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to find this rude…

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curlygirlietwirly · 30/05/2025 16:10

Our new neighbours have a child who my son plays with outside in the communal garden. Today the mum came to ask me something, my son opened the door (he’s almost 12) and shouted for me that Nadia (fake name) was at the door. By the time I’d got to the hallway, she was inside my home almost in my lounge!! She entered my home without being invited and I felt really uncomfortable, as I’ve only met her once before shortly after they moved in a few weeks ago…
Am I BU to find this rude???

If so, advice on how to tackle this!?!?

OP posts:
toomuchfaff · 30/05/2025 16:19

It's your issue to teach your child how to answer a door and what to do in each scenario (stranger, known, salesman, cold caller).

Its also up to you to determine if they child is knowledgeable enough to handle the responsibility of answering the door.

Its not the responsibility of the person knocking on your door to know your boundaries. The issue lies with you.

CorrectionCentre · 30/05/2025 16:18

I'd find that rude.

Bellaboo01 · 30/05/2025 16:17

I personally wouldnt find this rude.

I suppose it depends on the context though. Why did she come round? Why did you feel uncomfortable?

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 30/05/2025 16:17

If so, advice on how to tackle this!?!

Tackle what, your disproportionate response?

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 30/05/2025 16:16

Meh. It's not as if she opened the door herself and walked in. Your son opened the door. I mean, you could argue that it's a teensy bit cheeky, but not to the point that you need to 'tackle' it.

Nicebottleofred · 30/05/2025 16:15

pikkumyy77 · 30/05/2025 16:13

You might consider that it would have been rude of your son to leave the mother if a playmate outside as though she were an unwanted door to door salesman.

Also this. You’d be admonished for rudeness “don’t leave Mary standing on the doorstep!”

Nicebottleofred · 30/05/2025 16:15

I don’t think that’s rude, if a child you know opens the door you go in and shut the door behind you so the child is not hanging around the open doorway.

pikkumyy77 · 30/05/2025 16:13

You might consider that it would have been rude of your son to leave the mother if a playmate outside as though she were an unwanted door to door salesman.

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