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To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:22

I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

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AnotherDayanotherNameChangeX · 29/05/2025 20:40

I saw a dad doing drop off at my kids nursery today, striped pyjama pants, dressing gown of doom, slippers and didn’t once look up from his phone

GravyBoatWars · 29/05/2025 20:40

I always think people who get upset and judgemental about what strangers wear must either have incredibly pathetic lives or character defects.

Caring about this is a choice. Find a hobby or do some work on yourself.

Nicole621 · 29/05/2025 20:40

I love the idea of going to breakfast in pjs, I have breakfast at home in pj's so why not? I wouldn't wear my slippers outside because I wouldn't wear outdoor footwear indoors. The pavement will get your slippers dirty, the air won't get your pj's dirty.

I'm glad that going out the door doesn't have to be a performance these days and that people aren't judged on what they wear - being comfortable is much more important to me than decorum (whatever that means it sounds very dated).
I would hate to be expected to slap on make up, jewellery, perfume and high heels everyday, the same would never be expected of men - so dated and misogynistic.

Ds works in software engineering and wears jeans and a hoodie, I wear comfy hiking shoes to work as I do a lot of walking, neither of us have any interest in superficial appearances. Maybe you're just very shallow?

I think you sound horrible OP to describe anyone as 'wrong in the head' - what a vile thing to say. I'd rather be scruffy than horrible.

Globules · 29/05/2025 20:40

I would love to go to hotel breakfast in my pjs.

I have been known to pull on a hoody and skirt over my nightie and whip them off when I get back to my room.

Hwi · 29/05/2025 20:40

You must have been properly brought up.

LoveFridaynight · 29/05/2025 20:40

Only ever saw one mum do this on the nursery run and she was sick with cancer. On good days she got dressed but very often would be in PJs and her coat.
For that reason I wouldn't judge but have never seen anyone else do this.

limecola · 29/05/2025 20:38

Yeah I don't think its cool to wear your night clothes out. How much effort is it to put on tracksuit bottoms and a t-shirt at least? People have no standards anymore.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 29/05/2025 20:37

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 20:33

Your DH works from home. I'm talking about people who venture out and drop their kids off at school.

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He drives DD to school. Nobody sees anything other than a t-shirt.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 20:37

Just can't believe the posters who think going out in Pj's is some kind of "uprising" against the Establishment 😅🤣

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TheCurious0range · 29/05/2025 20:35

I wouldn't wear pyjamas in any of those scenarios, but I don't think I'd bat an eye at a hotel breakfast. As long as they were covered. If staying in a hotel for work I will quite often shower then put on leggings/jeans and a jumper go down for breakfast then go back up to my room to do my hair and get ready for work.

Needmorelego · 29/05/2025 20:35

Oh the weekly PJs in public thread.
Yawn.

Hubblebubble · 29/05/2025 20:34

I often do pick up with hair still wet from the pool, i do sometimes worry i look dreadful, but I've got an ironman to train for and I'm on a tight schedule.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 20:33

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 29/05/2025 20:29

My DH earns over £100k a year. Regularly does an entire day’s work in PJs. (Works from home, never needs to be on camera.)

Why the fuck shouldn’t he?

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Your DH works from home. I'm talking about people who venture out and drop their kids off at school.

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Discombobble · 29/05/2025 20:32

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:28

How does a child feel being dropped off at school by a parent who can't even make an effort to look presentable. Personally, I don't go out unless I have make up on and am wearing jewellery and nice clothes. What's wrong with that?

Clean clothes and brushed hair, yes. Can’t see the need for makeup, jewellery and ‘nice clothes’ to go to Tesco!

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 29/05/2025 20:32

Springhassprungxx · 29/05/2025 20:31

Completely agree OP - used to work in a shop and we often said what on earth would the Victorians have thought! So lazy and doesn't set the tone for the day very well.

Why are you of the belief that Victorian values were in any way superior?!

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 29/05/2025 20:32

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 20:30

My question is: why do you not have even basic pride in yourself or care about your child? If you have no care for yourself, does this mean your child is neglected, unwashed and not suitably dressed?

ODFOD.

Springhassprungxx · 29/05/2025 20:31

Completely agree OP - used to work in a shop and we often said what on earth would the Victorians have thought! So lazy and doesn't set the tone for the day very well.

Shellianotwheels · 29/05/2025 20:31

Lazy classless behaviour.

MincePiesAndStilton · 29/05/2025 20:31

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:33

I'm just reporting hearsay about the Tesco and school run, though as I said I have seen the pj's in the Amsterdam Hotel. Another hotel I visited recently had a sign saying, please come to the breakfast area suitably attired. I would feel embarrassed to go out wearing my pjs 🙃

Maybe you need nicer PJs 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dangermoo · 29/05/2025 20:31

Zebedee999 · 29/05/2025 20:28

Good grief 20% think it's ok to wear PJs in the supermarket etc.

I bet it correlates very well to the 26% of Brits that have tattoos.....

I would have voted YANBU but I don't care for OP's manner and her judgemental tone. Too hectic in her posting style for my liking.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 29/05/2025 20:30

I have never done it, but I almost admire their nerve.

Tbh, if they’re covered up and not showing their arse etc, it doesn’t seem an issue to me. Better than the guys in shorts, sliders and no top you get in the summer!

Sauvin · 29/05/2025 20:30

The most irritated I’ve ever been on here was reading a thread about someone who went round to friends for a dinner party and the hosts were in their PJs. So many posters couldn’t see anything wrong with it!

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 20:30

My question is: why do you not have even basic pride in yourself or care about your child? If you have no care for yourself, does this mean your child is neglected, unwashed and not suitably dressed?

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Lovemybunnies · 29/05/2025 20:29

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:33

I'm just reporting hearsay about the Tesco and school run, though as I said I have seen the pj's in the Amsterdam Hotel. Another hotel I visited recently had a sign saying, please come to the breakfast area suitably attired. I would feel embarrassed to go out wearing my pjs 🙃

I have seen someone in pj’s and slippers in our local Waitrose and on the bus stop taking children to the school bus.

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