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To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:22

I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/06/2025 21:07

Someone rolls out of bed wearing their pjs to deliver their kids to school, rocks up at the breakfast buffet in pjs or does their shopping in pj's and this is supposed to be some heroic act as is being made out? I don't think so.

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OonaStubbs · 02/06/2025 21:06

XenoBitch · 02/06/2025 20:59

How does it affect you? Someone is out and they are clothed. Their clothing might not be to your liking/taste, but you can look away and get on with your day. It is that easy.

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Where do you draw the line though? Clothing with terrible swearing on it? People in fancy dress in KKK robes? Mankinis? There has to be a line drawn somewhere.

XenoBitch · 02/06/2025 21:06

BlueyNeedsToFuckOff · 02/06/2025 21:04

I’d prefer to see someone in PJs than the current trend for skirts so short you can see someone’s arse cheeks in the inevitable thong. But it’s easy enough to avert your eyes if you don’t want to see it.

Or those scrunch bum leggings, especially the nude colour ones. At first glance, it looks like the wearer is naked from the waist down.

BlueyNeedsToFuckOff · 02/06/2025 21:04

I’d prefer to see someone in PJs than the current trend for skirts so short you can see someone’s arse cheeks in the inevitable thong. But it’s easy enough to avert your eyes if you don’t want to see it.

XenoBitch · 02/06/2025 20:59

OonaStubbs · 02/06/2025 20:57

Surely there are "day" clothes that are just as easy to put on/take off as pyjamas?

How does it affect you? Someone is out and they are clothed. Their clothing might not be to your liking/taste, but you can look away and get on with your day. It is that easy.

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 02/06/2025 20:58

OonaStubbs · 02/06/2025 20:57

Surely there are "day" clothes that are just as easy to put on/take off as pyjamas?

It’s like Groundhog Day on here 😁

OonaStubbs · 02/06/2025 20:57

Surely there are "day" clothes that are just as easy to put on/take off as pyjamas?

XenoBitch · 02/06/2025 20:43

OonaStubbs · 02/06/2025 20:39

If it offends people, it is causing harm to people.

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I have worn PJs in public because I struggle with my mental health.
Judging me and being obvious about it, causes me more harm than the seemingly eye burning vision of me in my PJs outside my home.
And the posters on here who have also explained why they are not in "day" clothing when out is due to various disabilities.
You can just not look at us, and get on with your day.

Asdada · 02/06/2025 20:41

OonaStubbs · 02/06/2025 20:39

If it offends people, it is causing harm to people.

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It’s like the broken window theory in 1980s New York. If wearing PJs in public becomes acceptable what next?

OonaStubbs · 02/06/2025 20:39

XenoBitch · 02/06/2025 20:27

Someone wearing PJs in public is not causing anyone any harm. If it is causing you harm, then get some therapy as that is not healthy. Must be really exhausting to be thinking about such things all the time.

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If it offends people, it is causing harm to people.

XenoBitch · 02/06/2025 20:27

YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/06/2025 20:24

Do you mean that judging should no longer take place? Like judging someone for rape and condemning them so they can no longer commit any harm?

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Someone wearing PJs in public is not causing anyone any harm. If it is causing you harm, then get some therapy as that is not healthy. Must be really exhausting to be thinking about such things all the time.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/06/2025 20:25

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 02/06/2025 19:45

I mean it's an example.

There are many many bigger things in the world to worry about than whether someone is wearing pyjamas.

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Yeah but this thread is about wearing pjs in public.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/06/2025 20:24

Dangermoo · 02/06/2025 19:45

I think this forum is terrible for judging, full stop.

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Do you mean that judging should no longer take place? Like judging someone for rape and condemning them so they can no longer commit any harm?

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Dangermoo · 02/06/2025 19:45

XenoBitch · 02/06/2025 19:37

I think judging people for something that is harmless, is more of an issue. Judging can turn onto something more extreme.

I mean, Sophie Lancaster was killed because some twats didn't like what she was wearing.

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I think this forum is terrible for judging, full stop.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 02/06/2025 19:45

YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/06/2025 19:33

That's not what this thread is about. Israel-Palestine that way>>>>>>>>

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I mean it's an example.

There are many many bigger things in the world to worry about than whether someone is wearing pyjamas.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/06/2025 19:38

By the way, my Dad was a postman. I'm afraid I'm not from the middle classes as has been suggested but from the rather conservative working class who had very high standards of dress and decorum.

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XenoBitch · 02/06/2025 19:37

YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/06/2025 19:35

The crime of contributing to social breakdown.

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I think judging people for something that is harmless, is more of an issue. Judging can turn onto something more extreme.

I mean, Sophie Lancaster was killed because some twats didn't like what she was wearing.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/06/2025 19:35

XenoBitch · 02/06/2025 19:27

What crime are they committing?

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The crime of contributing to social breakdown.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/06/2025 19:33

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 02/06/2025 19:13

It means there's bigger things to worry about in the world than what someone else is wearing.

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That's not what this thread is about. Israel-Palestine that way>>>>>>>>

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XenoBitch · 02/06/2025 19:27

OonaStubbs · 02/06/2025 19:21

The government needs to crack down on it. People should not be able to walk about in pyjamas. It is not appropriate.

What crime are they committing?

OonaStubbs · 02/06/2025 19:21

The government needs to crack down on it. People should not be able to walk about in pyjamas. It is not appropriate.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 02/06/2025 19:13

YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/06/2025 18:20

Hard to see what the war in Gaza has to do with people not bothered to dress and shower to go to the shops or to the breakfast buffet.

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It means there's bigger things to worry about in the world than what someone else is wearing.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/06/2025 18:20

looselegs · 02/06/2025 10:15

For the record I've never taken my kids to school in pj's.
But some people do. You don't know what's going on in their households in the morning....they may have an autistic child who they're struggling to get ready for school so run out of time for themselves, or a school refuser, or a baby that's just vomited milk over itself.....anything like that can have a knock on effect very quickly.
When there are kids being killed by bombs in Gaza, then people in pj's are not something I worry about...

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Hard to see what the war in Gaza has to do with people not bothered to dress and shower to go to the shops or to the breakfast buffet.

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looselegs · 02/06/2025 10:15

Daybrake · 31/05/2025 10:43

This is bare minimum you don’t deserve any kudos for getting your child to school.

We all pay taxes so all children have the opportunity to get an education. This also enables parents to work or get some time to do themselves or whatever they spend their day doing.

In some countries children - especially girls - don’t have that opportunity for an education . And a lot of parents really struggled with children at home during lockdown.

You should be grateful if anything, for being able to drop your kids off for 6 hours a day! not thinking you’ve achieved some great feat because you dropped off your kids in PJs.

Get changed, washed your face and do better. Raise your bar! Being slightly less worse than the strange guy in Tesco wearing swimming shorts is no flex either.

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For the record I've never taken my kids to school in pj's.
But some people do. You don't know what's going on in their households in the morning....they may have an autistic child who they're struggling to get ready for school so run out of time for themselves, or a school refuser, or a baby that's just vomited milk over itself.....anything like that can have a knock on effect very quickly.
When there are kids being killed by bombs in Gaza, then people in pj's are not something I worry about...

JazbayGrapes · 02/06/2025 09:22

OonaStubbs · 01/06/2025 21:00

I'm sure there'd be outrage amongst pyjama clad parents if teachers started turning up to school in pyjamas (and before anyone says it, on a normal, non-charity day).

Teachers go to WORK. Parents don't work in school.