I've come to breakfast on my own

I think you're a bit rude, and you shouldn't have made plans to meet them for lunch if you weren't up for it. It would have seemed obvious to me that you should have texted at 9.20 to say "off to breakfast, if I don't see you there we'll catch up at lunch" and you should have had a light breakfast, knowing you'd meet up for lunch later.

You've basically chosen to eat breakfast at a time and of a quantity which means you'll need to bail on the lunch plans.

@DeSoleil

its a wedding! Lots of drinking and dancing, people letting their hair down, why should they be up early the next day?!

It’s the day after a wedding OP! Lots of drinking and dancing…who wants to be up the next day at 8am! Chill!
oh and get someone to feed your pets so you can have a day with your mates 😀 meet them for lunch - obviously you can just get a drink while they eat.

Sounds like you are the one at fault, tbh. It was agreed breakfast or lunch. You then tried to move the goalposts to suit yourself. Why agree to an “or lunch,” if what you mean is that you will wake everyone up and tell them you expect them all to entertain you at breakfast and actually have no intention of staying for lunch, because you have pets to feed?

as it was not a firm arrangement I would think it only fair you press on with your day.

You do you OP. Get off home and send a pleasant, non confrontational message to both saying sorry to have missed u, but got to dash as have stuff to do.

Catch up soon….love

Can’t abear all the primadonnerish friendship angst.

They can like it or lump it given morning arrangements were “loose”

Lonelydave
Not being unreasonable at all, they made plans, they broke them, you have other things to do
Which plan was broken?

If the op is this doting pet owner she wouldn't leave them alone. Her staying an extra hour or two should be okay or else why bring it up unless she's being difficult.

You said there was only a loose plan and it was for either breakfast or lunch 'if up late'. They haven't done anything contrary to the loose plan. You woke them up, they said they weren't ready. They haven't been rude. The one who hasn't replied is probably in the shower or something.

If you want to go home, that's fine - just send them a nice message saying you've had a big breakfast so probably won't need lunch now and are going to get off home to sort your pets out and wish them a nice day.

I think a lot of people would want a lie-in after a wedding to be honest! I would absolutely not have been up at 8am if I'd been at a wedding reception the night before. I'd probably be hungover and would want to make the most of a comfy hotel bed and a nice shower.

I can’t be bothered with lazy people so I’m your shoes I would have had breakfast and left
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No plans were broken - they’d made loose plans to have breakfast or lunch if they slept late.

You had a lose plan for maybe breakfast or lunch; nothing set. So, you get up and do your own thing and if it works out then you meet but if not, then you don’t. They haven’t been rude to you. Do you usually look for fault or cause drama? Actually thinking your friends have done something wrong, and then making up a scenario in which they have purposely tried to cut you out to go without you, when no one has done anything…it makes sense why they got a full day invite and you got an evening reception invite.

They've spent the whole day at a wedding, so must be shattered.

Loose plans are exactly that - loose.

Who was going to feed the pets when you agreed to a possible lunch instead of breakfast?

Where does it say they were wasted?
Maybe they just want a lie in and a bit of peace away from home / kids/ husbands or anything

Nah, your pets are more important than staying an extra couple of hours to see your friends. You most probably came across as rude and unsociable. This explains why you wasn't invited for the whole day.
Who was looking after your pets?
Can't they feed them if you had a pet sitter?

YANBU to leave if you want but your plans were breakfast OR lunch so it’s perfectly okay for them to have had a lie-in.

Not being unreasonable at all, they made plans, they broke them, you have other things to do.
If they were that wasted last night, what will they be like for driving this morning/afternoon?

I've been in this situation many a time, I always make it down for breakfast and find a nice glass of fizz perfect with a full english!

If you needed to get home why didn't you say?

They're hung over and having a lie in, no firm plans were in place. I wouldn't have waited at all if I was hungry tbh. You shouldn't have agreed to breakfast or lunch if you needed to rush home before lunch. It's a total non event.

There are certain friendship groups full of angst and tension where this sort of thing would be the subject of snidey pass agg comments for months if not years “well we said to Bianca we’d meet for lunch but she stormed off home” etc.
I have been in them. You second guess yourself, walk on eggshells, bitch and gossip yourself eventually. You forget that friends are supposed to make you feel happy and good and supported and start to despise people who are your “best friends”
Other friendship groups, things are easy, happy, breezy. Meet for breakfast or don’t, no hidden agenda.
Sounds like you’re in the first type of group with these women. It’s horrible, I feel for you. Get out!

I honestly don’t know how some people get through life. This is an absolute non issue

You said yourself, it was a very vague plan to the extent you didn't specify what meal you were even meeting for let alone what time!

If you wanted to meet for breakfast you should have just said that but given the plan was for breakfast OR lunch there's nothing wrong with them aiming for lunch. Although I would have thought they'd have to have checked out before then!

It sounds like you guys loosely said breakfast or lunch… but you need to get home to feed your pets so therefore couldn’t actually do lunch. They took the opportunity to have a longer sleep and content to miss breakfast.

I think it is rude if you leave. The plan was to meet for breakfast or lunch if you were up late. You could have just had coffee and a slice of toast followed by a light lunch or breakfast then coffee and maybe a slice of cake for lunch.

I wouldn't wait half an hour tbh, they are hungover, enjoying a lay down or both. Not an issue.
YANBU