I've come to breakfast on my own

Too hungry to wait half an hour?

I wouldn't call them rude. It was a loose plan and they told you they weren't ready and would skip it. You should have just texted at 9 or whenever you were hungry saying 'I'm going down now to breakfast. Hopefully see you there'. Then just start eating and if they don't come then no problem.

It sounded like lunch was an option so they were probably hoping to catch up with you then.

I would have gone when you were ready at 9.and then join them.for a brew if they were.around before breakfast finished ot join for lunch if they were.up late - and just enjoyed chilling in my room post breaky before checkout

Sorry OP you are unreasonable. You planned for breakfast OR lunch if up late. They were probably thinking that’s fine we can do lunch but you can’t do lunch as you need to get home? Surely that’s on you then for saying you can do lunch even though you can’t?

Nobody is being rude. You wanted an early breakfast and they wanted a lie in. I personally would kill for a lie in at the moment!!!

You both spent time together last night, so it’s not a huge deal if you don’t catch up again today. Just tell them you’re heading off, you had a lovely evening and will be in touch to arrange another fun night out soon.

What have they done wrong?
"Planned to have breakfast together or lunch if up late. Loose plan"

They got up late, so it's lunch together.

They haven't been rude at all.

Neither would I.

Having a lie in after a wedding to being lazy is a bit of a leap! Most likely someone's only opportunity for a lie in a long time.

I would more than likely be up early and want breakfast myself but I totally get others wouldn't and I would have happily eaten myself and left others to it

No one was rude

Don't jump to a conclusion that they didn't want your company. That way lies insecurity.
Simply different personalities to you, that's all. You the early bird, they'd rather sleep in.
When you've packed, knock on their door, so much nicer than a text, explain regrettably you have to leave for your pets, lovely seeing them etc.

No, you’re being sensible. Having to wait around for other people is the main reason I don’t go on holiday with friends……….PITA!

I would send a pleasant message. 'Taken full advantage of the buffet breakfast and am stuffed! Won't need to eat now until at least 9pm. Have a safe journey home. Was lovely seeing you.' And then leave.

Just message them ….I need to get home to feed my pets so I’m setting off, see you soon.
Job done.

It was a casual arrangement. But by 10 your friends could have said they weren't going to make breakfast. If you want yo go home just do that. You've waited around long enough.

You couldn’t wait as you were really hungry. They didn’t want to go for breakfast as they were really tired. Six of one, half dozen of another. No biggie. They were hungover wedding guests who didn’t make breakfast. Happens all the time.

Is this more about them being invited to whole day and you not? You seem to be trying to "other" yourself.

I agree with pp. If they were sleeping late then lunch should have been assumed. I know it would be annoying as you wouldn't be hungry but honestly the decision should have been made by 9.30 when clearly you were ready way before them. You could have had a light breakfast and been ready for lunch. If you never intended to stay for lunch as you need to get home then you should have said from the start.

What are you on about?

Of course it's rude if you leave now without proper explanation. However if you leave a msg explaining you were up early and were tired and wanted to get home, I'm sure they will understand. Especially if you are polite and apologetic, which you ought to be because YOU are the one changing plans. That said, If they have the same mindset as you they might see it differently!

I think the real issue here is that 2 friends have been invited to a whole wedding and 1 has only been invited to the evening do. It means that you will be separate to the main event. Unless your 2 friends made concrete plans to spend time with you, it was inevitable that you'd be alone. I probably wouldn't have gone tbh. Two tier weddings are not great if it means separating friend groups.

I can’t be bothered with lazy people so I’m your shoes I would have had breakfast and left.

Sounds fine to me. I need to eat when I get up so wouldn't hang around. Just meet for lunch like you discussed.

You are over-thinking this. That must be exhausting for you. No one is rude. Everyone has agency. Did you all have a great time at the wedding - why not stay to chat about it with your friends - try to be sociable - it will mak you feel better. Are you a little hungover and paranoid?

I have some sympathy but if you leave before lunch then you're the one reneging on the plan, not them.

Arguably lunch with friends is a great use of a day off, not a waste. Going home without seeing them would be the waste. But your call.

It was a loose arrangement, they are having a morning after the night before, hardly unusual after a wedding, don’t take it so personally.

Of course it’s ok to go home now if that’s what you want to do. Again, loose arrangement. Just send them a cheery message and go.

Planned to have breakfast together or lunch if up late

So it was anticipated that some of you might be up late and in that case you’d do lunch instead?

I think it would be a bit rude to leave now tbh. Not rude at all to have breakfast without them obviously, but why leave now if the plan was to have lunch together?

If it’s not convenient to stay for lunch, then you could’ve said that yesterday and they probably would’ve made more effort to be up for breakfast - but they thought they could see you at lunch so enjoyed a lie in.