To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

A few years ago, some schools had to send letters to the parents to tell them PJs were not suitable for the school run. Unfirtunately, it was Akso close to where I live…l So yes it has/is happening :(
And I’ve seen people in PJs in supermarkets too. Albeit it was a few years ago tbh.

Still makes me wonder how anyone would think it’s a good idea.
Im housebound. I rarely change into ‘normal clothes’. And I’m still uneasy at picking up parcels in my PJs. No way I’d go out like that unless I had no other choice!

I won’t even answer the door to a trades person in my PJ’s.

A hotel, yes I have noticed that.
I thought most supermarkets didn't allow pyjama wear. Never see it at the school either.

I honestly have never seen anyone wearing pjs on the school run, in a hotel or in the shops. Maybe I have but it doesn't even register on my radar as I quite frankly couldn't care less what others wear.

I'm quite in awe of your make up and jewelry though OP - how on earth do you find the time before school to do all that? I know it's probably a 'get up earlier' thing but life is too short.

We have parents mainly mums dropping their children at school in pj’s. This is often a small issue for them in what is very often in a very chaotic life.

I sometimes wish we still had the 'dress for dinner' culture.
Certain items of clothing were expected to be worn and you would be heavily judged if you were not dressed for the occasion.

When was this? I grew up in Spain and no one got dressed up specifically to go shopping.

It’s appalling. I have not seen it but like to kid myself that it’s an urban myth…

I think its absolute tramp behaviour. I always assume that person has poor MH and hasnt worked. Just dont believe anyone with any type of dignity can be happy to be seen in public like that.
You dont need to be dressed up fancy or have make up and hair done. But hygiene and looking presentable is a basic life skill, so if someone cant even be bothered with that then standards are very low.

PJ's are a bit much. I wouldn't want my children to go out of the house in PJ's, so why would I?

I don't however think you need make up and to look 'pristine'. Some jogging bottoms and a T-shirt are fine, and the only reason people think otherwise is a mix of classism and misogyny. Women don't owe the world prettiness and constantly nice clothes.

The only reason to feel like you need a full face of make up to go out is a direct result of patriarchy. Men don't have to get up earlier to put make up on, so neither do I.

Looking presentable (hair brushed, clean face, clean clothes) is a very basic requirement and is very different from the pressure to look 'nice'.

I personally don't care if you're out shopping alone at 9pm. It's different at a school as your child will care and you want to set an example.

School I do find a bit disrespectful. It’s basically telling the teachers you expect them to graft and teach your children all day whilst you slob about. And giving children the message they have to look smart and work but you can just rock up and then go back to bed. Disrespectful really. Other places I can’t see the harm unless someone stinks or looks indecent in some way. If it’s 2am and someone has gone to tesco to buy essentials then so what.

It's totally unnecessary to wear make up, jewellery or nice clothes in public, but wearing pyjamas or dressing gown in a shop is disgusting.
I'd never seen it in real life before, but I went into my local ( nice)village small Tesco a couple of days ago at 6pm and a young woman was wandering round with a fluffy dressing gown and slippers on, I did a double take as first of all I couldn't quite believe my eyes. I just wondered why she couldn't have thrown some actual clothes on. I assume she came from the very large new build estate that is being built on the outside of the village, it's got 30% social housing apparently, maybe that type of behaviour is acceptable amongst that group of people.
I know that a couple of years ago, in a large Tesco in the part of the nearest city where there's a huge traveller site and lots of social housing, the store put up notices specifically asking people not to go to the store in nightwear.

I’ve dropped my dc to school whilst in my pjs but I don’t get out of the car to drop them so no one knows to be fair 😅 If I had to get out of the car i wouldn’t do it…

It’s a bit slovenly isn’t it

If these are clothes that have actually been slept in then that’s skanky. If these are clean PJ’s for lounging then I have less of an issue with it. It’s not as if the only alternative is wearing a shirt and tie.

I wouldn’t do it but I can’t get worked up about it. In these WFH times, I do sometimes think - as I’m changing out of the navy blue Hush leggings and raglan tee that I slept in, into a nearly identical pair of Hush leggings and tee that is my WFH clothes - who the hell am I kidding?

Normally I would be really judgemental about it, but I also swore I'd never leave the house wearing leggings without a skirt to cover. Yet here I am, 2nd trimester, a bit ill, nothing fits, knackered, and so out I was yesterday in my longest jumper and leggings...

You may be right. People round here don't wear pyjamas in public.

Although I wouldn’t judge someone too harshly for wearing PJs in a shop because I have known people who have been in labour and stopped on the way to hospital etc and didn’t change out of their PJs.

If I saw someone at the school gates being in their pjs as a one off, I’d assume there was a reason rather than being lazy but if I saw them regularly then I’d think they were lazy.

I was going to vote YANBU because of course it’s lazy bastard behaviour to stroll around shops ect in pyjamas…
But then you brought being middle class into it, it’s twat behaviour for anyone doing it, rich , poor or inbetween.

The PJs in the hotel wouldn’t bother me but the others would.

All the moms I see on the school run are dashing to get to work , no pjs seen ever

ive worn pjs often to Tesco’s no one’s been harmed

I can genuinely say that, in all my many many years or school runs - in Essex if all places - I never once saw anyone in pyjamas. I am well travelled. Again, no breakfast pyjamas to report.