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To quit holidays with a socially anxious child

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Peachsunrise · 29/05/2025 21:43

My dd (11) has extreme social anxiety (diagnosed autism). She has always struggled with busy or loud places and people she doesn't know. But this last year it has got so extreme that she constantly thinks people are staring at her, giving her dirty looks or whispering about her.
We are on the last day of a 2 week holiday and it has been mostly depressing because she rarely wants to leave our room and on the few occasions we convinced her to she made the outing so miserable by moaning the whole time.
We are thinking now that there was no point going on holiday as she can play roblox all day in her room at home and we aren't forced to sit in a hotel room/ cabin only getting to go out seperately while the other stays with her.
We are doing all we can think of to help her with her social anxiety Inc counselling but aibu to accept holidays abroad are a waste of money for the foreseeable future?
Anyone had a similar issue and found something that works?

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Peachsunrise · 29/05/2025 21:58

Olderbeforemytime · 29/05/2025 21:53

What about a private villia?

We thought of that but my husband feels he'd still feel trapped not ever being able to leave and see the area we are staying in.

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Sassysoonwins · 29/05/2025 21:57

Private villa all the way. My autistic son did not cope well with the expectations of a hotel with the loud busy mealtime and pool full of kids and occasional music. I don't like all the cooking and cleaning but it is a lot less stressful. If he wants to hide in his room with a tablet that's fine, the rest of us can play in the pool etc.

Olderbeforemytime · 29/05/2025 21:53

What about a private villia?

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