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To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:22

I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

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AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 29/05/2025 20:29

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My DH earns over £100k a year. Regularly does an entire day’s work in PJs. (Works from home, never needs to be on camera.)

Why the fuck shouldn’t he?

NorthernLoon · 29/05/2025 20:29

I don't think it's appropriate to wear PJs out of the house, and I do think it's disrespectful to teachers and schoolkids to wear them on the school run. But if the thread was about, say mini skirts or low cut tops, I'd be defending people's right to wear what they like. So perhaps I have a weird double standard here.
In any case, you're coming across very judgemental, with a very high opinion of yourself, OP. And I think that's a worse look than PJs.

Zebedee999 · 29/05/2025 20:28

Good grief 20% think it's ok to wear PJs in the supermarket etc.

I bet it correlates very well to the 26% of Brits that have tattoos.....

TheOriginalEmu · 29/05/2025 20:28

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Navyblueberries · 29/05/2025 20:28

I've never done tescos or breakfast in pyjamas but I admit I love it in winter sometimes when you can just put on a big coat and a hat for the school run. I've been known to do it wearing the tshirt I've slept in the night before and no bra. Can't get away with that in the spring/summer though.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 29/05/2025 20:26

I nearly got married in PJs. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 20:26

starrynight009 · 29/05/2025 20:17

There's one mum at our school who drops her son off at school in her pyjamas every single morning. I heard her laughing with another mum about it once, saying she had changed her pyjamas before coming out that day at least. I don't get it. If she has time to change her pyjamas, she has time to put some jeans and a jumper on! She is a very lazy parent though.

Seems like she's taking the p**ss.

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UnhappyHobbit · 29/05/2025 20:26

I am quite particular with indoor clothes and outdoor clothes. I always wonder if these people in pjs and slippers, then get back into their house and walk around dirtying their carpets and then in to their bed, bringing outside dirt and general peoples bacteria in their home and bed!?

Jellyrols · 29/05/2025 20:25

Have never seen this or heard of it in real life.

Dangermoo · 29/05/2025 20:24

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You're very judgemental!

polarsystem · 29/05/2025 20:24

Stickortwigs · 29/05/2025 19:53

I saw it in a hotel for the first time recently. But she had Louis Vuitton stilettos as well so definitely can’t call that slovenly😀

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Pyjamas with Louis stilettos ? Wow 😂😂

RampantIvy · 29/05/2025 20:24

I saw a family in pyjamas at breakfast in the Selsdon Park Hotel many years ago. They stood out from the other guests who were fully dressed, and I noticed a lot of people staring at them and commenting.

It was the first and only time I have seen hotel guests in pyjamas at breakfast.

I don't wear pyjamas in bed, and always get dressed when I get up. I hate staying in nightwear. It makes me feel lazy snd unmotivated and like I haven't started the day.

We have a lot of Teams meetings at work with the camera on so pyjamas are a no no.

HeronTwist · 29/05/2025 20:24

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:33

I'm just reporting hearsay about the Tesco and school run, though as I said I have seen the pj's in the Amsterdam Hotel. Another hotel I visited recently had a sign saying, please come to the breakfast area suitably attired. I would feel embarrassed to go out wearing my pjs 🙃

Ah, so you’re complaining about something you have no experience of, because it gives you something to get uppity and superior about? And you kind of like that feeling?

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Dangermoo · 29/05/2025 20:22

Fgfgfg · 29/05/2025 20:20

During COVID all our university interviews went online. I interviewed a number of people in their pjs and some were even in bed. Make an effort!
I offered a place to the lad who was interviewed in his bedroom and had gone to the effort of wearing a suit and tie - council house, poor background for anyone interested in judging his social class.

Aww bless him ❤️

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 20:20

Why women? Or are men ok to do this?

Dangermoo · 29/05/2025 20:20

DissDissOrDiss · 29/05/2025 20:15

Absolute HEIGHT of common!

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Pun intended I hope! Agree with you btw

Fgfgfg · 29/05/2025 20:20

During COVID all our university interviews went online. I interviewed a number of people in their pjs and some were even in bed. Make an effort!
I offered a place to the lad who was interviewed in his bedroom and had gone to the effort of wearing a suit and tie - council house, poor background for anyone interested in judging his social class.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 20:20

Basic decorum has gone out of the window it seems. Hotels and pubs are already clamping down on this. This lady i saw in the Amsterdam hotel seemed to be an entitled middle class woman and was going around the whole

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itsgettingweird · 29/05/2025 20:18

I think the hotel thing could be cultural.

I travel around Britain a lot as ds competes and I’ve been in plenty of travel lodge, premie inn and holiday inns where there have been European guests (adults and school groups) who go to breakfast in their PJs.

school run and shopping are different though.

Dangermoo · 29/05/2025 20:18

Somebody's full of themselves 🙄

starrynight009 · 29/05/2025 20:17

There's one mum at our school who drops her son off at school in her pyjamas every single morning. I heard her laughing with another mum about it once, saying she had changed her pyjamas before coming out that day at least. I don't get it. If she has time to change her pyjamas, she has time to put some jeans and a jumper on! She is a very lazy parent though.

suburburban · 29/05/2025 20:16

ThatsNotMyTeen · 29/05/2025 20:02

It’s a bit slovenly isn’t it

Yes definitely

DissDissOrDiss · 29/05/2025 20:15

Stickortwigs · 29/05/2025 19:53

I saw it in a hotel for the first time recently. But she had Louis Vuitton stilettos as well so definitely can’t call that slovenly😀

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Absolute HEIGHT of common!

Asdada · 29/05/2025 20:14

Saw it at a hotel in Blackpool at breakfast. These people did look like the scummiest of the scum though.