🎶🏹🔨

RenoDakota · 01/06/2025 23:11

This is hilarious and would fit right in to the 'ick' threads that often pop up on here!

Dontsayyouloveme · 01/06/2025 23:05

nah.. it’s called decorum and it doesn’t sound like he has any imo

Unicorndreams24 · 01/06/2025 23:04

I would laugh tbh however it would give me the Ick 🤮. I wouldn’t be attracted to them after that. It feels like he’s been waiting for his moment to do this yodelling 🤣

TheCoralMoose · 01/06/2025 22:59

LOL. I remember a joke from childhood.

Knock knock who's there, little old lady, little old lady who, i didnt know you could yodel.

363838dhdi · 01/06/2025 21:32

Yeah I don't think I could move past that. Someone with such low social inhibitions is bound to repeatedly do wacky shit which will embarrass you. Somewhere out there will be some equally odd girl who finds things like that endearing or funny but you're completely reasonable to accept that isn't you.

TwistedWonder · 01/06/2025 21:29

BlueEyedBogWitch · 01/06/2025 17:22

That’s what I was thinking. I can’t stand people who broadcast themselves everywhere.

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Ditto. They’re do ‘look at meeeee I’m so crazy’ when in reality they’re usually self obsessed tedious dullard one trick ponies.

BunnyLake · 01/06/2025 18:14

BlueEyedBogWitch · 01/06/2025 17:22

That’s what I was thinking. I can’t stand people who broadcast themselves everywhere.

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Those saying he sounds like a laugh are not thinking about the other diners, who are not on a date with him. They are most likely going to be irritated. I still think if he was otherwise fine then he deserves a second chance, but only a second one, no third chances. One more strike and he’s out otherwise OP will find herself lumbered with one of those tedious ‘I’m mad me’ characters.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 01/06/2025 17:59

BunnyLake · 01/06/2025 15:04

Thing is, whether you find it funny or not on a date, would anyone want to hear someone in a restaurant yodelling? I wouldn’t (unless I’d gone to a Swiss theme night). I’d be asking staff to shut him up.

I’ve actually lived in Switzerland and no one was yodelling in restaurants.

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I mean… now that I know it’s an option…Grin

BlueEyedBogWitch · 01/06/2025 17:22

BunnyLake · 01/06/2025 15:04

Thing is, whether you find it funny or not on a date, would anyone want to hear someone in a restaurant yodelling? I wouldn’t (unless I’d gone to a Swiss theme night). I’d be asking staff to shut him up.

I’ve actually lived in Switzerland and no one was yodelling in restaurants.

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That’s what I was thinking. I can’t stand people who broadcast themselves everywhere.

BunnyLake · 01/06/2025 15:04

Thing is, whether you find it funny or not on a date, would anyone want to hear someone in a restaurant yodelling? I wouldn’t (unless I’d gone to a Swiss theme night). I’d be asking staff to shut him up.

I’ve actually lived in Switzerland and no one was yodelling in restaurants.

Bleachedlevis · 01/06/2025 15:03

TheHillsIsLonely · 01/06/2025 14:13

Interesting that the OP has not come back after starting the thread. Possibly a phantom yodeller.

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TheHillsIsLonely · 01/06/2025 14:13

Interesting that the OP has not come back after starting the thread. Possibly a phantom yodeller.

Vitrolinsanity · 01/06/2025 11:48

asrl78 · 31/05/2025 20:17

He is not from SE England is he, where in my experience situational awareness is dreadful?

Granted it’s a bit crowded down here, but we do know we aren’t in the Swiss Alps.

BrickBiscuit · 01/06/2025 07:42

Evilspiritgin · 01/06/2025 00:43

Add the fact she more or less gave him the go ahead,

she laughed then he said I can show you, then she said in the restaurant!!!

what did she expect to happen,

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Not so. The difference is in the punctuation.

Sadworld23 · 01/06/2025 07:08

Voted YANBU as I think its reasonable to be embarrassed by this.
He sounds like the sort of chap that enjoys that type if attention and therefore he's probably not for you.
He's not a bad person for it, but attention seekers aren't everyone's cup of tea.

Londonwriter · 01/06/2025 03:21

You're not compatible...

I'd be in hysterics, personally. If I were single right now, I'd be asking for this man's phone number.

It's not your thing, evidently, OP and, thus, move on, move on... :)

Blackkittenfluff · 01/06/2025 03:20

I'd block and delete.

If he's like that in public, what on earth is he like in private?
Doesn't mind embarrassing you either.

Some people shouldn't be allowed outside.

JHound · 01/06/2025 02:50

He would never see me again.

StuckUpPrincess · 01/06/2025 02:34

PlainJaneBrain · 31/05/2025 19:19

Give him another chance, take him out and give him your best whale call impression!😶

LMAO! That's a v. funny reply!

JMSA · 01/06/2025 02:15

This thread has given me the giggles even though I’d be mortified 😄

nomas · 01/06/2025 01:11

Evilspiritgin · 01/06/2025 00:43

Add the fact she more or less gave him the go ahead,

she laughed then he said I can show you, then she said in the restaurant!!!

what did she expect to happen,

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She didn’t give him the go ahead, how ridiculous. She would have thought he was joking, like
most people. She barely knows this man, how was she to know he would actually yodel when he said he would.

Evilspiritgin · 01/06/2025 00:43

lightslittle · 30/05/2025 20:17

I think it’s an overreaction.

I would flip in round - he didn’t embarrass you, you felt embarrassed by something he did. Might mean you’re not compatible and that’s fine.

I would be irritated he had disturbed other diners, as I think that’s a bit rude but also I like it when someone doesn’t care what people think about them!

Add the fact she more or less gave him the go ahead,

she laughed then he said I can show you, then she said in the restaurant!!!

what did she expect to happen,

nomas · 01/06/2025 00:36

Anna1mac · 01/06/2025 00:31

Ach, who cares. Actually, nobody. So there's your answer. Get over it. Maybe date somebody from the church, who wears starched shirts and corduroy trousers.

When’s the last time you had a date where they yodelled in a restaurant?

Anna1mac · 01/06/2025 00:31

Ach, who cares. Actually, nobody. So there's your answer. Get over it. Maybe date somebody from the church, who wears starched shirts and corduroy trousers.

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