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To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:22

I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

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6namechange3 · 29/05/2025 19:56

Doesn't bother me in the slightest, what's the difference in terms of covering your bits between pyjama's and joggers and a t shirt ( I sometimes sleep in a t shirt and joggers to add confusion)

BlueyNeedsToFuckOff · 29/05/2025 19:55

It’s just so basic and frankly looks smelly.

I don’t wear pyjamas to the supermarket but does it really matter if something LOOKS smelly, as long as it doesn’t SMELL smelly?

PermanentTemporary · 29/05/2025 19:55

Yup, agree 100%. Grim and slovenly. I pretty much never wear makeup and have a limited wardrobe but like most people I can tell the difference between day clothes and pyjamas.

pimplebum · 29/05/2025 19:54

“I'm just reporting hearsay about the Tesco and school run”

so misogynistic bollocks then!

ICouldHaveCheckedFirst · 29/05/2025 19:54

I just assume people wearing pj's in public are suffering from depression.

ithinkilikethislittlelife · 29/05/2025 19:53

I’m exactly the same as the OP. I get up earlier to wear reasonably smart (ironed but that’s another discussion) clothes. I have always showered and I put on my jewellery and some make up and then I wake my children for school. I feel fresh and ready for the day. On a weekend I may chill about in pjs with dh and the kids but by mid morning I’ve had enough and I’m in the shower and my routine begins. Pjs in shops is a real thing and personally I can’t bear it. It’s just so basic and frankly looks smelly.

Temporaryname158 · 29/05/2025 19:53

Laziness and I would ban it if owned an establishment that people turned up in PJ’s to

Stickortwigs · 29/05/2025 19:53

I saw it in a hotel for the first time recently. But she had Louis Vuitton stilettos as well so definitely can’t call that slovenly😀

GrouachMacbeth · 29/05/2025 19:52

We have two patients who come to the surgery on pjs. But it's ok, they have their dressing gowns on!

MiracleCures · 29/05/2025 19:52

I agree with you re the Hotel though. Surely if you don't want to get dressed then you order breakfast as room service?

itsbeenalongnight · 29/05/2025 19:51

I saw a family go to breakfast in PJs at a quality hotel in Manchester. It was so horrid. Vile. Ugh

BlueyNeedsToFuckOff · 29/05/2025 19:49

Personally, I don't go out unless I have make up on and am wearing jewellery and nice clothes. What's wrong with that?

That’s your choice, but make up and jewellery are certainly not needed to look presentable

RampantIvy · 29/05/2025 19:49

Lottapianos · 29/05/2025 19:25

Yes, you'll probably get flamed but I agree with you. It's absolutely grim behaviour. No one needs full make up and a blow dry if they don't want to, but pull on some clean tracky pants and a hoody or something

I am older and don't understand people who won't get dressed once they get out of bed.

I think it is lazy. It doesn't take long to throw on a few clothes.

I won't go as far as putting on make up, posh clothes and jewellery unless I am going to work, but I am blessed with good skin and dark eyes, lashes and brows anyway.

MoominMai · 29/05/2025 19:48

I quite like the idea of coming down to breakfast in a hotel wearing a lovely pair of PJs and a dressing gown. I think it would look cosy to just see people shuffling around sleepily munching on toast and sipping coffee. I usually get dressed as normal but will have my slippers on as I just can’t stand to have shoes on so early and especially when I’m having brekky - it’s so wrong to me! 😅

MiracleCures · 29/05/2025 19:47

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:28

How does a child feel being dropped off at school by a parent who can't even make an effort to look presentable. Personally, I don't go out unless I have make up on and am wearing jewellery and nice clothes. What's wrong with that?

Do men have to wear make up and jewellery too?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:47

Seems to be a lot of lazy parenting around. I wonder what dress codes they have in schools these days. I haven't been in teaching for a long time but I would say if you're sloppily dressed it sends a message to the children that you don't care about them. My students used to compliment me on my clothes and jewellery.

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Zanatdy · 29/05/2025 19:44

I just don’t understand it. Height of laziness when it takes 30 seconds to put some trousers on and zip a coat around your top half.

Longtimeloiterer · 29/05/2025 19:43

It's ignorant really wearing bed clothes outdoors and laziness for breakfast in a hotel.

saveforthat · 29/05/2025 19:41

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:28

How does a child feel being dropped off at school by a parent who can't even make an effort to look presentable. Personally, I don't go out unless I have make up on and am wearing jewellery and nice clothes. What's wrong with that?

Make up is a personal choice and IMHO a waste of time and money that the beauty industry has sold to some women. Going out in pajamas is just slovenly.

Nomorecoconutboosts · 29/05/2025 19:41

I was at a premier inn once, came down (dressed) for breakfast. There was some sort of school/young persons’ trip with teenagers and leaders/teachers. 20-30 of them.
all of them were in pjs, none of them were self aware they just stood in the way, blocking access to the food, loud behaviour, generally rude and inconsiderate. It made it worse having to keep getting past slightly sweaty bed headed people. It wasn’t early, it was around 9am. It takes - what - 2 minutes to replace pjs with day clothes, maybe 15 minutes if you include a quick shower?

Weirdwalk · 29/05/2025 19:39

Absolute slobs. Lazy and no self respect.

BobbyBiscuits · 29/05/2025 19:37

I don't care what strangers wear to the shops etc. If someone was in a thong only or had horrific BO then that's another story.
But as long as someone's clothed it's none of anyone else's concern.

But yeah, the ready meals look shite. I don't agree with them using their brand to sell naff food products. Everyone must assume they're from the same factory as Lidl etc and the people that make them are on min wage or zero hrs contracts or both and could barely feed their families by working in the factory.

Orangemintcream · 29/05/2025 19:37

It’s slovenly behaviour.

Just because people do it doesn’t mean it’s ok.

CandyLeBonBon · 29/05/2025 19:36

You’re comparing two different scenarios! Lots of people in hotels go to breakfast in their pjs! I don’t, but to each their own. Not really comparable to the school run or Tesco!

ExpressCheckout · 29/05/2025 19:36

Yep, agree with others who say it's grim. People food shopping in clothes they've obviously slept in 😷

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