I've come to breakfast on my own

Yes. So do I. I also manage to do it without calling large groups of people fucking weird

No one is in the wrong here, you wanted to go for breakfast, they wanted a lie in. Really not an issue.

You are overthinking this.. go enjoy breakfast whenever you want it. When they get up and have brunch, join them for a coffee!/brunch if you are hungry. In meantime enjoy relaxing in hotel, read a book, take a bath etc.

Why did you make loose lunch plans if you had no intention of staying for lunch?

It's fine for you to have ended up getting up earlier and going for breakfast but they haven't been rude at all. They just decided to sleep in and have lunch instead of breakfast - as was loosely agreed if they didn't get up.

I bet it must be a zoo in your house 😂. My partner did some work in a woman's house and she owned cats or dogs or both and he said "there was no animal smells in her house". I do like animals but not everyone is cut out to actually care and look after them properly. They are huge responsibility.

I'd have had breakfast as soon as I woke up. Then coffee and a small plate with them. I've never been able, or wanted to stick to these types of timings when it's the morning after. They haven't been rude, it was a loose plan. You didn't go just to have breakfast with them. It's their time to chill and be off work, as well.

I don't care if they do or don't I don't live my life to other people's expectations only my own.

i own dogs and cats

Just leave when you want. You don't owe it to them to wait around.

Go.

Don't say that you might get told off for being snidey. I've seen more posts saying the same thing but me calling her difficult is snidey. Maybe she owns dogs or cats.

Yes. I imagine they think highly of you too.

Op you sound like a difficult friend

It was a loose plan. No need to overthink it.

They'd already said they might not make breakfast. They'd said they'd meet for either breakfast or lunch. How is it rude to not be at something you'd already agreed you might not be at?

Sorry, I think pet owners are weird. I take it back they are fucking weird. I've never met a sensible or reasonable pet owner. All or nothing it's bizarre.

It was breakfast or lunch, depending on what time everyone was up and ready.

You were the only one up and ready at breakfast. So you can't have breakfast with the others, because they're not up.

So, the 'or lunch' is now 'definitely lunch'.

But you've changed this by eating breakfast without them, and heading home.

If it were me,if I was wasting away and couldn't wait a couple of more hours to eat, I'd have just had some toast or something small so that I was able to still eat lunch with them.

It's you who changed the scenario.

I am also confused as to why you agreed to lunch, as it sounds as if you definitely wanted breakfast as wanted to go home earlier than lunch?

Why not say last night 'If you're up I'll have breakfast with you, but I won't be able to stay much later than that so can't join for lunch'.

That might have even changed their plans-they may have made sure they could be up for breakfast with you. They expected you to be okay with either meal, because you said you were.

You don't have to be a doting pet owner to feed them, it's also ok to leave them alone for a night. No need for snideness at being difficult either.

I think if you have agreed to an “or lunch,” it is reasonable to assume you are happy to stay at the hotel past lunchtime. It is therefore a bit rude to disappear before lunch.

I think if you have agreed to an “or lunch,” it is reasonable to assume you are happy to stay at the hotel past lunchtime. It is therefore a bit rude to disappear before lunch.

They were rude and should have told you they wouldn’t make breakfast.

There is no way I would have waited until 10.30. I wouldn’t miss out on hot fresh food and would have gone down by 9.30.

I would just go home, don’t even tell them you’re leaving.

I think if there was just a loose plan for either breakfast or lunch they haven't been rude, they've just slept late and assumed the plan defaulted to lunch.

I think YABU but I personally am very rigid and so would probably also feel that they're being rude because they didn't care to cement in plans and adhere to them, they were happy to be loosey goosey.

That's just not my vibe, and it's taken me a long time to accept that different people are OK with go with the flow type plans when I am not.

I think you can still leave though and just say you're sorry, you've had to leave, but let's plan to do lunch some other time as you'd still like to catch up and thanks for a great night.

Nobody agreed to meet up for breakfast - they agreed either to meet up for breakfast or to meet up for lunch if they were up too late for breakfast. The OP is the rude one for expecting them all to get up for breakfast regardless. The arrangement implied they might be too tired to get up in time for breakfast and it is not reasonable to expect someone to get out of the shower to answer their phone.

Were you meant to be sharing a lift back?

It doesn't, but if there is no communication when you have made an arrangement to meet for breakfast, then they are either

not friends
or something else has happened.

If you are just after a lie in, then why on earth is there no answer from the phone and no messages sent?

Politeness costs nothing